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Monday May 09, 2022
Monday May 09, 2022
Wake the Faith up Slayer… This is Garth Heckman with the David Alliance and you can reach me at
Brought to you by wellbuiltbody.com Gym Apparel for men and women that rocks and shocks and ain’t for everybody - but just might be for you. wellbuiltbody.com
July 9th - Saturday - A Father Daughter/Son conference called PROTECTOR! Speakers on how to protect your son and daughter Emotionally, physically, sexually, socially and spiritually. Ages 10 and up if you feel your student is mature enough. Price $100 per family. At HillSpring Church New prague south of the Twin Cities
Just landed a speaker who will challenge you how to keep your kids safe from human trafficking… you say well my kid will never fall into that… oh not so fast. You obviously don’t know what you are talking about… so get ready to sign up!
Using “DO YOU BELIVE WOMEN SHOULD PREACH - BECAUSE PAUL SAYS THEY SHOULDN’T!
First of all we were discussing or even debating a totally different topic… and she came at me with this. Now I believe what she meant to ask me was do I believe women should be senior pastors… and I do not… why? I just don’t see it clearly in scripture… that is not to say women can’t be pastors, or evangelists, or prophets or worship leaders or teachers etc… In fact we see these positions filled by women in scripture. My question is this: What does Paul mean when he says women should be silent in the church.
Lets look at the actual verse.
1 Cor. 14:34 Women should remain silent in the churches. They are not allowed to speak, but must be in submission, as the law says.
GK: (gynaikes) (sigatōsan) (en) (tais) (ekklēsiais) (autais)
(epitrepetai) (lalein) (alla) (hypotassesthōsan) (kathōs) (ho) (nomos) (legei)
Why read it in the greek? Because it is very telling. Paul uses a word for speak in the greek…
speak: Gk Lahleo - speak or talk
In all other places when Paul is talking about Preaching he uses the word: euaggelizó
So Paul is not stating that women should not preach nor that they should not have places of ministry in the church…
the woman who threw this out was actually using it as a Red Herring - this is one of the 21 flaws in debates.. and we are going to cover these in the next few days…
THIS IS A RED HERRING (ONE OF THE 21 FALLACIES USED IN DEBATE OR ARGUMENTS)
- Red herring A red herring is an emotionally charged issue brought up to divert attention from the subjec
But still why Did paul say this?
First rule in hermeneutics is to understand the context… and then we will look at the word Submission.
the context is Corinth was a city that had the temple of Diana which offered 6000 prostitutes as priests… and your worship involved sex with prostitutes that again were called priests… I bet most men did not miss church back in those days… right?
So when many of these women came to a saving knowledge of Jesus Christ they flooded the churches and CAME from a situation where they were used to being in charge, speaking up and were not used to the formal understanding of how a church service was run… and along with all the other shenanigans that were going on in the church - and it was messed up! Paul was trying to restore order in church so people could worship. Remember Jesus with the whip in the temple… it was not so much that they were selling animals, it was that they kept the non jews from having a place to worship.
So paul says you must submit…. hypotassesthōsan
This word is not a harsh word like sit, stay, shake hands… you know like you wold use with your dog. It simply means abide by the guidelines that are expected of you. Look you must Submit at the convenience store- there are certain guidelines that the clerk must abide by, there are certain guidelines you must abide by… it is the simple understanding of protocol. So Paul says this… Women please abide by the rules or the protocol of the pastor so that we can maintain an atmosphere of worship and teaching.
so what’s today about Garth? Simply put, are you creating an atmosphere wherever you are at that gives people the ability to worship. You might be out of line by your language, or you dress, or your attitude or even your spiritual lukewarmness.
Be the person who creates an atmosphere of worship!
Friday May 06, 2022
Friday May 06, 2022
Wake the Faith up Slayer… This is Garth Heckman with the David Alliance and you can reach me at
Brought to you by wellbuiltbody.com Gym Apparel for men and women that rocks and shocks and ain’t for everybody - but just might be for you. wellbuiltbody.com
July 9th - Saturday - A Father Daughter/Son conference called PROTECTOR! Speakers on how to protect your son and daughter Emotionally, physically, sexually, socially and spiritually. Ages 10 and up if you feel your student is mature enough. Price $100 per family. At HillSpring Church New prague south of the Twin Cities
Just landed a speaker who will challenge you how to keep your kids safe from human trafficking… you say well my kid will never fall into that… oh not so fast. You obviously don’t know what you are talking about… so get ready to sign up!
Ever been fatigued?
Compassion fatigue – too many things to care about so we tune out all of them.
Compassion international – sponsor a child
Sara McGlaughlin – animals
Aids –
Give to the Ukrainian people
Save the planet
Childrens hospital
Special Olympics
Red Cross
Salvation Army – kettle drive
I think our faith sometimes gets fatigued as well.
Sure God can Move mountains
Sure God can heal
Sure God can do miracles
But just not for me! Its only for a special few.
Gary Palermo came to our church and had a huge revival. People were getting saved, people were getting healed, he was giving words of wisdom and prophecies.
It was supposed to be one week and it turned into 6.
One particular night we got done with worship and Gary came forward and said those who believe God is here to heal them come up right now! You have 60 seconds… A few people maybe 16 out of 600 came forward. He went down the line and prayed for each one and each one got healed. When he was done everyone was expecting him to preach like he did so many nights in a row – He prayed and dismissed. Afterwards there were people who were mad, they came for healing but did not go forward. They were hoping for a build up or to be called out of the crowd and to be healed.
When I asked him that night over a late night supper what was up he said they were the only ones who truly believed tonight for their healing.
If I brought someone up here right now who needed healing of ruptured discs in their back – and I asked you do you think God can heal this person
I think we would say yes
Will he?
Probably not!
We see a story in the gospels of this type of faith!
Mark 9:20-25
20So they brought him. When the spirit saw Jesus, it immediately threw the boy into a convulsion. He fell to the ground and rolled around, foaming at the mouth.
21Jesus asked the boy's father, "How long has he been like this?"
"From childhood," he answered. 22"It has often thrown him into fire or water to kill him. But if you can do anything, take pity on us and help us."
23" 'If you can'?" said Jesus. "Everything is possible for him who believes."
24Immediately the boy's father exclaimed, "I do believe; help me overcome my unbelief!"
I believe – Pistis – I trust you, I believe in you
Unbelief – But I don’t believe
25When Jesus saw that a crowd was running to the scene, he rebuked the evil[a] spirit. "You deaf and mute spirit," he said, "I command you, come out of him and never enter him again."
Are you like this?
I know God can help my finances – but he probably wont
I know God can help my marriage – but he probably wont
I know God can save my daughter – but he probably wont
I know God can get me a better job - But he probably wont
I know God can heal me but he probably wont
How do we crossover from I know to I believe!
- It is not second hand faith!
Faith does not come by seeing: In this same chapter Peter James and John had just seen Jesus and Moses and Elijah
2. It’s not just authority - They were given that by Christ and were sent out and even used their power and authority.
Luke 10:19 I have given you all authority and power!
This is an action
v. The right, the option to use your power
But what is the difference this time when they come back and have seen God move?
It’s revealed in your secret place.
Thursday May 05, 2022
Thursday May 05, 2022
Wake the Faith up Slayer… This is Garth Heckman with the David Alliance and you can reach me at
Brought to you by wellbuiltbody.com Gym Apparel for men and women that rocks and shocks and ain’t for everybody - but just might be for you. wellbuiltbody.com
July 9th - Saturday - A Father Daughter/Son conference called PROTECTOR! Speakers on how to protect your son and daughter Emotionally, physically, sexually, socially and spiritually. Ages 10 and up if you feel your student is mature enough. Price $100 per family. At HillSpring Church New prague south of the Twin Cities
Just landed a speaker who will challenge you how to keep your kids safe from human trafficking… you say well my kid will never fall into that… oh not so fast. You obviously don’t know what you are talking about… so get ready to sign up!
One rule
Canceling plans last minute
Looking down on you because of what you wear or do
Tailing me to close when I am driving
Spam calls
If you gossip your tongue gets removed by pliers
No Axe body spray in the mens locker room… or should I say boys locker room.
Quit calling top 40 country music - music~!
no smoking or vaping outside your own closet.
If you have a cat you must name it after an old Norwegian demi God… like Gundervansleichen and not popsicle toes
The rich must share their cars and shoes…not their money, just cars and shoes
No yoga pants unless you actually do yoga
No grunting with weights unless its over 600lbs
No complaining unless you actually had a major body part removed
Its ok to be alone, especially if you are hiding from the police
When out to dinner, turn off your phone
Make healthcare free so when I over eat, have obesity problems, diabetes, cavities, congenital heart failure don’t exercise and most other things that are my fault from poor choices - make it so I make you pay.
Get rid of the dewey decimal problem
You never have to study geometry in high school
Are we supposed to keep rules?
Are we supposed to make new ones?
Are we to break rules?
Now Garth lets be reasonable here…
“The reasonable man adapts himself to the world: the unreasonable one persists in trying to adapt the world to himself. Therefore all progress depends on the unreasonable man.”
― George Bernard Shaw, Man and Superman
HAVE YOU EVER HEARD THIS; Please just be reasonable?
Sure, you can follow that lead if you want… but what about people like
Martin Luther King Jr. - Take your place black man
Susan B Anthony - shut up your a woman
Michael Dell - you can’t sell computers you made out of your bathroom.
Jesus Christ
Johnathan Kanter writes:
Ultimately, it wasn’t the fact that Christ preached His ministry that broke the rules; it was the nature of what He spoke about and the fact that He declared Himself God (“Before Abraham was made, I Am.” St John 8:58). Jesus’ teachings centered around rejecting the Talmudic laws of the Pharisees and fulfilling the original Jewish faith as clarified by Him and the apostles He taught (the first Bishops and Popes). Still, many saw His words as subversive and against the doctrinal teachings of the Talmud and the extreme social regulations of pharisaical Judaism, dominant at the time.
hey I got an idea, lets break some rules, lets be incredibly unreasonable. Don’t share your opinion if it is offensive… lets break that rule - but break it in love.
Don’t share your faith with someone who has a different faith? Yeah lets break that rule as well
Don’t pray for people in public places. Break it and break it loud
Don’t witness in public places… people aren’t responsive to cold call witnessing like at the mall or on the street…. uhm break that one boldly
Don’t speak out on social issues that might offend people… break break break
Don’t love all people at all times no matter what? Again this should be broken, smashed and put back together just to break it again.
I would be so bold as to say, if you are trying to share the Gospel in love- its a free for all. Break the rules above and beyond. Never be reasonable with the gospel… because the gospel itself is unreasonable
Paul said to some it is like perfume, to others it smells like Poop. The gospel is based on the unreasonable. A God sends his son, who lives a sinless life, and loves us so much that allows us to kill him to forgive us? Soooo unreasonable… and yet so amazing.
Lets all be a little unreasonable today.
Wednesday May 04, 2022
Wednesday May 04, 2022
Wake the Faith up Slayer… This is Garth Heckman with the David Alliance and you can reach me at
Brought to you by wellbuiltbody.com Gym Apparel for men and women that rocks and shocks and ain’t for everybody - but just might be for you. wellbuiltbody.com
July 9th - Saturday - A Father Daughter/Son conference called PROTECTOR! Speakers on how to protect your son and daughter Emotionally, physically, sexually, socially and spiritually. Ages 10 and up if you feel your student is mature enough. Price $100 per family. At HillSpring Church New prague south of the Twin Cities
Just landed a speaker who will challenge you how to keep your kids safe from human trafficking… you say well my kid will never fall into that… oh not so fast. You obviously don’t know what you are talking about… so get ready to sign up!
Pound the Rock!
