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Wednesday Nov 09, 2022
Wednesday Nov 09, 2022
Wake the Faith up Slayer… This is Garth Heckman with the David Alliance and you can reach me at
Brought to you by wellbuiltbody.com Gym Apparel for men and women that rocks and shocks and ain’t for everybody - but just might be for you. wellbuiltbody.com
TRS fighting secrets… how to be lethal in a street fight.
Zones:
White: nothing traumatic has happened to you yet. You are the person walking out to their car in the middle of the afternoon in November, wind blowing and you don’t see the person coming at you sideways to rob you. You have no idea of what is coming at you… that is until its to late.
Yellow: You are aware, but only slightly. You have heard of people getting robbed, kidnapped, assaulted, bullied… so you are slightly concerned. Maybe you just had someone get up in your face and scare you a little so now you know it can happen.
Red: you are on constant alert. When someone is walking next to you, in front of you, behind you, across from you… you notice. You are watching, thinking, even smelling for danger. You are thinking of worst case scenario so you can react… the adrenaline is starting to flow.
Black zone: You are in it. You are the cop face to face with a threat. You are a soldier on the front lines. You are letting your adrenaline move you to the fastest way to end this encounter. Its you or them and you are making well sure it is them.
but in his book he is very sure of this one thing… you get to choose what state you walk around in.
you get to choose what type of relationship/Faith you have with Jesus.
- Emergency
- Stand bye
-Casual - you talk to him from time to time
- - Daily - you have your devotional time daily
- Intimate - You push in, more time in the word, prayer, fasting…
Josh. 24:15 Choose ye this day whom you will serve….
Tuesday Nov 08, 2022
Tuesday Nov 08, 2022
Wake the Faith up Slayer… This is Garth Heckman with the David Alliance and you can reach me at
Brought to you by wellbuiltbody.com Gym Apparel for men and women that rocks and shocks and ain’t for everybody - but just might be for you. wellbuiltbody.com
Almost 3500 people die a year from a vehicle accident… not from alcohol, not from speeding, not from reckless driving, not from drugs, not from driving poor broken down vehicles… but simply from distracted drivers on their phones.
Escapism… most americans are on their phone 3.5 hours a day and it is simply for an escape. They do not want to tune in to life… but rather looking for a way to not really think about their life. the reality of their life…
If distracted driving costs 3500 people their lives, then distracted living costs millions more their future.
7 characteristics of highly intelligent tuned in people
1 They are clear about their life purpose and values
I know my values, my priorities. Which means I know how to create my own culture to live those out. I get people all the time, and I mean all the time who want me to mentor them, hang out with them, do things with them… and if I give into the majority of those, the culture that I have spent so much time creating is destroyed. So I have to be in tune with my purpose and values… it is what I bounce all of my actions, words off of and what my calendar resembles.
A distracted life is a half ass life and that is what you become… an ASS A-always S-seeking S-Something
2 They cultivate self awareness
What do I need to work on? What do others think I need to work on? What are my weaknesses? What do those closest to me say are my weaknesses?
A tuned out life is unaware of what is stopping them.
3 They show empathy
our world is filled with indifference. We think not caring is some type of super power. We spew things out of our phone or computer to let others know we not only disagree with you, but we don’t care about how you feel. A tuned in person sees those who are bitter, hard, snarky, negative as simply people who don’t have what they are looking for. Love them anyways.
4 They focus on positive
People can be tuned into the possibilities or the problems. you either get to choose to be negative about things or positive. it is really that simple. It’s not that you don’t see the problems in your life- you do - you are tuned in to them so they don’t get worse, but you also see the opportunities for success, answers, achievement and learning.
5 They are great listeners
Do you want people to follow you and be around you because you are cool, accomplished, successful??? and guess what - If you do that is very shallow of you. How about they want to be around you because you truly listen. You know what that actually means you care. When you tune in to others words, emotions and their body language, it says to them “this guy really cares”!
6 They are stress resilient
I am tuned in to what stresses me out and I am tuned into what builds my stress resilience. I have shared on this a few times, but stress is best beaten by having a full emotional tank. My emotional tank is filled up by daily prayer, scripture, a good book, working out, playing my guitar or drums, talking to my family and laughing. I do that every day. I am in tuned in to when I don’t get enough of that and when and how to fill my tank.
7 They keep good company and encourage others
I seem to have a problem in my life… I attract a lot of needy people. It drives my wife nuts. I tend to push away or drive away people who don’t like strong opinions, or people who are used to getting their way through manipulation or people who are just not used to honesty. I don’t care what people think I am going to be Garth and live for jesus. Now with that said “I have learned it attracts needy people because they want to be the same way and they think that by being with me it will make them like me… nope”.
long story short- I have only about 5 people in my life that I continually hang with outside of my mom, dad, wife, and boys. Ty, Scott, my sister, Tim & Amber. They feed me and I feed them. I am in tune with people who drain me and people who fill me.
Friday Nov 04, 2022
Friday Nov 04, 2022
Keep your mind going in the right direction and your life will catch up with it.
Every battle starts first in the mind… battles for good, battles for victory, battles for your feelings, battles for your dreams and desires…
Whatsoever a man thinkers, so he is. Prov. 23:7
I HAVE ONE ADVANTAGE OVER YOU… I won’t quit.
2 Samual 23:10 Eleazer fought along side David… he struck down so many philastines that his hand stuck to the sword. the Blood pasted and dried his hand like glue to the sword.
Sorry. I am too busy doing what I love.
Be motivated by the fear of being average. (The King said to Daniel… oh Daniel did your God save you? … he’s asking “did it work? Is your God average?)
I want to see what happens if I don’t give up.
If you knew how many people envied your potential you wouldn’t doubt yourself so much.
No one is you and that is your super power.
God will ask you why you were not more like who he created you to be, not why you were not more like him or her.
The measure of a man’s success is first and foremost what his wife and kids think of him.
yes outside of an intimate relationship with jesus.
Thursday Nov 03, 2022
Thursday Nov 03, 2022
Wake the Faith up Slayer… This is Garth Heckman with the David Alliance and you can reach me at
Brought to you by wellbuiltbody.com Gym Apparel for men and women that rocks and shocks and ain’t for everybody - but just might be for you. wellbuiltbody.com
Not caring what other people think is the best decision you will ever make.
How do you stop from caring what others think? Have a sincere intimate relationship with God,
Make honest upright choices (can your spouse check your phone anytime?… mine can)
If you don’t have those two things covered than your own psyche will guilt trip you and be a black cloud that follows you as the haters hate on you. but if you do have those covered, then its just funny to you what other people think.
Nobody watches you more than those who hate you or are jealous of you. (The most captious are the most jealous) Feel sorry for those who nitpick at you for stupid things… it is a sure sign that they do not love or even like themselves.
Rumors are carried by haters spread by fools and accepted by idiots.
You’ve heard the cliche there are two sides to every story? THATS NOT TRUE, THERE ARE MULTIPLE SIDES TO EVERY STORY. What he said, she said, what he meant, what she meant, what others thought it meant…
The older I get the more I realize I can’t be surprised at what anyone says is true… knowing that it is probably most definitely NOT true.
(Ok, I have to modify this one, but I think you can tell what its really trying to say at the end)
People in their 20’s who think life sucks… Well guess what, Life hasn’t even begin to hate you yet.
At every major age marker, 20, 30, 40, 50 etc… I realize how little I know about life and how little I have gone through. There is a woman in my church who found out 5 years ago she was adopted (she’s 55’sh) She was divorced from her first husband who was abusive, her second husband of 30 years died a long hard death with cancer, she lost her daughter in a car accident, she lost her grandkids to a sons divorce, she lost her granddaughter out of spite, she found her real father only to find out her real mother didn’t want to meet her, her real dad is now struggling with health problems, and this woman is losing her house… my life? Pretty easy!
Two reasons I don’t trust people: I don’t know them and I know them.
Micah 7:5,6 Put no trust in a neighbor; have no confidence in a friend; guard the doors of your mouth from her who lies in your arms; for the son treats the father with contempt, the daughter rises up against her mother, the daughter-in-law against her mother-in-law; a man's enemies are the men of his own house.
*more than ever trust needs to be earned, proven and time tested - or simply put- you are a fool.
Wednesday Nov 02, 2022
Wednesday Nov 02, 2022
Wake the Faith up Slayer… This is Garth Heckman with the David Alliance and you can reach me at
Brought to you by wellbuiltbody.com Gym Apparel for men and women that rocks and shocks and ain’t for everybody - but just might be for you. wellbuiltbody.com
If you have been a listener for a while you have heard me say again and again that men only change when there is trauma in their life. Its when the doctor says, you got about 2 years left at this pace. Or your wife says “I’m out”, or your kids say Dad you are a piece of shi… caca, Your boss fires you…. trauma makes us change or die.
But along those same lines trauma also not only makes us change but it changes some of our core beliefs in a heartbeat.
let me back up a few years… the great depression… you probably remember it from history class. Americans hit skid row, the economy tanked and it was a struggle to pay the most basic needs. But before that what happened? In the middle of the great depression right in the middle of 1929 the stock market crashed… but it truly didn’t affect most people. Most people lived the same life, because most people did not have stocks or bonds or investments for their retirement. Only 2.5% were actually affected… however just before the crash the election of President Hoover was the biggest landslide in our history. And then the stock market crashed… and it took a while for the crisis to hit. I will dumb it down for us to save time. The stock market crashed, Then it tanked banks began to fail, people lost their savings. When they lost their savings they stopped spending. When they stopped spending businesses failed. When businesses failed, banks failed. And when banks fail people lose their savings… and it becomes a maddening circle of loss
So where am I going with this, well the next election was actually another record slide of votes to get Hoover out of office.
And with that the American people were ripe to adopt and believe things that now in place are bankrupting America.
For example The Social Security Act was passed in 1935 372 to 33 in the House of Representatives, and 77 to 6 in the Senate.
Dirty politics caught a major head wind with an alleged coup by wealthy businessmen to overthrow Franklin Roosevelt, with a Marine General named Smedley Butler taking his place as dictator. And owning gold became illegal. And all these things people were fine with… because a crisis had seduced them and primed them for these shifts… they were looking for cheap solutions in crisis that would ultimately crush us.
Now you’re asking Garth what does this have to do with me. Well today is not a history lesson as so much as a warning… your choices build and build and build and once that levy of bad choices break, you are easily manipulated to do and believe and act on even more dangerous tactics. They seem quick and easy, but in the end they are like a prison cell.
You don’t get the love and attention you feel you deserve from your spouse… so you make some bad choices… you end up cheating on your spouse, and now that you have rationalized it, you will sleep with anyone who fills that void… and in time you are a prisoner to sex, pornography - AND the hopes of a healthy relationship are out the window! Yes thats an easy example, but there are hundreds more out there… just look in the mirror.
Galatians 6:7, 8 Do not be deceived: God is not mocked, for whatever one sows, that will he also reap. For the one who sows to his own flesh will from the flesh reap corruption, but the one who sows to the Spirit will from the Spirit reap eternal life.
REAP… not just get back what you sowed, but a hundred fold on each act of stupidity! A literal harvest with just a couple of seeds … 20 bad seeds don’t equal 20 bad circumstances… it equals a harvest of bad circumstances, dependencies and enslavements. And don’t miss the nuance here… sow to the flesh means you simply sow to what feels right at the time, its almost automatic, its like the seed that falls from the bag and gets planted by mistake in the cracks and the rocks and the weeds…
Don’t let the struggles of life cause you to lose what you truly believe in and what scripture teaches. Don’t let trauma seduce you into making cheap feel good decisions. Sow what matters!
Tuesday Nov 01, 2022
Tuesday Nov 01, 2022
Wake the Faith up Slayer… This is Garth Heckman with the David Alliance and you can reach me at
Brought to you by wellbuiltbody.com Gym Apparel for men and women that rocks and shocks and ain’t for everybody - but just might be for you. wellbuiltbody.com
Every day the world is asking you if you are a coward. It asks you through your friendships your boss your problems your financial difficulties relationships even through your mood swings and your emotions. are you going to be a coward? Are you going to shrink back? Are you going to let fear motivate you?
If strength and courage does not answer the call then you live a life of regret and shame and self loathing. Not only that, but you become a miserable person to be around because you’re always captious in how you see others.
In my brief life here on earth there is no more miserable person to be around than someone who is insecure and lives in fear because of it. They constantly are trying to prove they are not fearful by picking on issues, they try to prove they are valuable and boost their self esteem by prancing around in their feeble and holier than thou attacks on others.
Here is the truth about those people who yell and scream the loudest and try to manipulate you and control you… they hate themselves. They fear what others think the most. And the fact that you don’t drives them nuts… they are thinking “hey you should bow to peer pressure just like I do… what makes you so special that you think you don’t have to fear peoples opinions like I do?”
The bible says fear not 365 times in the bible. One for each day… but we gotta have fear, its normal and without it we don’t have courage. No fear, no courage. There has to be a hill to climb in order to achieve a new height in life.
Let me explain in John
14:27
the word there for Fear is Day-Lee-ah-o
It means do not cower, to be timid, to shrink back.
Understand it this way… you are moving forward in an area of life. A goal, maybe actions based upon your beliefs, things you desire for your family… regardless you are moving in that direction daily. You have a plan and when things or people come against your beliefs, or goals or plans you are called to not be afraid - i.e. do not move backward, do not cower or shrink back from what you want or believe in.
So when you choose not to be afraid “again… shrink back” you are now exhibiting courage. You must be faced with the choice of fear or courage. You do not have to act on fear… you can feel fear and by not acting on it exhibit courage.
Joshua 1:9 Have I not commanded you? Be strong and courageous. Do not be frightened, and do not be dismayed, for the Lord your God is with you wherever you go.”
Its interesting when you look at the word dismayed here in the hebrew… it literally means don’t lay down. We’ve heard that saying before right? What happened in the fight… oh well he just laid down.
Kaw-thath to be prostrate…
Don’t be the guy that folds.
When get asked this week if you are a coward… in any circumstance? Answer the call by not backing down… as Joshua 1:9 says “The Lord your God is with you… he is walking with you… so walk the talk and answer the call!
Monday Oct 31, 2022
Monday Oct 31, 2022
Wake the Faith up Slayer… This is Garth Heckman with the David Alliance and you can reach me at
Brought to you by wellbuiltbody.com Gym Apparel for men and women that rocks and shocks and ain’t for everybody - but just might be for you. wellbuiltbody.com
My cancer story and how it affected my health and my lifting career is now up on Train insane or remain the same by trainer Justin Transgrud… you can find the link here in my podcast notes… it is 2 hours… hope you give it a listen.
https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/train-insane-or-remain-the-same-podcast/id1646822357?i=1000584430026
Just yesterday I had a couple who had been coming to my church the last 4 weeks reach out to me stating they wanted to meet with me one on one to ask me some questions. Well we started out with some fun banter, and a few social question and answer and then they went into their background One was Lutheran, one was Catholic, they had been married for 10 years and had been high school sweethearts. They were both looking for a church they could attend together and enjoy… but they had some questions to ask me before they become members. they loved the church, the music, they loved my preaching but needed clarification on some topics. So what where the topics… Abortion, Homosexuality, infant baptism and if I actually thought scripture was Gods holy word and was inherent.
So I told them what the bible said on each of these topics and with each answer they just stared, quietly… I pretty much figured they stumbled into this UMC thinking we were still UMC and we are not and now I burst their bubble with biblical answers… I even wondered if they had kids that were gay or cats… or whatever… but as it turns out when I was finished the woman sighed a sigh of relief and said that is soooo good to hear. We left our other churches because they don’t agree with scripture.
In todays world having a biblical opinion is not popular and in fact its not even popular with Christians. But I have learned something over the years…
When you truly want Jesus and all he has for you- when the hunger is so great that you beg God giving him permission to do whatever it takes to make you more like Jesus.. when that’s your pulse then you not only no longer have time for watered down scripture and perverted theology but it actually causes your soul and spirit to wretch - almost as if your soul is going to throw up. You become so hungry for God that your heart mind and soul demand the pure unadulterated word of God free from mans carnal consciousness and opinions.
We ended last weeks podcast with the verse in Galatians 1:17 (I believe) am I still trying to please man or am I trying to please God. You know It does not bother me when non Christians don’t believe what I believe. They are not supposed to… but when professing Christians speak the opposite of scripture… then I must call them out… Look
First they don’t understand you, then they don’t like you, but over time they respect you, and finally they want to be like you! (though they may never tell you) Not only is this true in the world of Christianity, but this is many times the road a person travels when they live truly according to Gods vision for their life.
ITS NUTS RIGHT? You choose Christ and his so called followers choose to hate you.
Have you ever heard of the Hate poem by Julie Sheehan?
I will read just a snippet of it.
The blue-green jewel of sock lint I’m digging
from under my third toenail, left foot, hates you.
The history of this keychain hates you.
My sigh in the background as you explain relational databases
hates you.
The goldfish of my genius hates you.
My aorta hates you. Also my ancestors.
A closed window is both a closed window and an obvious
symbol of how I hate you.
As one literary critic explains regarding this poem…
It isn’t until the end of the poem when we grasp the fact that this guy that she hates is her significant other. Then we realize that her “hatred” for her boyfriend or husband may be confused for love or has replaced love temporarily. “Hate Poem” is a deep and highly clever work of art that demonstrates the similarities between both the intense emotions of love and hate.
Understand in todays world more than ever… if someone hates you, it means they actually in a twisted way love you, they love that you stand for truth in the face of a world gone looney tunes… but hey express it as hate because they don’t have the backbone to stand up to others they way you do.
So enjoy the hate… your on to something great!
Friday Oct 28, 2022
Thursday Oct 27, 2022
Thursday Oct 27, 2022
Wake the Faith up Slayer… This is Garth Heckman with the David Alliance and you can reach me at
Brought to you by wellbuiltbody.com Gym Apparel for men and women that rocks and shocks and ain’t for everybody - but just might be for you. wellbuiltbody.com
Have you ever heard of an NDE? What about an ESM?
They both are brutal and beautiful all at the same time.
Near death experience changed his life forever and his ultimate death.
ESM Eat Shit Moment… you are forced to go through something you would never choose for yourself. Cancer, divorce, a spouse having and affair, Child in prison,
They can change us. And I don’t just mean change us in ways that are outside of our control… but also You get to stop, take account, perceive into the future and realize you CAN rebuild and you can move forward. Yes Pain, yes time, yes cost… but you can overcome it.
NDE’s and ESM’s also share the ability to push us to live our ultimate life. One of the things I have enjoyed about cancer so many times is that I know first hand that tomorrow is not promised. Now is the time to act… Now is the time to take that chance… now is the time to risk, now is the time to believe, move and have your being.
My wife absolutely loves me, but she will admit i drive her nuts. I have a speaking company, I have a clothing line, I have a personal training business, I am finishing my 14th book, I have a coaster company for weddings parties sports events women events… I take guitar and drums lessons and I give guitar and drum lessons, I am starting another clothing line, I have a daily podcast (bet you didn’t know that) I have been working on an app that is set to launch globally in about a month (working on that for 3 years) I am working on starting another gym after previously owning one that was voted #1 in the country, I am launching a new podcast and Patreon channel oh… yea, Im also a pastor and traveling speaker.
So you say why and how? This is not about me, but for a second I will tell you how - first thing is I take care of myself so I have lots of energy, secondly I don’t waste time in front of TV… if its on I am watching a football game but my computer is on and I am almost always working. Third, I read - A lot. It feeds everything else I do and makes things easier. Reading is my fuel to spiritual fire, to business ideas and know how and my mental library for continued speaking and writing.
But here is the why… why not? Why not go for all you feel like you were created for. Most people will tell you they feel like they were created for more, that there has got to be more… but they never act on it… We all have talents, untapped dreams, potential and secret goals/hopes. They don’t just happen, you gotta go after them. Life might be over for you in 2 days… just last week outside our church we had a head on collision - two women in their 40’s. One tried to pass and ran head long into the other woman driving. Game over, times up. It is tragic… but so is living to a 100 and not tapping your potential… not at least trying. Remember the movie 3 o’clock high… the bully stares into the kids face and says “you didn’t even try”. Ohh that gets me every time.
Ecc. 11:6 Sow your seed in the morning, and at evening let your hands not be idle, for you do not know which will succeed, whether this or that, or whether both will do equally well.
So you have your day job… sewing seed, and you have your free hours in the evening… what are your hands doing? Are they idle… by that I mean are you on your phone, computer, TV, is all your time on hobbies that will not really produce anything… and look, some people are made to just work enough to pay the bills and they want to just hang out at home… thats cool. But what also about your spiritual walk? Are you stagnant in that as well?
Ecclesiastes 9:10
Whatsoever thy hand findeth to do, do it with thy might; for there is no work, nor device, nor knowledge, nor wisdom, in the grave, whither thou goest.
One more sage piece of advice from the wisest man on earth. Get better. Want to make things easier- get better. When I was learning how to play guitar a long time ago… I think 33 years ago, I was having a hard time playing bar chords… and I was complaining to my good friend Scott Miller who is a MONSTAH guitar player. he said well did anyone ever tell you the secret to playing great bar chords? I was shocked… no, no one has what is it… he leans into me as if to whisper quietly so the Russians don’t hear… and he says “practice”. Funny, but it also hit me between the eyes. Get better.
My advice to you today? If you are not doing it- try it. And if you are doing it- get better at it!
As solomon said “you never know what will grow when you sow”.
Wednesday Oct 26, 2022
Wednesday Oct 26, 2022
Wake the Faith up Slayer… This is Garth Heckman with the David Alliance and you can reach me at
Brought to you by wellbuiltbody.com Gym Apparel for men and women that rocks and shocks and ain’t for everybody - but just might be for you. wellbuiltbody.com
Some of the most famous words in all of comic book lore are those of the Hulk.
Don’t make me angry… you wouldn’t like me when Im angry… Or maybe, just maybe we might like you more…
What do you do when you are damned?
I don’t mean damned and going to hell… Yes we are all born sinners and heading to hell unless we reach out for Gods forgiveness and relationship… but I am talking about when we have all these emotions bubbling up and we want to lash out or explode. We have all been treated unfairly to some degree. Someone judges us unfairly, someone speaks lies about us or even someone maligns our character so they get the raise and the new promotion, or look like the better parent.
What do you do with those emotions?
Arthur Ashe one of the greatest tennis players to walk the face of the earth stood out not only because he was a monster on the court, but also because he was a young black man playing as early as the 1960’s. He paved the way for many other players of color… and it wasn’t easy… there were lots of inequalities, lots of bogus calls, lots of favoritism and a good share of racist banter behind doors… many times on part by other white players working against Arthur. But he did not respond, he did not blow up, he did not rant and rave much unlike many of his white counter parts. He couldn’t… not only that he knew it would only work harder against him… Could you imagine as he climbed up the ranks entering the pro’s in 1969 if he threw tantrums like John McEnroe? What it would cost him and what it would cost other players of color in the future?
so what did he do? We will get there in a minute…
In Karate Kid 2 Daniel sees a poster of Mr. Myagi’s nemesis breaking a log in half with a karate chop. He asks Mr. Myagi if he could do that… he responded “I don’t know, I never been attacked by a tree”. What is he saying in reality… there are better ways to spend ones energy.
Eph. 4:26,27 26“Be angry, yet do not sin.” Do not let the sun set upon your anger, 27and do not give the devil a foothold.
Notice it does not say DON’T BE ANGRY….
That seems weird right? Shouldn’t the bible say no to anger? Well we know God got angry. Jesus flipped tables in the temple. Jesus reprimanded the Pharisees with some pretty strong language and even called them out.. saying do not pray like these hypocrites.
Interesting thing about this word Angry - be provoked, be moved to action
But it has 2 outcomes. Scripture says when we are provoked by anger to act in the flesh it is sin. But if we are provoked in anger to act in the spirit we are in line with God.
v. 27 This is what verse 27 says, do not give the devil a foothold. on your anger.
Foothold is an opportunity… for satan.
so you take that opportunity that is there due to anger and you use it in a Godly way.
How can you pour that energy/anger/passion into a better version of yourself. Or into a Godly product or passion?
Arthur Ash took his anger and used it to play each match like it was a ballet but he danced like he was on fire… he played a hard game with a soft heart. He let it fuel him to prove his haters wrong… Did you catch that? He didn’t hate back, he just simply used it to prove to those who hated him that he deserved to be there, to be that man, to be that good and in fact to be that great.
Are you feeling a little angry? Ask God how he wants to use it in order to make him look good… you might be surprised just how good it feels to be angry.