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Wednesday Sep 14, 2022
Wednesday Sep 14, 2022
Wake the Faith up Slayer… This is Garth Heckman with the David Alliance and you can reach me at
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A website that is nothing but top ten lists of just about everything. The top 10 car insurance companies, Pepper spray, suntan lotions, NBA players, Milk shakes, Cartoons, love songs, horror movies, the top 10 people born in the 1860’s and who died in the 1920’s… Today we cover our own top ten list but with a twist… Hey i wonder if they have the top ten donuts?
10 Marriage Mistakes That Can Lead to Divorce
1. Having unrealistic expectations. most Christians have unrealistic expectations… what I mean by that is they just want to be a good person… Jesus calls us to do more that what he did.
Many marriages fail because of unrealistic expectations people put on themselves, their partner, and their marriage. Marriage is a serious (and hopefully lifelong) commitment that will have good and bad days, ups and downs, romance and frustration, and obstacles you could not have foreseen from the outset. Because of all these things, expecting your marriage to be in perfect harmony at all times is completely unrealistic! Similarly, expecting yourself and your partner to be perfect at all times is equally unrealistic. People are human, and we must accept mistakes as they come, learn from them, and move on. Another common problem in many marriages is when someone expects their partner to solve all of their problems. You cannot expect your partner to be your therapist. It isn’t fair to them, and frankly, they probably don’t have the proper training to help you deal with your demons. Expecting too much of your partner emotionally will totally drain them, and add stress to their lives. They are there to support you through tough times, not to assume your burden. In order to avoid setting unrealistic expectations, try to focus on acceptance in all its forms. Acceptance of change, frustration, fights, but most importantly, acceptance of your partner, yourself and your union, and all the flaws and strengths that go with it.
2. Poor communication
Communication is KEY. I know that we all know this, but I don’t think many people realize how detrimental poor communication can be to your marriage. A lack of good communication can transform small, resolvable problems into completely insurmountable issues - and in some cases, ‘irreconcilable differences’. Misunderstandings can cause you or your partner to feel unheard and unimportant, which can breed resentment. Good communication is the foundation of any strong relationship, so the lack of it is well... let’s just say NOT good. Not good at all. The thing is, good communication habits can be really difficult to build, and bad communication habits are even harder to break. But your relationship deserves honesty, vulnerability and trust. It requires you and your partner to articulate what is on your mind (out loud, and directly!), so that you can support each other and your emotional needs. Good communication also means talking about the things that aren’t so easy to talk about. You have to be willing to fight, and fight often (but only when necessary, of course), so that problems get resolved and solutions are reached.
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3. Lack of respect. Read Gods word and do it.
Marriage is a partnership of equals. Accepting this fact means that you have you to respect your partner’s actions, choices, opinions and criticism. If there is a lack of respect in your marriage, whether one person lacks respect for the other, or there is a mutual lack of respect, your marriage is likely to fail. A lack of respect can take on many different forms, whether it’s extreme judgement, unnecessary criticism, a superiority complex, a lack of personal accountability, or simply ignoring your spouse. Though it can take on many forms, at the end of the day, these things all point to the same thing; a lack of both trust and equality in your relationship. No one wants to feel like they aren’t respected by their partner. And most people don’t do things to intentionally lose the respect of their partner, either. If you feel like there is a lack of respect in your marriage, you should talk openly about it. Is there a lack of respect because of how a specific incident was handled? Does someone believe they have better judgement? Try to pinpoint the root of the problem, then move forward together to re-establish respect in the relationship by trusting your partner to do the right thing. The golden rule always applies in these situations: treat your partner the way you want to be treated. Show them respect, and if you feel the need to challenge something they’re doing, do so in a gracious and understanding way. Supporting your partner by showing them respect will make them feel valued and engaged in the marriage.
4. Not giving each other space (have your own relationship with Jesus, not someone else’s … i.e. your parents, pastors, friends, hero’s….
No matter how much you like each other, you cannot spend every second of every day together. Too much togetherness can cause you to feel suffocated by your relationship. It can cause you to stay in a total standstill, devoid of growth and exploration. It is important to recognize that marriage is a union between two individuals. Don’t lose your sense of self for the sake of the relationship. Although many believe a true union is the total partnership of two people, it is actually a theory that may end up weakening your marriage in the long run. Taking space away from your spouse will allow you to check in on yourself, and do things that encourage personal growth. Creating these spaces for you and your partner acknowledges a mutual trust that you have for each other, which is an important way to ensure your marriage lasts. Plus, taking space away from each other means that you get to look forward to being together again. Afterall, absence, even for only a few hours, makes the heart grow fonder.
5. Being too independent
While it is important to give your partner space, and encourage personal growth and independence, it is important that you don’t become TOO independent. Becoming too independent can cause your partner to feel marginalized from your life. You want your partner to feel helpful and needed. If you are too independent you risk them feeling undervalued, or even worse, completely left behind. Admittedly, there can sometimes be a fine line between just independent enough, and too independent. In order to walk this line well, It can help to think of you and your partner as a team. Teams work together to make decisions, they support each other, and they grow together. Teams allow and encourage individual growth, but prioritize mutual growth and goals. Cultivating a team mindset will create a stronger, long-term marriage.
6. Decrease in physical intimacy (lack of time in church)
After the initial honeymoon phase of a marriage, your relationship is likely to experience periods characterized by a lack of physical intimacy. It’s important to understand that these dry spells are completely natural, and often related to outside factors such as stress, work, family problems and things of that nature. BUT, if you notice that the dry spell is lasting a little toooooooo long, this can be cause for concern. Physical intimacy is a very important part of marriage, and when it goes away for a long time, it can be very hard to get back. Even if you’ve been married for a significant amount of time, you can become unacquainted and even awkward with each other if you get really out of the groove. You should also acknowledge that the ways in which you are intimate are likely to change over the course of your marriage. Our bodies change as we age, which means that the physical and sexual intimacy will change as well. Make sure that you and your partner are staying in tune with your own bodies - needs, changes, and all - this will help you tune in to each other’s more successfully. Scheduling intimate time together can be a great way to increase the intimacy in your relationship. If you’re not having sex with your partner becuase you are no longer attracted to them, that hints to a problem larger than intimacy issues. Try and figure out what is causing the lack of attraction, Are you fighting often? Are you too stressed out to even think about sex? Is your marriage experiencing a decrease in emotional intimacy? Focus on fixing that first, the intimacy will be sure to follow once you’re off the rocks.
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7. Dishonesty
Honesty is the baseline for trust, and both trust and honesty play a huge role in gaining the respect of another person, especially YOUR person. Even minimal amounts of dishonesty in a marriage can be detrimental, because it normalizes half-truths and white lies. When these things are normalized, lying becomes more and more common, until OOPS!, a big lie slips out and you’re too far down a slippery, slippery slope. Addressing dishonestly in a relationship, first and foremost means being honest with yourself. Why do you feel the need to lie? Are you trying to cover up a mistake you made? Do you want to exaggerate something so you seem more impressive? Be aware of what is motivating you to be dishonest, and challenge your partner to do the same. Additionally, it can be important to evaluate your personal relationship with the truth. Do you think that omitting something is the same as a lie? Does your partner feel the same way? Would you be hurt if your partner lied by omission? Understanding your relationship with honesty, communicating that to your partner and creating an open dialogue about what dishonesty means will ensure that you and your partner are on the same page. If you end up in a situation where you are dealing with dishonesty in your marriage, the only way to hold onto your relationship is by working to rebuild trust, which means open and honest communication moving forward.
8. Refusing to address bad habits
Whether it’s biting your nails, talking over people, or leaving your dirty socks around the house, it’s important to understand that we all have bad habits. At the same time, it’s also important to recognize that habits are breakable. And these habits should not get in the way of a happy marriage. As an individual you should consistently be trying to learn and improve yourself, so that you can be the best version of yourself for you, your partner, and your marriage. If you refuse to address your bad habits, or refuse to take care of your physical and emotional health, your marriage will pay the price. The hardest thing about bad habits though, is that sometimes we don’t even realize we have them. If your partner critiques a certain behavior of yours, it’s important to try and understand their point of view, rather than becoming defensive. You must trust that your partner wants the best for you and the marriage and try to embrace new, healthy habits.
9. Taking your marriage for granted
We often associate marriage with comfort, which, don’t get me wrong, isn’t necessarily a bad thing. Afterall, it’s special to be able to relax into a day to day routine with the person you want to spend the rest of your life with. BUT, it’s important that this level of comfort doesn't lead to laziness, or neglect. Getting too comfortable can lead to overlooking your partner and your relationship. To avoid this marriage mistake, be more intentional and mindful! Pay attention to your spouse, ask them about their day, do nice things for them like you did when you were courting each other. Don’t assume they’re going to stay around forever, unless you put in the necessary work to maintain your relationship.
10. Losing sight of where you started
We change. Our relationships change. Our lives change. There’s pretty much no way to stop any of this change from happening. And most successful marriages actually embrace all of the change that life throws at them. But while you change and grow, it’s critical to remember what your marriage was like when it started. Not all of life’s changes are planned for, some changes can actually totally derail your plans, and not always for the best... If you don’t like where you currently stand (in regards to finances, or location, or social life), don’t just settle for the current situation. You and your partner entered into a marriage with a shared vision for your lives and for the future, and even after all that life has thrown at you, you probably still share the same (or at least a pretty similar) vision. If you lose sight of what you wanted at the beginning of your marriage, it will be hard to recover from huge changes or blows to your life plans, which as we just discussed, are inevitable! But if you remember where you started, and that you started there with your partner, you are much more likely to recover when life knocks you down.
Tuesday Sep 13, 2022
Tuesday Sep 13, 2022
Wake the Faith up Slayer… This is Garth Heckman with the David Alliance and you can reach me at
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Sitting as a kid reading up on black bears in order to do a book report. I sat there thinking, I love learning (what I am interested in) I love writing, I love speaking, I love making people laugh and think and teaching new things… to bad there’s not a job like that….
I remember sitting in the little east high school theatre taking the SAT or ACT test. And I knew this didn’t matter in my life. I knew my score would suck, but I also knew it would not matter. I am not saying- don’t study. I am just saying if you know your strengths and you are being tested on your weaknesses, don’t worry about it. Put all your effort into your strengths.
I knew so young that my gifts were not based on math scores or english or even my ability to memorize algorithms or write code…
In fact I hate english but it didn’t stop me from writing 13 books, I have a hard time memorizing but it didn’t stop me from writing and recording songs or playing guitar and playing drums…
I never tried to focus on my weaknesses…
Back to my story about being in 5th grade and thinking wow, wouldn’t it be great to have a job where you read, study, write and then speak… and uh yes that is a lot of what I do now as a pastor….
My son is a genius. Almost a perfect ACT SAT score.
My younger son is more of the street smart type. If your going to go to war my oldest will draw up the strategy, my youngest will lead the war. but what is most important to me is that they both know their gifts, talents, abilities and strengths.
So important to know your gifts, talents and abilities.
Gift- great voice, you had nothing to do with it
Talents - your genetics combined with your hard work
Abilities- typically sheer work
Strengths are a combination of all 3 used in the right place with the right people at the right time.
One of my gifts is I can encourage and fill others up. Much of my gift or at least it’s impact is due to how much I have spent with the gift giver.
One of the reasons Jesus came is so that the soul could feel it’s worth. And once you feel your worth you no longer run after money or fame or popularity… you no longer run after what you think will give you worth… you just simply rest in his worth being you.
Take time today to write down what your Gifts, talents, abilities are how they can be your strengths… it will leave you with the road map to begin to feel what God feels for you.
Monday Sep 12, 2022
Friday Sep 09, 2022
Friday Sep 09, 2022
Wake the Faith up Slayer… This is Garth Heckman with the David Alliance and you can reach me at
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It feels so good. I mean right in the middle of feeling the worst of the worst you can just do this and feel incredible. You know those times when you do, say, act in ways that make life miserable… and all you have to do is this one thing… and aaahhhhh its all better!
I remember in 7th grade I was at Orange-way big store. Just think of a K-mart. I stole an album… now it was a Aerosmith album… so it was kinda worth the risk… anyway… I got busted. They called the cops… but the real story is what happened in the back room…
When I confessed I couldn’t say it loud enough or just say it enough…it felt that good. Yes my mom and dad were furious and very very disappointed (which actually hurt the most) but I had no more guilt. I confessed and even prayed to God to forgive me and it was amazing… even though I knew I was going to pay a big price with my parents… and with Prange way (I could no longer shop there… hey I wonder if I can get my wife to shoplift on amazon prime and get busted so she can no longer shop there… uh, anyway) Yes there was a big set of penalties… but confession actually made those penalties ok to deal with. Because I knew I was back in right standing with myself, my God and my parents. Listen to this Psalm after David throws down on Bathsheba, kills her husband and then lies about it.
Psalm 32:1-8
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Oh, what joy for those
whose disobedience is forgiven,
whose sin is put out of sight!
2
Yes, what joy for those
whose record the Lord has cleared of guilt,[b]
whose lives are lived in complete honesty!
3
When I refused to confess my sin,
my body wasted away,
and I groaned all day long.
4
Day and night your hand of discipline was heavy on me.
My strength evaporated like water in the summer heat. Interlude
5
Finally, I confessed all my sins to you
and stopped trying to hide my guilt.
I said to myself, “I will confess my rebellion to the Lord.”
And you forgave me! All my guilt is gone. Interlude
6
Therefore, let all the godly pray to you while there is still time,
that they may not drown in the floodwaters of judgment.
7
For you are my hiding place;
you protect me from trouble.
You surround me with songs of victory.
This doesn’t sound like a man who is ashamed, or saddened or sick inside anymore. it sounds like a man who was forgiven.
So today… lets just anti up and deal with our sin and guilt knowing that God will welcome us with his forgiveness and joy!
Thursday Sep 08, 2022
Thursday Sep 08, 2022
Wake the Faith up Slayer… This is Garth Heckman with the David Alliance and you can reach me at
Brought to you by wellbuiltbody.com Gym Apparel for men and women that rocks and shocks and ain’t for everybody - but just might be for you. wellbuiltbody.com
Patrick Bet-David sent out an email 2 weeks ago that really hit me hard. I’ll read it to you.
I was driving home from work a few years ago when a friend of mine called me to ask if I could mentor him.
He wanted to start a business, and I was like, “Sure no problem.”
So we met at a restaurant, he explained what he wanted to do, and I started challenging him on what he needed to do and what suggestions I had.
And as I was talking, I noticed a weird look on this guy’s face.
So I asked if everything was right
He paused for a minute and said…
“You know what Pat, I don't know why you’re challenging me so hard. I thought you were just gonna motivate me and tell me that I can do it.”
Now, why am I telling you this story, Garth?
You see, most people say they want to be successful…
But the problem is… they’re not willing to get challenged.
Most people are just looking for motivation.
And over the last few days it has morphed into this idea
I can’t get away from this thought…
What if you just cut away everyone in your life who was not all out for Jesus. I don’t mean You only hang with people who are super spiritual wacky, only talk about Jesus. but those who you know for a fact by the example they set, are all in it for Jesus. They witness on a regular basis, they have a consistent proven quiet time, they know their bibles, they are not easily swayed by opinions or fear or media or even their boss or circumstances… They do not look at porn, they have not had affairs, they do not gossip… they are not about the latest toys or money or reputation… they have a rock solid self esteem because they know who they are in Christ… they are proven.
So what if you cut out all of those people in your life who were not like that…
Now let me say this… I hang around sinners, but I am now cutting out people who I know have a negative influence on me. Look there are so called Christians who for some reason I know have a negative affect on me, and again there are some non Christians who do not have a negative affect on me… but none the less
Now again listen to me. I am not saying you are no longer friendly, nor do you only hang out with Christians… but all of those people you talk to, hang with, do lunch with, all of those people you give an ear to WHO YOU KNOW HAVE SUCK THE SPIRITUAL LIFE OUT OF YOU AND DON’T GIVE ANY SPIRITUAL FIRE BACK…. you just don’t anymore. And more than that you take your worst influence and cut that person out as well… and who is that worst influence? Its you. So how do you cut you out… well it truly comes down to how you spend your time. Don’t allow YOU to just randomly or habitually do what you always do. You must consciously fill your time with others who fill your spiritual bucket up and overflowing.
Here is my list of who I cut out of my life in the last few years to heighten the impact of those I have left in my life to fill.
Jarod, Justin, Elijah, Pete, Wendy, Abby,
Now some of these people left my circle and I just let them leave… where as before I am so loyal I would have tried to keep them around…
And there are quite a few more I have cut out just in social media and in the gym, by not wasting my time talking to them… and honestly, most of these - like 95% of them are so called Christians. But I am trying to be more like Jesus by spending time with those who are more like Jesus.
What would your life be like right now if you had cut out all the fluff and meaningless and poor relationships in your life 3 years ago and filled your time with strong, vibrant Godly relationships? I bet if you had done this, it would be radically different. So start now.
One secret people stumble on as they mature and grow deeply in God is they realize that importance of cutting away branches that do not bear fruit in their lives.
Jesus said in John 15 that a branch that does not bear fruit is cut off from the vine. Do you have relationships in your life that do not bear fruit… cut them off.
And now what? Find men and mentors, find women and witnesses that are strong in the faith. check out other bible studies, other church services, ask around and find out who is the real deal when it comes to understanding the heart of God. Yes we are trying to win people to Christ… and that is my number one priority, but it does not mean I have to fill my life and my time with those who are not completely sold out and or leave a bad taste in my spiritual life.
“Leave the presence of a fool, for there you do not meet words of knowledge. The wisdom of the prudent is to discern his way, but the folly of fools is deceiving. Fools mock at the guilt offering, but the upright enjoy acceptance” (Prov 14:7-9).
Wednesday Sep 07, 2022
Wednesday Sep 07, 2022
Wake the Faith up Slayer… This is Garth Heckman with the David Alliance and you can reach me at
Brought to you by wellbuiltbody.com Gym Apparel for men and women that rocks and shocks and ain’t for everybody - but just might be for you. wellbuiltbody.com
Give, and it will be given to you. Good measure, pressed down, shaken together, running over, will be put into your lap. For with the measure you use it will be measured back to you.”
Do not be deceived: God is not mocked, for whatever one sows, that will he also reap. For the one who sows to his own flesh will from the flesh reap corruption, but the one who sows to the Spirit will from the Spirit reap eternal life. And let us not grow weary of doing good, for in due season we will reap, if we do not give up. So then, as we have opportunity, let us do good to everyone, and especially to those who are of the household of faith.
The point is this: whoever sows sparingly will also reap sparingly, and whoever sows bountifully will also reap bountifully.
Like in farming, spring is when you sow the seeds, water and weed and plants begin to grow. Summer is a time of rapid growth, when a healthy crop just seemingly explodes and everything is in bloom. Autumn is marked by abundance, maybe some debriefing in what to do next year and its when you harvest and store your crop. And finally, winter is a slow, quiet season where you live off the harvest you worked so hard to cultivate, You problem solve, you prepare you plans and you work on your equipment… getting everything ready.
We saw it during the devastating 2008-2009 recession. Some businesses got hit hard that winter, but after about two seasons were able to recover their financial footing. Others either went bust or hadn’t fully recovered before the pandemic and current recession knocked them down again.
Patrick Bet-David has been saying for the last year, cash is king. Save your money because in the next couple of years you will be able to pick up investments at a quarter of the cost. If you like Baseball cards… the Mickey Mantle 1.9 million dollar card will go for way less than that. And if you are just looking for some quick stocks… the ones with history that drop in price by 50% are easy to purchase and hang on to… Maybe you just want a few new pieces of gym equipment for your basement… hold on, those deals are coming. But in a winter, in a recession it can be a good thing if you are ready.
Are you ready for Winter?
Are you ready for winter in your health? Your marriage? Your finances? Your job? Your church? With your kids?
SO LETS BREAK THESE DOWN…
health? If you hit a major health concern have you planted the seeds of healthy eating, exercise and healthy choices (i.e. no drugs or alcohol) so that you are best set up to beat your next health challenge? Winters coming.
Your marriage? Have you proven yourself trustworthy and dependable in your marriage to handle the next crisis? Does your spouse hear you say “i love you” enough during the week? Have you consistently sacrificed and kept your vows loving them in good, bad, rich, poor, healthy, sick, stressed, joyful situations? Winters coming.
Your finances?
How much do you have in your savings right now? Could you make it 6 months with just your savings? Do you have multiple streams of income? Are you on a budget? Do you tithe? Do you invest? Do you save? You can handle just about an financial crisis if you have a strong savings account and a good budget. Winters coming.
Your job?
have you networked with people by helping them and building friendships so that you have abundant contacts to find new employment? Have you been a great employee so that you get a great reference? Have you continued on your skills and advanced beyond your initial degree or what landed you that job? Are you still hungry to advance in your career? Winters coming.
Your church?
Do you have a strong enough spiritual walk that if your pastor gets busted for porn, or financial impropriety or an affair… are you strong enough that you will stay committed to Christ and that church? Are you in a place where you are serving regularly in that church? Do you sacrificially give and tithe so that if you are ever in need the church would gladly help you out because of your past sacrifices? Winter is coming.
Your kids?
Finally do you have a strong enough relationship with your kids that when your daughter starts dating she will actually still listen to you and take your advice. Do you spend time with them doing things they like so when you become uncool to them or their friends they still want to hang with you. Have you taught them skills in life and interests that have helped connect you two. Do they see your pray for them and be an example of how to love your spouse? Winter is coming.
Tuesday Sep 06, 2022
Tuesday Sep 06, 2022
Wake the Faith up Slayer… This is Garth Heckman with the David Alliance and you can reach me at
Brought to you by wellbuiltbody.com Gym Apparel for men and women that rocks and shocks and ain’t for everybody - but just might be for you. wellbuiltbody.com
I will never forget walking into a waiting room and sitting there for a Dr. appointment. And these two older men who knew each other were just talking away, a little loud due to them both being hard of hearing… and after a good 20 minutes of talking about hobbies, the war and politics one of the mens wives came out and he said “well the boss is here so I need to go”. Then he leans over to this other man and says “say, what was your name again?”. it struck me instantly that at that age, they realized relationships are most important…
In the next month I am going to hang out with some good friends… some in Texas (Jack Ingram and the boys Franchise Blues Destroyers) Then I am bow hunting with some friends, then I am going on my yearly muskie trip with some of my oldest… were talking from grade school friends way up north and then in November I am going Deer hunting with a friend up on his 200 acre plot of land in Nor’dern Minnesota… and I am more excited about being with friends then I am with what we are actually doing…
Good friends are good for you! Friends can help you celebrate good times and provide support during bad times. Friends prevent isolation and loneliness and give you a chance to offer needed companionship, too.
I love football, but I love it even more with friends, I love the UFC but I love it even more with friends. I love traveling and speaking and ministering around the globe, but I love it even more with friends.
What does friendship do?
- Increase your sense of belonging and purpose, if you have a mission in life - friends help you better understand it, practice it and make you better at it.
- Boost your happiness and reduce your stress
- Improve your self-confidence and self-worth
- Help you cope with traumas, such as divorce, serious illness, job loss or the death of a loved one
- Encourage you to change or avoid unhealthy lifestyle habits, such as excessive drinking or lack of exercise
Friends also play a significant role in promoting your overall health. Adults with strong social connections have a reduced risk of many significant health problems, including depression, high blood pressure and an unhealthy body mass index (BMI). In fact, studies have found that older adults who have meaningful relationships and social support are likely to live longer than their peers with fewer connections.
Why is it sometimes harder to develop friends and keep current friends close…
One of the main reasons I hear a lot is that a spouse is more of a homebody, loner, outgoing of truly likes their alone time, which is most of the time. Whaddya do? Allow them to have their alone time, but also reassure them that you are a better spouse if you have your friend time.
Also lets not forget Friendships may take a back seat to other priorities, such as work, caring for children or grandchildren or aging parents and maybe even your own health challenges. You and your friends may have grown apart due to changes in your lives or interests. Or maybe you've moved to a new community and haven't yet found a way to meet people.
But here is the good news… you don’t need a lot of friends. When it comes to friends it is always quality over quantity. In fact here is where I quote a scripture or two… but let me just say this, when the bible talks about the value of friends, it almost always speaks of A friend and not a group of friends.
So try this out for size today, text your friend and tell them how much you appreciate them… and if you don’t have A friend, then be that friend for someone else and watch how God will cause you to reap a few of your own A friends.
Thursday Sep 01, 2022
Thursday Sep 01, 2022
Wake the Faith up Slayer… This is Garth Heckman with the David Alliance and you can reach me at
Brought to you by wellbuiltbody.com Gym Apparel for men and women that rocks and shocks and ain’t for everybody - but just might be for you. wellbuiltbody.com
There are times that if you peeked inside my life you might say “wow God has not taken care of you whatsoever… You could look at the circumstances that were immediately apparent and have plenty of proof to believe I had been forgotten by God… But guess what, Im here to tell you God took care of me the whole way.
God took care of them…
Moses given up by his mother
adopted by his enemy
Raised in a secular environment
Killed a man
Accused by his fellow Israelites
Fled to the desert for his own 40 years of wandering
Went to Pharaoh and time after time was denied
Fled Egypt to the sea and stuck until split the water
Stuck out in the desert another 40 years
God took care of him
David wasn’t even acknowledged by his Father or Brothers
he had a bad job and was unnoticed and uncared for
He had to face a giant
he was mocked by his brothers
He was anointed King and then the current king spent 23 years trying to kill him
He was wanted by the phillistines
He was a pretty bad father
He knocked up his neighbors wife
he got her husband killed
His kids turned against him
One of his wives ended up detesting him
Paul was an arrogant cocky man of power
paul persecuted the church killing many
Paul was untrusted by the disciples
Paul was tormented demonically
Paul was shipwrecked, whipped, beaten, stoned, imprisoned, robbed, argued with, falsely accused… Bitten by snakes and cursed
all of these men learned how to rely on God in the good, the bad (and there was lots of it) and the ugly.
God will take care of you.
Thursday Sep 01, 2022
Thursday Sep 01, 2022
Wake the Faith up Slayer… This is Garth Heckman with the David Alliance and you can reach me at
Brought to you by wellbuiltbody.com Gym Apparel for men and women that rocks and shocks and ain’t for everybody - but just might be for you. wellbuiltbody.com
How do they do it?
What’s their secret?
How are they so lucky?
I know they work hard… but what exactly do they do… how do they do it?
What’s the real question… What is your system?
So you want to know the bible better, you want to hear Gods voice more, you want to be more comfortable witnessing, you want to conquer porn, laziness, bitterness, gossip. You want to tithe AND give an offering on top of it every week. You want to be involved in that ministry, or marry that woman or man, or heal that person… Regardless of what God has place inside your heart, regardless of the desires he has given you…
WHAT IS YOUR SYSTEM, YOUR PROCESS.
it goes beyond goals, wants hopes desires… you need action steps.
Next find people who are doing it… and ask them their system, their process to get there. Proverbs 15:22
22 Without counsel plans fail,
but with many advisers they succeed.
Put your own personal system or process in place and get someone to hold you accountable.
Do it and track it!
Philippians 4:13
13 I can do all things through him who strengthens me.
Debrief every day and every week and every month as to its effectiveness.
Luke 14:28
28 For which of you, desiring to build a tower, does not first sit down and count the cost, whether he has enough to complete it?
Then rework the process and debrief with your mentors.
Count every single little thing that is a step in the right direction.
Deprogram every thought that comes against your chosen path and counter it with scripture.
Finally look for the shooting star moments. These are the cool unexpected things that happen when you are just hanging out pursuing your chosen life. You want this… and it’s starting to happen, but you also get this and this and this…
Proverbs 16:9
9 The heart of man plans his way,
but the LORD establishes his steps.
i.e. you want to start to witness more… but over time you learn the confidence to just talk to anyone about anything and you use it in real life asking for a raise, or asking a girl out or asking for a favor from a stranger…
Wednesday Aug 31, 2022
Wednesday Aug 31, 2022
Wake the Faith up Slayer… This is Garth Heckman with the David Alliance and you can reach me at
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Have you ever eaten something so hot that your mouth loses all sense of color and your eyes can’t breathe anymore? And you say Garth that doesn’t make sense…. well thats where we are going today
There are a lot of things that don’t make sense?
God doesn’t make sense
There is no existent evidence of God… You can’t see him, touch him, taste him, hear him, feel him…
And in fact do we really know what A God is… how to define him? Do we really understand the concept of God. Oh we have volumes upon volumes of writings on the images, concepts and ideologies of who God is… but do we really know what we are defining or talking about or debating until wee hours of the evening… we might as well be jabbering over why squirrels are like the planet Venus. It makes no sense. There is just no proof, no facts.
If God is the idea or concept of what we think of as God.. and yet our concept is still limited.. then we should have so much more illumination as to what and who he is. But we really don’t. Even if we take every word from every bible translation and from every Christian writer and file it under total recall… we still will not know God, or much about him. Again in light of what a God concept means.
And for that matter does anyone or any religion really know God or a God or anything truly about God.
Look lets say there is a God… that doesn’t really help us much… because then it only leaves me with 29.3 million more questions.
If there is a God… why evil.
If there is a God… why not just show up and prove yourself
If there is a God… why don’t you answer my prayers
If there is a God… Why not kill all the bad people
If there is a God why did my sister die of alcoholism?
If there is a God why am I poor?
If there is a God why won’t you make my relationships better.
Why do the people who don’t believe in God seem to do so much better in life than me???
The concept of God just doesn’t make sense… it just doesn’t. Let me be very clear, I am a die hard, all out, 100%, bought by the blood, all in, sold out, on fire follower and disciple of Jesus Christ… THEE GOD!
And yet I am telling you it doesn’t always make sense… most times not much at all… and I am ok with that. Why?
I do know for a fact that he loves us… This Jesus God/man in history is a proven fact. He was a real person, and wether you believe him to be God or not, he did in fact die on a cross because he loved us. And even if you think the concept of him dining for our sins is ludicrous - you gotta admit that he did do it because he loved us… God or not, thats pretty radical.
I also know that
I don’t have to understand him to know him… Do you think the friends of Einstein were as smart as Einstein? Einstein was quite a ladies man… do you think his girlfriends wore thick glasses, greasy frizzy hair, and read huge books… not for a second, but they were intimate with him.
But here is the big reason, the main reason the maximum reason Im ok with God not making sense…
Yesterday I had an electrician come to our church and we met outside back in the property…
The electrician opens up a huge electrical box, that says Danger, high power, high voltage, you might die, you are an idiot to tamper with this….and I find some calm gratitude that I do not need to know anything about this.. Rather someone much smarter will do what only he can do, and in a few hours we will have power and light.
I was glad I didn’t have an electrician the same intelligence as me… or we all would have died…
Im glad I don’t have a God the same intelligence as me…
I find a deep satisfaction that I do not have a God I can figure out… for if I could, he wouldn’t be much of a God.