I love NBA basketball… huge fan. My son is a sports writer for all Chicago sports teams but his passion is writing for the Bulls and the Bears… he got that from me - and no I don’t consider it child abuse LOL. There are many teams that stand out but one of the great ones is the San Antonio Spurs of the NBA. With five NBA titles since 1999, 22 overall division titles, having won at least 50 games for 18 consecutive seasons, and having missed the playoffs only 5 times in their history, the Spurs and their coach Gregg Popovich make it look easy… but the truth is they have just learned the secret of pounding the rock!
As Daniel Coyle tells us in his fantastic new book The Culture Code: The Secrets of Highly Successful Groups, when you walk into the Spurs facility, you see a giant rock and hammer. Then you see the following quote, written in the five native languages of Spurs players, adorning the walls:
“When nothing seems to help, I go look at a stonecutter hammering away at his rock perhaps a hundred times without as much as a crack showing in it. Yet at the hundred and first blow it will split in two, and I know it was not that blow that did it, but all that had gone before.” – Jacob Riis
I love this idea… and in todays world we have so many haters that get upset with people that are willing to keep pounding the rock. it bothers me when people feel like life is unfair.. boo hoo, they have everything and I don’t. Well guess what- they were willing to pound the rock again and again and again and again and again and again….If you are not willing to pound the rock then don’t be upset at your results and don’t be bitter about others who do.
The same is true in how we see others in their Christian walk… those who seem to have levels of faith that are beyond what we have… they seem to overcome sins that still entangle us, they seem to get their prayers answered and we don’t…. Here is my question.
Are you willing to take your faith - regardless of what level it is at, and just keep pushing it and testing it, and using it, and no matter how many times it fails, you just keep pounding that rock.
2 Kings 13 is a little of the same idea but it is about pounding the arrows.
Pound the arrows
Jehoash king of Israel Comes to Elisha before he is about to die. He is worried about the Arameans who were at war with Israel. Elisha had his shoot an arrow of victory out the window towards the East which is in the direction of their enemies. Then he said Take the arrows from my hand and beat the ground. King Joash beat the ground 3 times. Elisha was ticked and said you should have beaten it many more times. you will have victory but only 3 times. The understanding here is that the King had a short sided vision as to what God can do. A limited faith mindset. Elisha was mad at his short sidedness.
I love Todd Whites testimony about pushing in to be used by God in the supernatural. he is praying for months for people to get healed. He comes home every day to tell his wife about all the people who did not get healed that day when he prayed for them. She is genuinely mad at him. He prays for so many people over the course of 6 months he loses count of how many people and how many prayers did not get answered…. and then one day at work God gives him a word of knowledge and over a stranger and he prays for him and he is healed… and the flood gates open.
Would you have given up after a few days of praying for the sick? Yeah you would have… because you already have. You prayed for a few people for a few things and it didn’t happen and you blew it off with excuses like “it’s not my gift, only pastors can do that, I have to much sin in my life, it wasn’t Gods will etc…”
But the truth is we just were short sided like The king of Israel. We hoped for a little and we were not willing to push in. I would pound that ground until those arrows disintegrated. When the king was pounding the arrows it looked like Israel was going to be defeated by the Arameans. he was hoping for a few victories… God wants so much more for us.
Listen to me today people - don’t doubt God and his power… strike the ground repeatedly! Keep striking… keep praying, keep pushing, keep believing and keep pursuing God and what he has promised - regardless of wether or not that rock cracks… it may take a thousand blows… then a 1000 blows it is!
Tuesday May 03, 2022
Tuesday May 03, 2022
Wake the Faith up Slayer… This is Garth Heckman with the David Alliance and you can reach me at
Brought to you by wellbuiltbody.com Gym Apparel for men and women that rocks and shocks and ain’t for everybody - but just might be for you. wellbuiltbody.com
July 9th - Saturday - A Father Daughter/Son conference called PROTECTOR! Speakers on how to protect your son and daughter Emotionally, physically, sexually, socially and spiritually. Ages 10 and up if you feel your student is mature enough. Price $100 per family. At HillSpring Church New prague south of the Twin Cities
Just landed a speaker who will challenge you how to keep your kids safe from human trafficking… you say well my kid will never fall into that… oh not so fast. You obviously don’t know what you are talking about… so get ready to sign up!
And God is able to make all grace abound to you, so that in all things, at all times, having all that you need, you will abound in every good work.
Eph. 3:20
20 Now to him who is able to do immeasurably more than all we ask or imagine, according to his power that is at work within us, 21 to him be glory in the church and in Christ Jesus throughout all generations, for ever and ever! Amen.
First never doubt his power. If you have a hard time coming up with stories of his power in your life… simply go out at night in the dark and look up into the stars. He is an awesome God. And then begin to ask him to reveal is love and his amazing power to you. His power changed your life, it transformed you, it forgave you your sins, it prepared heaven for you. His power is available to you… push in! PUSH Pray until something Happens!
Second if you want to give God the glory or make God look good it is always available to you. WE don’t seek Gods power just for our goal list, our relationships, our needs wants and desires. No, first and foremost I want his power to do his work and make him look good.. When you want to move in the supernatural, in the super powerful and in the “without measure” realm begin to work for God on Gods priorities…. want to know his priorities? First read the life of Jesus and secondly pray and ask him. You will quickly find out what he wants YOU to do for HIM!
Finally, his power is without measure… it is without end. So use it. If you were heading to Niagara Falls and you started digging through your kitchen for a glass or container to capture the Niagra Falls in…i.e. all of Niagra falls- you would be considered insane.Here is a clue - its not a cup you want, its a hose. His power is infinite and eternal. So plug into it for all areas of your life. Make every area of your life based on Gods priorities and then turn the hose on… stay plugged into him. Seek his continual infilling.
Monday May 02, 2022
Monday May 02, 2022
Wake the Faith up Slayer… This is Garth Heckman with the David Alliance and you can reach me at
Brought to you by wellbuiltbody.com Gym Apparel for men and women that rocks and shocks and ain’t for everybody - but just might be for you. wellbuiltbody.com
July 9th - Saturday - A Father Daughter/Son conference called PROTECTOR! Speakers on how to protect your son and daughter Emotionally, physically, sexually, socially and spiritually. Ages 10 and up if you feel your student is mature enough. Price $100 per family. At HillSpring Church New prague south of the Twin Cities
Just landed a speaker who will challenge you how to keep your kids safe from human trafficking… you say well my kid will never fall into that… oh not so fast. You obviously don’t know what you are talking about… so get ready to sign up!
Q 3 Is anger a sin? YES and NO
Jesus got angry… but he did not sin.
Ps. 7:11 God is angry every day
Mark 3:5 Jesus Got angry at the Pharisees because they said it was a sin to heal on the sabbath.
John 2:13-18 Jesus was angered in the temple
Anger is related to the “fight, flight, or freeze” response of the sympathetic nervous system; it prepares humans to fight. By the way I would add “fight flight, freeze or fit” response. meaning we throw fits and get even more angry but do nothing about it.
If our anger leads to sin (wether in thought or deed) it is a sin… we need to take it to God and ask him to forgive us and help us.
If our anger is in fact hating what God hates, but still does not cause us to do what God would do… then we risk it becoming fleshly anger and sinful.
But if our anger leads us to fight for justice or fight for the needs of others or fight for what God says is holy… well then its a good thing.
Dave Jenkins said “Our outrage as Christians should lead to bringing others into a loving relationship with Christ.”
Godly anger asks us to do what God would do. Which is usually not what our flesh wants to do.
We know the saying “WWJD” what would Jesus do… but I bet most of us never, and I mean never ask that when we are angry, ticked off and outraged.
Anger will either point you to God and his actions or point you to your own feelings and actions… one is a sin the other is freeing and empowering.
When God clear the temple… there are two things you need to know.
He cleared it out not because they were selling animals… and in fact selling animals was a way to help those who came from far distances to buy animals to sacrifice. It was of service to worshippers. But over time they went from selling animals on the outside of the temple to the inside. This area where they were selling them was set aside for non jews to worship God. But the jews set it up as a market to make money off of people- and in fact take away a place for non jews to worship.
It made Jesus angry that someone came in between God and his worshippers. (we serve a jealous God)
Secondly when it says that Jesus cleared out the temple with a whip, it was actually more like a broom. oh sure you could whip people with it, but it typically was used as a broom. But Jesus was so angry he grabbed what was at hand and in anger cleared the temple.
If you are angry, and you are mad because something is unjust and keeping others from knowing God, then ask God to help you do something about it and know that he may use you and what ever is at hand to change the world. Are you so angry that is moves you? Then make sure it moves you closer to God.
Friday Apr 29, 2022
Friday Apr 29, 2022
Wake the Faith up Slayer… This is Garth Heckman with the David Alliance and you can reach me at
Brought to you by wellbuiltbody.com Gym Apparel for men and women that rocks and shocks and ain’t for everybody - but just might be for you. wellbuiltbody.com
July 9th - Saturday - A Father Daughter/Son conference called PROTECTOR! Speakers on how to protect your son and daughter Emotionally, physically, sexually, socially and spiritually. Ages 10 and up if you feel your student is mature enough. Price $100 per family. At HillSpring Church New prague south of the Twin Cities
Just landed a speaker who will challenge you how to keep your kids safe from human trafficking… you say well my kid will never fall into that… oh not so fast. You obviously don’t know what you are talking about… so get ready to sign up!
If sowing means reaping… and it is an iron clad rule in scripture…
Then every day we should be willing to give freely
Oh, not just our money, though that is a big one, you must also just simply give where there is a need.
Give someone some extra time… listen instead of excusing yourself away from the conversation.
Give someone you don’t know some much needed advice.
Give someone a smile… yes a complete stranger.
Give someone a hug… I dare ya.
Give someone a ride…
Give someone the best seat
Give someone the tickets to the game
Give someone a walk along as they head out to their car
Give someone a compliment on their clothes or weight loss
Give someone an encouraging word regarding the jam they are in
Give someone a heavy dose of appreciation… someone from your past would be great.
Give someone that thing they complemented you on… that watch, or shoes or new office toy.
Give someone a handshake who would not expect it… like the attendant at the fast food joint
Give someone a kind word about how good they are at their job
Give someone a call and say “if you ever need your dog walked, your kids cared for, your mail grabbed, Im your guy”.
Give someone the change you have been putting in that jar at home.
Give someone a free lunch… tell them they choose where!
Give someone a story of how you made a mistake and learned from it
Give your complete attention to your spouse
Give a gas card to a struggling college student
Give a back rub to your kids
Give a laugh and a giggle to a child
Give time to take a group picture
If you ain’t giving you ain’t living.
Thursday Apr 28, 2022
Thursday Apr 28, 2022
Wake the Faith up Slayer… This is Garth Heckman with the David Alliance and you can reach me at
Brought to you by wellbuiltbody.com Gym Apparel for men and women that rocks and shocks and ain’t for everybody - but just might be for you. wellbuiltbody.com
July 9th - Saturday - A Father Daughter/Son conference called PROTECTOR! Speakers on how to protect your son and daughter Emotionally, physically, sexually, socially and spiritually. Ages 10 and up if you feel your student is mature enough. Price $100 per family. At HillSpring Church New prague south of the Twin Cities
Just landed a speaker who will challenge you how to keep your kids safe from human trafficking… you say well my kid will never fall into that… oh not so fast. You obviously don’t know what you are talking about… so get ready to sign up!
I dare you to change your life…
I dare you to do something hard…
I dare you to be and fulfill the complete potential in you…
So we immediately stop and think, well I could, I should, I know it would take a lot of work, and some risks and some trial and error - but Honestly after 57 years on this earth I have realized that is not what is truly keeping your from your potential… