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Making men MEN again. The David Alliance will help you slay your giants.
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Thursday Jul 11, 2024
Thursday Jul 11, 2024
Garth Heckman
The David Alliance
TDAgiantslayer@gmail.com
BAM - watch them every Tuesday night on our Facebook page.
August Friday and Saturday 16th 17th End times conference at HillSpring Church sponsored by The David Alliance,
Paul was stoned, whipped, shipwrecked, imprisoned, robbed, killed… yeah killed, probably 3 times…
Paul was in ministry for 30 years
You read this above list and Paul on average had a major catastrophe every year.
Let me say this up front and I will keep saying it… a real man continually tests himself, his beliefs and his actions to see if he really is a real man…We say we are Xn’s but do our actions line up with scripture… look if you really want to love yourself examine yourself truthfully according the full the full context of scripture and adjust, change - call yourself out… if you want others to love you, then examine yourself according to your justifications. we must all practice this weekly if not daily.
**So What is the psychology behind the mindset of someone who can go through a life of trauma, problems, relationship turmoil, betrayal, death and still overcome? What made Paul Paul? What Godly characteristics do we see in Paul that made him a BAMF… a bad as man of faith.
Men who are overcomer’s show incredible resilience in the face of adversity. There isn't a single mindset, but most likely a combination of factors that contribute to Pauls strength and manliness:
- Challenge to Core Beliefs: Life has a way that can shatter a person's sense of safety and trust in the world. (PTSD is a real thing people) Overcoming this requires building, rebuilding and letting God govern those beliefs. Real Men may develop a stronger sense of self understanding in their faith in God, and a newfound appreciation for His safety and security as they go through each challenge.
What do I mean… I mean their core beliefs don’t keep them from pain or harm, but rather keep them going in the time of pain and harm. YOU SAY “GARTH WHATS THE POINT?” They expect this. They expect challenges… If you have a core belief.. say You believe in gravity… it will be tested! A man of God - a BAMF not only knows it, but will expect it… why well thats point #2
Wednesday Jul 10, 2024
Wednesday Jul 10, 2024
Garth Heckman
The David Alliance
TDAgiantslayer@gmail.com
BAM - watch them every Tuesday night on our Facebook page.
August Friday and Saturday 16th 17th End times conference at HillSpring Church sponsored by The David Alliance,
BAMF
Bad Ass Mutha Fudgamacallit.
Neil… BAMF Bless all my family
Bad Ass man of faith!
Paul… Why did Jesus call him, lead him, anoint him? Yes he was brilliant and highly educated… A crazy background… so a great testimony…
BUT HE WAS ALSO A BAD MAN…
2 Cor. 11:22 Are they Hebrews? So am I. Are they Israelites? So am I. Are they the seed of Abraham? So am I. 23 Are they ministers of Christ?—I speak as a fool—I am more: in labors more abundant, in stripes above measure, in prisons more frequently, in deaths often. 24 From the Jews five times I received forty stripes minus one. 25 Three times I was beaten with rods; once I was stoned; three times I was shipwrecked; a night and a day I have been in the deep; 26 in journeys often, in perils of waters, in perils of robbers, in perils of my own countrymen, in perils of the Gentiles, in perils in the city, in perils in the wilderness, in perils in the sea, in perils among false brethren; 27 in weariness and toil, in sleeplessness often, in hunger and thirst, in fastings often, in cold and nakedness— 28 besides the other things, what comes upon me daily: my deep concern for all the churches. 29 Who is weak, and I am not weak? Who is made to stumble, and I do not burn with indignation?
Acts 27 Paul gives the commanding officer orders… calls him out… Ballsy!
Acts 28:3 Paul gathered a bundle of sticks, and as he laid them on the fire, a viper, driven out by the heat, fastened itself to his hand. 4 When the islanders saw the creature hanging from his hand, they said to one another, “Surely this man is a murderer. Although he was saved from the sea, Justice has not allowed him to live.” 5 But Paul shook the creature off into the fire and suffered no ill effects.…
Paul wanted to go see Caesar… that is almost certain death.. he didn’t care.
And lets not forget who he was before he came to Christ… a hard cold killer for the Jews. He was the original Nazarene Ninja. Beheading followers of Jesus.
Look Pauls heart was changed and I am sure he was softened… but his personality his manliness was still in tact!
Monday Jul 08, 2024
Monday Jul 08, 2024
Garth Heckman
The David Alliance
TDAgiantslayer@gmail.com
BAM - watch them every Tuesday night on our Facebook page.
August Friday and Saturday 16th 17th End times conference at HillSpring Church sponsored by The David Alliance,
3 people you can’t help.
Those that are always right
Those that will not improve through personal learning and development
Those that will not self inspect regularly
Those that are always right
Think of King Saul…. Had the anointing and for some reason thought that he now knew everything… he was removed from office, but he still thought he knew everything right down to his death.
Here is a great daily self help growth question you should ask yourself every day just before bedtime… ask yourself “how was I wrong today and this week?”
If you truly want to grow you will ask yourself the hard questions and learn from them.
Those that will not improve through personal learning and development
If you are not willing to learn on your own, willing to study, willing to develop yourself… I can’t help you. When I used to teach guitar I would get to a point where I would explain to a parent… there are only so many ways I can try to teach your son or daughter how to play a C chord. They are not dumb, im not a bad teacher, they just refuse to practice and learn… and then I would fire myself as their teacher.
I only want to be around people who want to learn, develop and work hard… If thats not you, we can be friends… but you won’t get much of my time.
Those that will not self inspect regularly
Psalms 139:23-24 New Living Translation (NLT)
Search me, O God, and know my heart; test me and know my anxious thoughts. Point out anything in me that offends you, and lead me along the path of everlasting life.
I either want God to search me and tell me how awesome I am or to not search me at all because I don’t want to hear how I am failing him and sinning.
But ultimate holiness comes from asking God to shake the tree… hey sometimes when you want to grow you gotta taste it… know what I mean?
Here is an insight to how you can change these three things in your life…
Prov. 23:7 as a man thinks so shall he be… thats his future.
WHAT YOU THINK IS WHAT YOU ARE TELLING YOURSELF.
I find it ironic we would cut ties from someone who is always cutting us down… but we will allow it to go on for years in our ears…
Change the words you use and change your future, your output and friends. Start saying I’m building an empire, a legacy, a global movement etc.., Im not always right, but Im learning. I am beginning to see what God sees in me….
Sunday Jul 07, 2024
Sunday Jul 07, 2024
Garth Heckman
The David Alliance
The Bible doesn't provide a specific list of three reasons God wants you to succeed, but it does offer several themes that connect to achieving success in God's eyes. Here are three such themes:
1. Glorifying God Through Your Gifts:
- The Bible emphasizes using your God-given talents and abilities for good. Proverbs 18:16 says, "Skillful work brings profit, but chattering leads to poverty." Success achieved through using your gifts can bring honor to God.
2. Fulfilling Your Purpose:
- The Bible suggests God has a purpose for each life. Ephesians 2:10 says, "For we are God’s handiwork, created in Christ Jesus to do good works, which God prepared in advance for us to do." Success in fulfilling that purpose can be seen as achieving God's will for you.
3. Being a Good Steward:
- The Bible teaches we are stewards of the resources and talents God grants us. Matthew 25:14-30 (the parable of the talents) illustrates this. Success can involve wisely managing what God has entrusted to you.
How to Achieve Success in God's Eyes:
- Seek God's Guidance: Pray for wisdom and discernment in your endeavors (James 1:5).
- Develop Your Gifts: Cultivate your talents and abilities through learning and practice.
- Live a Moral Life: Following God's principles builds a strong foundation for success (Proverbs 20:7).
- Help Others: Use your success to bless others and contribute to the world (Galatians 6:10).
- Trust in God: Recognize that true success ultimately comes from God's grace (Proverbs 10:22).
Remember, the Bible's definition of success may differ from worldly views. Focus on using your talents for good, living righteously, and trusting in God's plan for your life.
But what you must understand is when you look at people in the bible who were wildly successful it did not come the way you would think… and it won’t come the way you want it to in your life…
Look if you came to me and said I want to bench 400 pounds… I would say I can give that to you.
If you went to God and said I want a million dollars… he could give that to you.
What am I getting at. If you wanted to bench 400 pounds, I would give you 1000’s of dummbell pull presses, 1000’s of bench variations with bands, chains, different bars, different angels and different loadings… I would give you 1000’s of Tate presses, 1000’s of JM presses, thousands and thousands of band tri extensions… and that is just the beginning… and you would say how is this giving me a 400 pound bench… well you can’t handle the 400 poounds until you develop the ability to handle it which is 10’s of thousands of reps in all things “non 400 pound bench”.
If you pray God give me a million dollars, even if you are willing to work for it… and that is your idea of success… he is going to create a life, circumstances, problems, challenges etc.. that make it possible for you to handle 1 million dollars. If not he not a very loving father. would you give your newly crowned 16 year old daughter a brand new Ferrari? Uhm… no.
Why do we not see this in todays world… why is this a bad thing. What ever you want… name it: Be a greater man of God, make more money, be a better husband, be a better father, get the new raise or promotion at work, build a 8 figure buisness… lose 100 pounds … if you really mean it, and you really pray for it… you are praying for 1000’s and 1000’s of reps that will make it posilbe for that to come thru in your life. Other wise Gods not a very loving father. How many people win the lottery and are brok 3 years later… 99% of them.
God has give you the desires of your heart… they are usually good desires… but before you go chasing after them realize God first wants you Holy so you can handle those answered prayers…
Success without sanctification is sacrifice of your true god given potential and future.
Monday Jul 01, 2024
Monday Jul 01, 2024
Garth Heckman
The David Alliance
TDAgiantslayer@gmail.com
BAM - watch them every Tuesday night on our Facebook page.
August Friday and Saturday 16th 17th End times conference at HillSpring Church sponsored by The David Alliance,
Ever been out in the hot sun and your working… you quickly get sweaty, then you get oily and then you get bloody… wait what? Yeah thats where we are going today.
Matthew 26:36-46
where Jesus is said to have prayed on the night of his arrest before the Crucifixion. The name Gethsemane (Hebrew gat shemanim, “oil press”) suggests that the garden was a grove of olive trees in which was located an oil press.
Olive oil is prepared by timing… when the olives are ripe, ready to be picked, then crushed on a millstone and the oil is separated.
Sweat is an odorless liquid, consisting of mainly water, proteins, salt and oils.
And in fact
When the body is reacting to an emotion, like anxiety, stress or excitement, sweat is released from the apocrine glands. These glands produce a milkier sweat comprised of fatty acids and proteins.
That fat is what produces that oil on the skin.
Jesus in the garden under great duress and stress and anxiety… fell into a state of Hemitidrosis
But when Jesus sweat, he sweat blood….
So when he was under pressure, the oil press remember… what came out of him was the power of Jesus. THE POWER OF THE BLOOD - RIGHT?
Gods blood forgives us, cleanses us, gives us the right to serve God and the power to serve God….
Revelation 12:1 His blood gives us power over the devil…
This is what oozed out of Jesus when under pressure.
His own oil, sweat and blood. You have heard the term blood sweat and tears… well its more appropriate to say Sweat Blood and Oil.
Just before this happened… just before we saw what comes out of Jesus… he was in prayer. What comes out of you will be determined by how well you are connected to the Father.
Don’t expect Gods anointing and power - oil and blood, to come out of you if you have been spending time on your phone, computer, music, friends, hobbies, drinking, money… if Prayer occupies your life, than when you are pressed you will produce oil and blood.
But one more thing to notice… sin started in a garden…. Gods first drops of blood happened in a garden.
One garden with one sin with worldwide eternal reverberations
And we see…
One garden with one night of pressure and prayer and blood came of it with worldwide eternal reverberations
When your under pressure seek God for the best possible Worldwide eternal reverberations.
