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Friday Aug 26, 2022
Friday Aug 26, 2022
Wake the Faith up Slayer… This is Garth Heckman with the David Alliance and you can reach me at
Brought to you by wellbuiltbody.com Gym Apparel for men and women that rocks and shocks and ain’t for everybody - but just might be for you. wellbuiltbody.com
I think we can all relate to the STAPLES commercial years ago where they introduced the easy button. You just pushed it and life became easier. EVERYTHING FELL INTO PLACE… Now life is not that simple, but there is a way to make things easier in your life.
5 things you need to have in your foundation to make life easier
Engineer called to look at a crack in a skyscraper… the building manager finds him the lowest level of the parking garage.
- 1 You gotta be a healthy.
1 Cor. 6:19 Do you not know that your bodies are temples of the Holy Spirit, who is in you, whom you have received from God? You are not your own;
20 you were bought at a price. Therefore honor God with your bodies.
Glorify - give it esteem, honor it
Physical health is the first step to mental and emotional health.
Physical health is the key to energy fro everything else in your life. You need to have energy to read and pray, work and play. You need energy to put into relationships.
- 2 Know how to handle your money.
The plans of the diligent lead to profit (Proverbs 21:5)
“The plans of the diligent lead to profit as surely as haste leads to poverty.”
Provide for your household (1 Timothy 5:8)
“But if anyone does not provide for his own, and especially for those of his household, he has denied the faith and is worse than an unbeliever.”
Spend less, save invest, have 2 incomes or more.
The greatest stress in life is your choice… but the one thing that makes that stress a thousand times worse is lack of money.
Tithe, you gotta plant your seed.
- 3 Find out your gifts, passions and talents and not only use those in the church but get a job using those.
1 Corinthians 12:7-11 To each is given the manifestation of the Spirit for the common good. For to one is given through the Spirit the utterance of wisdom, and to another the utterance of knowledge according to the same Spirit, to another faith by the same Spirit, to another gifts of healing by the one Spirit, to another the working of miracles, to another prophecy, to another the ability to distinguish between spirits, to another various kinds of tongues, to another the interpretation of tongues. All these are empowered by one and the same Spirit, who apportions to each one individually as he wills.
My buddy Roger says most people work until they have enough money to retire… then they go and do what they want and are good at. I am already doing what I want and I am good at…so I am retired and I get paid for it.
- 4 Don’t try to have a lot of friends. Just have 3 really good ones.
Though one may be overpowered,
two can defend themselves.
A cord of three strands is not quickly broken. Ecclesiastes 4:12
A friend loves at all times,
and a brother is born for a time of adversity.
Notice most verses in the bible that talk about friendship talk about “A friend” NOT lots of friends.
Make friends quickly and cut them away even quicker.
Know the best judge of wether or not a person would be a good friend is asking yourself this question. Do you want to be like them in life right now? Their attitude, their relationships, their finances, the way they treat other people.
Remember you will never have a great relationship with others if you don’t have a great relationship with yourself. If you are toxic in your attitude you will be toxic in other friendships and you will blame others.
* If you run into 3 buttheads in a day, you can be certain you were one of them.
-5 Remember in all things: Money, friends, skills, talents, intelligence…
You attract who you are becoming.
“Do not conform to the pattern of this world, but be transformed, by the renewing of your mind.” – Romans 12:2
Galatians 6:7 Do not be deceived, God is not mocked; for whatever a man sows, that he will also reap.
Thursday Aug 25, 2022
Thursday Aug 25, 2022
Wake the Faith up Slayer… This is Garth Heckman with the David Alliance and you can reach me at
Brought to you by wellbuiltbody.com Gym Apparel for men and women that rocks and shocks and ain’t for everybody - but just might be for you. wellbuiltbody.com
You gotta ask. He may simply be waiting for you to just ask. The needs not the problem. we all have them… it is simply going against the crowd, going against the loudest voices in the room and asking… even begging!
Luke 18:35 Then it happened, as He was coming near Jericho, that a certain blind man sat by the road begging. 36 And hearing a multitude passing by, he asked what it meant. 37 So they told him that Jesus of Nazareth was passing by. 38 And he cried out, saying, “Jesus, Son of David, have mercy on me!”
39 Then those who went before warned him that he should be quiet; but he cried out all the more, “Son of David, have mercy on me!”
40 So Jesus stood still and commanded him to be brought to Him. And when he had come near, He asked him, 41 saying, “What do you want Me to do for you?”
He said, “Lord, that I may receive my sight.”
42 Then Jesus said to him, “Receive your sight; your faith has made you well.” 43 And immediately he received his sight, and followed Him, glorifying God. And all the people, when they saw it, gave praise to God.
This seems like such an odd scripture… almost like Jesus shares some insight into a personal test he is wanting us to see.
What do we know about this blind man.
He was blind, had a need, thought Jesus could heal him… and now is his chance. Jesus is walking by…
but from his perspective and from the story Jesus is not walking to him or near him in order to heal him - Jesus is just on his way into town.
DO YOU THINK.. Jesus knew he was there? Yes, do you think he knew he was blind? Yes, Do you think he knew he wanted to be healed? Yes. So why is he just walking by?
Let’s switch perspectives… Did the people know the blind man was there… most likely - and if not this man they did live in a culture where they were used to the blind and needy on the street begging. Did they think he wanted to be healed.. obviously. But did THEY want the blind man healed? NO.
In everyones eyes at this point Jesus is just simply this endless source of power to meet their needs. Feed me, teach me, wow me with miracles, heal me and free me from the Roman government…
No one cares about anybody else in the crowd except for themselves… sounds much like today. Its a huge crowd, but with no other purpose than each one wanting what they want… they are not there concerned about the crowd, this is no movement, its just needy people (with all different types of needs) wanting to connect, and be on the inside… get their fix if you will. Jesus was the rock star and everyone was trying to connect- get his autograph and hope to get front row tickets and maybe a photo op so others can be jealous.
And Jesus is ok with it… he knows these same people are going to cry crucify him in a little while. But what does he respond to…? Does he respond to those who are out to take from him, those who will kill him, those who misunderstand him… does he point this out to them and set them straight? NOPE.
He responds not to the need of the blind man, he responds to the blind mans crying out, You may have needs and you are waiting for God to meet your need… but he does not respond to the need, he responds to your calling out to him.
The crowd does not care about your need. They are out for themselves… The disciples do not care about the blind man. and it seems as if Jesus does not care about the blind man… but what he is actually doing is setting up a lesson for us to learn from. Jesus listens to those that are desperate and crying out.
The blind man doesn’t listen to the crowd.. which would be an actual form of peer pressure… it actually spurs him on to yell louder and beg more.
There is one more thing to catch in this story… The blind man has a need, he cries out to Jesus to meet his need… but once it is met he glorifies Jesus. He makes his need being met about Jesus and who he is and not about him getting what he wanted.
How many times we come to God and have a need that we want met simply because it is a need… but wouldn’t it be amazing if we came to God and said I have a need I would love for you to meet so that i can glorify you and give you the credit and in fact make you famous!
Wednesday Aug 24, 2022
Wednesday Aug 24, 2022
Wake the Faith up Slayer… This is Garth Heckman with the David Alliance and you can reach me at
Brought to you by wellbuiltbody.com Gym Apparel for men and women that rocks and shocks and ain’t for everybody - but just might be for you. wellbuiltbody.com
Luke 14:25 Now great multitudes went with Him. And He turned and said to them, 26 “If anyone comes to Me and does not hate his father and mother, wife and children, brothers and sisters, yes, and his own life also, he cannot be My disciple. 27 And whoever does not bear his cross and come after Me cannot be My disciple. 28 For which of you, intending to build a tower, does not sit down first and count the cost, whether he has enough to finish it— 29 lest, after he has laid the foundation, and is not able to finish, all who see it begin to mock him, 30 saying, ‘This man began to build and was not able to finish’? 31 Or what king, going to make war against another king, does not sit down first and consider whether he is able with ten thousand to meet him who comes against him with twenty thousand? 32 Or else, while the other is still a great way off, he sends a delegation and asks conditions of peace. 33 So likewise, whoever of you does not forsake all that he has cannot be My disciple.
Hate: GK Love less, or esteem less, to put under as a priority.
It is best understood as a renouncing of ones highest value of one thing over another.
My value of following Christ is of greater value than my family, my wife, my husband, my kids, my parents and yes even my own life.
But the point is you must be willing to count the cost of being a disciple. When I count the cost i think of a few things that I must be willing to do and be prepared for.
- I must be healthy enough to do the job
eat, work out, sleep,
- I must have the proper input to be ready for war. What goes in my eyes, my ears, my heart, my mind
- I must be willing to give tithes and offerings. I need stuff to grow in my life if I am going to have the harvest to pull this off.
- I must surround myself with the right friends who will help keep my pumped up, accountable, strong and pray for me.
- I must keep my family life from strife. I must protect the peace.
- I must live below my means and stay out of debt.
I have no credit cards, I have no loans other than my car and my house.
- I must know my gifts and talents and how to best use them as being a disciple.
- I must be willing to not care about what others think of me or my ministry. I must only care about what God thinks and does it work.
- I must daily read, pray and obey.
- I must be willing to live by faith, take risks in all areas of my life. Witnessing, giving, praying, spiritual gifts etc…
And finally I must daily and weekly ask myself - am I not only counting the cost but am I paying it. Have I put my money where my mouth is.
When you talk about counting the cost and paying the price, it may sound like arrogance… but only to those who are not counting and not paying!
Tuesday Aug 23, 2022
Tuesday Aug 23, 2022
Wake the Faith up Slayer… This is Garth Heckman with the David Alliance and you can reach me at
Brought to you by wellbuiltbody.com Gym Apparel for men and women that rocks and shocks and ain’t for everybody - but just might be for you. wellbuiltbody.com
Conviction
In sales if someone objects to your price ask them this, would you trust me more if I lowered my price? The same can be true when preaching a hard sermon to your congregation. You can ask them would you like my message more and trust me if I made it easier and watered it down?
When we witness to those who need Jesus as their Lord and Savior we simply preach the gospel and let the Holy Spirit convict!
i.e. we preach that people need Jesus, we don’t preach against their sin. Oh we can say all have sinned, but don’t waste your time telling them what they are doing is wrong. Simply point to Jesus and let him do the convicting.
The Bible tells us that the Holy Spirit will convict the world of sin (John 16:8). To help us understand what the conviction of sin is, we can look at what it is not.
First, it is not simply a guilty conscience or even shame or feeling bad or even knowing what we did was wrong. Such feelings are naturally experienced by almost everyone. But this is not true conviction of sin.
Second, conviction of sin is not a sense of trepidation or a foreboding of divine punishment. “Im going to hell”… These feelings, too, are commonly experienced in the hearts and minds of sinners. But, again, true conviction of sin is something different.
Third, conviction of sin is not merely knowledge of right and wrong; it is not an assent to Scripture’s teaching about sin. Many people read the Bible and are fully aware that the wages of sin is death (Romans 6:23). They may have grown up in church, gone to Sunday school, baptized, confirmed you name it… Yet, for all their knowledge, they continue to live in sin. They understand the consequences, but they’re far from being convicted of their sins.
The word convict is a translation of the Greek word elencho, which means “to convince someone of the truth; to reprove; to accuse, refute, or cross-examine a witness.” The Holy Spirit acts as a prosecuting attorney who exposes evil, reproves evildoers, and convinces people that they need a Savior.
To be convicted is to experience an utter dreadfulness of sin. Our attitude toward sin becomes that of Joseph who fled temptation, crying out, “How could I do this great evil and sin against God?” Or when Paul said woe is me, I am the greatest of sinners.
or David who cries out to God regarding his sin
Titus 1:9 “Holding to the faithful word according to the teaching, that he may be able both to encourage with sound teaching and to convict those contradicting it.”
Notice this verse does not say we are to call out sinners and their sin, but rather preach and teach with encouraging sound scripture and to convict those who oppose it. How many times do we see people spend endless conversations telling people they are sinners and what they do is sin…
Just tell them about Jesus and let the Holy Spirit convict.
Again John 16:8-9 the GS comes to convict, our job is to preach the gospel
Monday Aug 22, 2022
Monday Aug 22, 2022
Wake the Faith up Slayer… This is Garth Heckman with the David Alliance and you can reach me at
Brought to you by wellbuiltbody.com Gym Apparel for men and women that rocks and shocks and ain’t for everybody - but just might be for you. wellbuiltbody.com
I just got back into bow hunting after a short 37 year lay off. how much did things change in 37 years? Everything…
In fact I just bought my son a bow… we are both now in the learning curve… but even in a few weeks I have learned a ton. Dan McCarthy and his youtube videos have been a God send.
What’s a spine?
What’s a nock
Fletching
shaft
Now if you are into this you are probably thinking what a nob… this is easy
Same thing with cooking. I had no idea other than how to make toast.
I watched my wife for years, I asked a lot of questions… she at first would get mad… I wanted to learn.
Now I make some great meals. I especially make some amazing sauces, including my own green sauce or salsa verde… my own recipe. I watch cooking shows, I watch cooking videos, I subscribe to cooking youtube channels.
The learning process in shooting, or cooking or even brain surgery is doing with the learning.
How do you get to be a specialist in your faith walk? Well lots of learning. again I read books on spiritual disciplines, I listen to podcasts of theologians and preachers and teachers, I subscribe to youtube channels, I read dozens of different translations of the bible, I have a few theology degrees and I hang out with other smart driven faith followers… but I do as well as learn.
Scripture is pretty clear in how to grow in our faith.
Jn. 15 15 “I am the true vine, and my Father is the gardener. 2 He cuts off every branch in me that bears no fruit, while every branch that does bear fruit he prunes so that it will be even more fruitful. 3 You are already clean because of the word I have spoken to you. 4 Remain in me, as I also remain in you. No branch can bear fruit by itself; it must remain in the vine. Neither can you bear fruit unless you remain in me.
- Study - Plug into the vine, Gods word, his spirit
- persevere - Remain… there will be tests, bad weather, lots of fertilizer and insects… but you must remain.
- Grow/ mature in the faith -if you don’t mature, grow in the faith you will die. You will in fact be cut off.
what does it say in verse 5 “I am the vine; you are the branches. If you remain in me and I in you, you will bear much fruit; apart from me you can do nothing.
We are doing… yes doing while plugged into him, but we are doing. We are not just simply learning or going to church but we are doing.
Yesterday in church God told me to pray for someones arches… nope, at the end of service I need to pray for someones arches… nope. I wasn’t thrown I am learning by doing… and after service a man came up to me and said hey thanks for praying for my arches… i just didn’t want to come up.
STudy
Persevere
Grow
And I might add NOW!
Friday Aug 19, 2022
Friday Aug 19, 2022
Wake the Faith up Slayer… This is Garth Heckman with the David Alliance and you can reach me at
Brought to you by wellbuiltbody.com Gym Apparel for men and women that rocks and shocks and ain’t for everybody - but just might be for you. wellbuiltbody.com
Oscar Wilde was quoted as saying “I can resist everything except temptation”. But the thought still remains… how does one resist temptation… It might be easier and weirder than you think.
What to do when you are tempted?
Run away like Joseph and Potiphars wife… sure
Pray? ok, thats a good one.
Confess to a strong Christian brother? not a bad idea
Block and stay away from the temptation… again smart move…
But what if I said there is another way that might seem a little weird?
Eph. 5:3 Let there be no sexual immorality, impurity, or greed among you. Such sins have no place among God’s people. 4 Obscene stories, foolish talk, and coarse jokes—these are not for you. Instead, let there be thankfulness to God.
And Again in
17 Don’t act thoughtlessly, but understand what the Lord wants you to do. 18 Don’t be drunk with wine, because that will ruin your life. Instead, be filled with the Holy Spirit, 19 singing psalms and hymns and spiritual songs among yourselves, and making music to the Lord in your hearts. 20 And give thanks for everything to God the Father in the name of our Lord Jesus Christ.
What is temptation?
Its wanting something, its a craving, its a sinful desire, its a deep pull.
Well yes but it goes much beyond that. Temptation is about what you want. Its is a selfish, greedy, self centered want.
Temptation is simply “all about you”.
Temptation is me me me me
So when Paul says if you are facing all kinds of temptations give thanks it sounds weird until you realize that Thankfulness is selfless. it takes your focus off of you. You almost never hear anyone tell themselves how thankful they are for themselves. You never thank yourself because it just sounds self centered and honestly Pompous!
You thank others for what they did. You thank them with words that go out of your ME ME ME ME zone and into a world of how they feel. I am giving thanks to make you feel good, to encourage you, to lift your spirits up. I am giving thanks to others, to God and Jesus for what they did. True thankfulness has nothing to do with what I want or what I did.
The very nature of thankfulness destroys temptation because it changes your focus off of you and onto others.
Its hard to be tempted when I am thinking about others.
Are you feeling tempted? Start to practice thankfulness especially to God and watch how quickly your focus changes and how fast the temptation will die!
Thursday Aug 18, 2022
Thursday Aug 18, 2022
Wake the Faith up Slayer… This is Garth Heckman with the David Alliance and you can reach me at
Brought to you by wellbuiltbody.com Gym Apparel for men and women that rocks and shocks and ain’t for everybody - but just might be for you. wellbuiltbody.com
WE assume David killed Goliath because of some supernatural ability or some God given secret…
So David was good with a sling. So were 700 other men in scripture. They could toss a rock at a hundred yards and hit a target.
Well David had a great family upbringing - uhm no! His Dad forgot about him. He didn’t even recognize him. He put him in the last place possible to even gain any recognition.
David had a great job and preparation… uh no and no.
Well i got it. David was anointed King so that is why he was able to kill Goliath. Hold on skippy, King Saul was anointed King and was in fact KING! If simply being anointed was all it took then he could have killed him.
Why did David kill goliath? he was a singer first and then a slinger. He was intimate with Jesus. he spent his time as a shepherd writing poetry about God, singing about God, talking to God.
What is funny is in this story it says hat the soldiers of Israel were getting up every morning and chanting their war cry… and it meant nothing. But while they were busy chanting David was busy Chasing God. He was a man who was After Gods heart. he went after him… are you a man AFTER Gods heart. I hope so, because that is the secret to victory.
Wednesday Aug 17, 2022
Wednesday Aug 17, 2022
Wake the Faith up Slayer… This is Garth Heckman with the David Alliance and you can reach me at
Brought to you by wellbuiltbody.com Gym Apparel for men and women that rocks and shocks and ain’t for everybody - but just might be for you. wellbuiltbody.com
Who do you want to be when you grow up? Fireman, Rock star, NFL player, UFC fighter, Doctor, Homemaker, Mother or even a veterinarian….
But I don’t ever remember as a kid being asked “what do others want you to be like when you grow up…
Charlie Chaplin - 26TH place
it might be a myth…
But what is not a myth is in todays world more than ever we feel a pressure to promote our best version of ourself which in fact is not the real version of ourselves. Even people who truly are the hardest working, the most successful and seem to have it all together may in fact be driven by horrible motives. They are adopted, they are trying to prove their worth to their parents, they have an axe to grind with those who hurt them… whatever the case- even in success you may be a failure in your foundation that produced that success.
Some people won’t like you for being you
some people won’t like you for being someone else
Some people just won’t like you
So why don’t you be the person who doesn’t care and just be who God created you to be.
When you get to heaven God is not going to ask you why you were not more like this person or that person… he is going to ask why you were not like who he created you to be.
Psalm 139:14 I will praise You, for I am fearfully and wonderfully made; Marvelous are Your works, And that my soul knows very well.
Praise = confess you made me spectacular.
Marvelous = distinguished.
YOU MUST LEARN TO CONFESS THAT YOU ARE SPECTACULAR AND DISTINGUISHED! LIKE NO ONE ELSE.
Eph. 2:10 We are a masterpiece…
what does that truly mean? Well yes we are exquisite, and beautiful (and not by the worlds standards) but what it truly means more than anything is we are one of a kind, The only one of its kind. When we talk about the mona lisa we don’t compare it to other Mona Lisa’s… because it is one of a kind.
There are no duplicates of the Mona Lisa… now you may argue and say surely someone has painted a Mona Lisa… yes for sure… but when you ask a true master artist who is also a professional art critic they will laugh at any such suggestion that you can create a duplicate. As one might suggest - you can paint a mona lisa, you can call it a mona lisa, but it is not only a fake but a piece of trash which should never even have the title Mona Lisa mentioned in the same breath as this caricature.
There are no duplicates for you. Be who God created you to be in him and in his word. Do you truly want the formula for happiness? Be the YOU God created YOU to be.
Tuesday Aug 16, 2022
Tuesday Aug 16, 2022
Wake the Faith up Slayer… This is Garth Heckman with the David Alliance and you can reach me at
Brought to you by wellbuiltbody.com Gym Apparel for men and women that rocks and shocks and ain’t for everybody - but just might be for you. wellbuiltbody.com
- Xn Fellowship
Heb. 10: 23 Let us hold tightly without wavering to the hope we affirm, for God can be trusted to keep his promise. 24 Let us think of ways to motivate one another to acts of love and good works. 25 And let us not neglect our meeting together, as some people do, but encourage one another, especially now that the day of his return is drawing near.
Matthew 24:12 Because of the increase of wickedness, the love of most will grow cold, 13 but the one who stands firm to the end will be saved.
We are sheep! We have a shepherd. The wolves do not run straight into the fold… they sneak around and wait for a sheep to start to stray from the fold… then they attack!
STay in the fold. Stay in church. Stay in bible study. Stay in Christian centered friendships.
You will find rest, encouragement, protection from the body.
I have been there. Wiped out, tired, spiritually beat up and I walk into a service (no one knows me) and the worship, the word, the kind conversation by other believers… it sweeps me into the spiritual world.
COVID - Barna - those that were affected the least Emotionally, mentally and physically were those who kept meeting in Christian fellowship during COVID.
Don’t neglect meeting together… You know in China it is against the law to meet together… but they still do. They risk their lives secretly meeting because they know more than most how important it is for their lives to stay hot for God.
When I was in Seattle I was not in a good place. I did not like my church, my pastor, the weather, I was burned out and depressed. I took my youth to a seminar with about 4000 other kids…
How cool. You don’t even have to know those in the body of Christ to be fired up, lifted, and filled with life. Just be in a body of believers.
Monday Aug 15, 2022
Monday Aug 15, 2022
Wake the Faith up Slayer… This is Garth Heckman with the David Alliance and you can reach me at
Brought to you by wellbuiltbody.com Gym Apparel for men and women that rocks and shocks and ain’t for everybody - but just might be for you. wellbuiltbody.com
“if people only sought basic services, Caribous double cappuccinos would cost less than Taco Bells burritos, because the raw ingredients and labor cost less. /but consumers buy more than things, they purchase connections. They purchase by their gut… they purchase passion.
The world may tolerate mediocre Christianity and luke warm living but they will never buy into it.… Worse yet they won’t love it or hate it. And if you try to preach true Christianity with a passive lack luster lifestyle or attitude… as if you are talking about Jesus with just a hunch…. you will turn people off even more. People are not lining up for a religious Christianity… but they will at least have a peaked interest in a person who is passionate about Jesus.
DO you have time for boring people? I don’t. Talk to me about coat hangers or hair scrunchies Or even packing tape - talk passionately and I will listen. Talk to me about the grizzly bear in my closet- as if I’m an inconvenience and you will have to wake me half way through the conversation.
I truly believe that most people reject Christianity due to the delivery and the personality behind it. People get a feel for you, and then reject jesus and walk away justifying it due to your presentation of him.YOUR PRESENTATION OF HIM - NOT FOR WHO HE TRULY IS. You can see it in the disciples lives from Pre- cross and Pre- Holy Spirit filling to the Post Cross and Post HS filling. The difference is astounding.
So what is one to do? Do you just become phony and ramp up your excitement when sharing jesus hoping that they are sold on your enthusiasm and don’t actually smell your barely smoldering Christian walk?
I think sometimes we just need to check our hearts and lives about what we are thankful for and what Jesus did for us. If one truly began to meditate on what the cross did, and on who jesus is and why he would die for me… passion starts to rise.
Many times in my prayer life I imagine someone breaking into my house and storming off with my granddaughter shouting she must die for all your sins. It would hurt me deeply, it would wound me, I would beg the intruder to take me and not her… she is sweet, innocent, her emotions break easily when she sees others hurt, she cares with great compassion… she is the last one to pay a price for my sin. And why do I play this narrative in my mind? Because it helps me connect with what Jesus did… as sweet as my grandkids are, they still don’t even come close to Jesus and the price he paid out of our sin and from his intense and pure life.
I can get passionate about that Jesus, I can tell others about that Jesus. I can gladly be rejected for sharing that Jesus.
The more I focus on the cross, his price, my sin and his grace and forgiveness the deeper my passion grows for him. It quickly becomes evident in my attitude, my smile, my love and my personality.
Remember Rev. 3:16 I threw up, I blew chunks because you were luke warm… meaning you were just like everybody else.
People are not hoping to fill the void inside of them simply by being like everyone else… They are looking for someone to show them a life worth dying for.