Sunday Jun 30, 2024
Sunday Jun 30, 2024
Garth Heckman
The David Alliance
TDAgiantslayer@gmail.com
BAM - watch them every Tuesday night on our Facebook page.
August Friday and Saturday 16th 17th End times conference at HillSpring Church sponsored by The David Alliance,
Whats that noise? Your wife left her earrings in the ashtray!
How do we endure?
Psalm 100:1 Make a joyful noise…
GK Roo-ahh
A Battle cry…. In your battle, in your noise you cry out for joy.
Whats your noise?
depression, and anxiety, sickness, marital problems, waiting for a husband issues with your kids. These are all noise. Now make it joyful.
We are His people and the sheep of His pasture.
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Enter into His gates with thanksgiving,
And into His courts with praise.
Be thankful to Him, and bless His name.
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For the Lord is good;
His mercy is everlasting,
And His truth endures to all generations.
Thursday Jun 27, 2024
Thursday Jun 27, 2024
Garth Heckman
THE David Alliance
What can you teach us this year?
Matt.26:39
39 Going a little farther, He fell facedown and prayed, “My Father, if it is possible, let this cup pass from Me. Yet not as I will, but as You will.” 40 Then Jesus returned to the disciples and found them sleeping. “ Were you not able to keep watch with Me for one hour?” He asked Peter. 41 “Watch and pray so that you will not enter into temptation. For the spirit is willing, but the body is weak.”…
The outcome is inevitable - so why pray? Wrestle with your boys
Tuesday Jun 25, 2024
Tuesday Jun 25, 2024
Garth Heckman
7 steps to make boys men… and 7 dangers to keep them boys
Luke 2:52 stature, favor wisdom
1. Taking Responsibility:
Real men understand the importance of taking responsibility for their actions and decisions. This habit goes beyond simply admitting when they are wrong; it involves owning up to the consequences of their choices and working to make amends. They don't make excuses or blame others for their circumstances. Instead, they face challenges head-on and use their experiences as learning opportunities. By taking responsibility, they build credibility and trust with others, which is foundational for any meaningful relationship. This practice fosters maturity and accountability, setting the stage for personal and professional growth.
1A Video games. These are used to escape responsibility and relationships.
Without a great father figure it can seem impossible to live up to ones potential. You can feel overwhelmed and insecure. Enter video games. You can be a winner, you can start over, you can meet people and not really have to meet people, you can kill time….
You can master a video game and even stand out amongst your peers… you can’t master life. It will alwasy win in the long run. The best you can do is hope to learn as much from it as possible.
2. Developing Self-Discipline:
Self-discipline is a cornerstone habit that men cultivate in all areas of life. They set clear, achievable goals and establish effective routines to reach them. This involves prioritizing long-term benefits over short-term pleasures, such as maintaining a healthy lifestyle, managing finances wisely, or advancing in their careers. By mastering self-discipline, they develop the ability to stay focused and resilient in the face of distractions and setbacks. This habit empowers them to make consistent progress toward their aspirations, ultimately leading to a more fulfilled and purposeful life.
2A Poor habits are the key to a lack of self discipline. You don’t need discipline if you have great habits, and you don’t need great habits if you choose to just drift in life. But listen you need self discipline to cement the habit, but once it is there you got it. Poor habits help you explain why you can’t control the world…so instead you choose to let it control you…. And your excuses neve make up for poor habits. You want your boy to stay a boy? Let his early life of entropy build bad habits… and you will definitely create a boy for life!
3. Seeking Continuous Growth:
Boys to Men are committed to personal growth and lifelong learning. They actively seek new knowledge, skills, and experiences, understanding that growth is a continuous process. They embrace challenges and step out of their comfort zones to push their boundaries. This habit includes reading, attending workshops, learning new hobbies, or seeking mentorship. By constantly pushing themselves to improve, they become more adaptable and innovative, capable of navigating an ever-changing world. This commitment to growth not only enhances their own lives but also positively impacts those around them.
As a father what do your boys see you learning and developing? When there in school its easy for them to think they are learning the habit of learning… but that's where you have to push them and show them that learning outside of school is like you learning outside of your own job. You must always be developing yourself beyond your normal routine. I just took a First responders course… tomorrow im taking a course on AI… my boys see that in me, they practice the same things.
3A Stagnation or lacking growth poses only a threat to yourself, your family and your future. It is also the key to maintaining a joy LESS life. Growth can do a lot for you… and lacking in growth can also do a lot for you… but guaranteed it it will keep your son from learning what true joy is.
4. Cultivating Emotional Intelligence:
Here is a thought, men don't leave jobs they leave bosses. Emotional intelligence tells you when how and where to do that. Or it may tell you why people are leaving you?
Emotional intelligence is crucial for building strong, meaningful relationships. Men develop self-awareness, allowing them to understand their emotions and the impact they have on others. They regulate their emotions effectively, ensuring that their reactions are appropriate and constructive. By empathizing with others, they build deeper connections and navigate social complexities with ease. Effective communication and mature conflict resolution are key aspects of this habit, fostering an environment of mutual respect and understanding.
4A lacking emotional intelligence
Lacking emotional intelligence means you will never know yourself, understand yourself, and or even know how to grow and get out of life's pitfalls that you created in your own life. What's the saying again- an unexamined life is not worth living.
A lack of emotional intelligence leads to a higher degree of stress, burnout, anxiety, depression.
Have you ever talked to a young person who is at the end of their rope and life seems like it's going to end because they failed a class or the girlfriend broke up with them? They lack emotional intelligence.
A key to building emotional intelligence in your boys is to help them look at others around their life and problems they are dealing with. Ask them how their friends got into those problems and how their friends should deal with those problems and then ask them what they would do if they got into those problems.
Luke 2:52 stature, favor wisdom
5. Showing Respect:
Real men treat others with respect, regardless of their background or status. They listen attentively, value different perspectives, and treat everyone with dignity. This habit is about recognizing the inherent worth of every individual and behaving in ways that reflect this understanding. Respect is earned through actions, not demanded, and men who consistently show respect build strong, supportive networks both personally and professionally.
5A Respect isn’t earned, it is given until it is lost. I might not agree with you but I must learn to respect you. If I do not learn to respect I begin to adopt a mindset of elitism and arrogance. At the base of this is I am choosing to be dumb… Im unwilling to learn from you because I know better than you. Ultimately it translates into your healthy relationships, and even your body language. You isolate healthy helpful meaningful relationships from your life.
6. Practicing Integrity:
Integrity involves upholding high moral and ethical standards. Men who practice integrity act with honesty, honor, and consistency in their personal and professional lives. They value trust and are true to their word, ensuring that their actions align with their values and principles. This habit builds a reputation of reliability and respect, fostering trust and admiration from others.
6A Heres the problem at the core… you lie to yourself. You will never trust yourself to take chances to grow.
7. Embracing Leadership:
Leadership is not just about holding positions of power; it's about taking initiative and inspiring others. Men who embrace leadership make decisions confidently, take responsibility for their outcomes, and motivate those around them to achieve their full potential. They lead by example, demonstrating the behaviors and attitudes they wish to see in others. This habit involves empowering others, contributing positively to families, workplaces, and communities, and striving to create a better environment for all.
Incorporating these habits transforms boys into men by fostering maturity, responsibility, and the ability to positively influence their surroundings.
People who learn to lead without titles will always be sought out.
7A if you cant lead yourself, you won’t lead anyone else. I personally believe way too much is spoken about leadership, and far to less on personal leadership.
What does stress come from? It comes from not living up to your values… but if you cant self lead you will never live up to your values.
Monday Jun 24, 2024
Monday Jun 24, 2024
Garth Heckman
The David Alliance
3. Seeking Continuous Growth:
Boys to Men are committed to personal growth and lifelong learning. They actively seek new knowledge, skills, and experiences, understanding that growth is a continuous process. They embrace challenges and step out of their comfort zones to push their boundaries. This habit includes reading, attending workshops, learning new hobbies, or seeking mentorship. By constantly pushing themselves to improve, they become more adaptable and innovative, capable of navigating an ever-changing world. This commitment to growth not only enhances their own lives but also positively impacts those around them.
As a father what do your boys see you learning and developing? When there in school its easy for them to think they are learning the habit of learning… but that's where you have to push them and show them that learning outside of school is like you learning outside of your own job. You must always be developing yourself beyond your normal routine. I just took a First responders course… tomorrow im taking a course on AI… my boys see that in me, they practice the same things.
3A Stagnation or lacking growth poses only a threat to yourself, your family and your future. It is also the key to maintaining a joy LESS life. Growth can do a lot for you… and lacking in growth can also do a lot for you… but guaranteed it it will keep your son from learning what true joy is.
4. Cultivating Emotional Intelligence:
Here is a thought, men don't leave jobs they leave bosses. Emotional intelligence tells you when how and where to do that. Or it may tell you why people are leaving you?
Emotional intelligence is crucial for building strong, meaningful relationships. Men develop self-awareness, allowing them to understand their emotions and the impact they have on others. They regulate their emotions effectively, ensuring that their reactions are appropriate and constructive. By empathizing with others, they build deeper connections and navigate social complexities with ease. Effective communication and mature conflict resolution are key aspects of this habit, fostering an environment of mutual respect and understanding.
4A lacking emotional intelligence
Lacking emotional intelligence means you will never know yourself, understand yourself, and or even know how to grow and get out of life's pitfalls that you created in your own life. What's the saying again- an unexamined life is not worth living.
A lack of emotional intelligence leads to a higher degree of stress, burnout, anxiety, depression.
Have you ever talked to a young person who is at the end of their rope and life seems like it's going to end because they failed a class or the girlfriend broke up with them? They lack emotional intelligence.
A key to building emotional intelligence in your boys is to help them look at others around their life and problems they are dealing with. Ask them how their friends got into those problems and how their friends should deal with those problems and then ask them what they would do if they got into those problems.
Sunday Jun 23, 2024
Sunday Jun 23, 2024
Garth Heckman
7 steps to make boys men… and 7 dangers to keep them boys
Luke 2:52
1. Taking Responsibility:
Real men understand the importance of taking responsibility for their actions and decisions. This habit goes beyond simply admitting when they are wrong; it involves owning up to the consequences of their choices and working to make amends. They don't make excuses or blame others for their circumstances. Instead, they face challenges head-on and use their experiences as learning opportunities. By taking responsibility, they build credibility and trust with others, which is foundational for any meaningful relationship. This practice fosters maturity and accountability, setting the stage for personal and professional growth.
1A Video games. These are used to escape responsibility and relationships.
Without a great father figure it can seem impossible to live up to ones potential. You can feel overwhelmed and insecure. Enter video games. You can be a winner, you can start over, you can meet people and not really have to meet people, you can kill time….
You can master a video game and even stand out amongst your peers… you can’t master life. It will alwasy win in the long run. The best you can do is hope to learn as much from it as possible.
2. Developing Self-Discipline:
Self-discipline is a cornerstone habit that men cultivate in all areas of life. They set clear, achievable goals and establish effective routines to reach them. This involves prioritizing long-term benefits over short-term pleasures, such as maintaining a healthy lifestyle, managing finances wisely, or advancing in their careers. By mastering self-discipline, they develop the ability to stay focused and resilient in the face of distractions and setbacks. This habit empowers them to make consistent progress toward their aspirations, ultimately leading to a more fulfilled and purposeful life.
2A Poor habits are the key to a lack of self discipline. You don’t need discipline if you have great habits, and you don’t need great habits if you choose to just drift in life. But listen you need self discipline to cement the habit, but once it is there you got it. Poor habits help you explain why you can’t control the world…so instead you choose to let it control you…. And your excuses neve make up for poor habits. You want your boy to stay a boy? Let his early life of entropy build bad habits… and you will definitely create a boy for life!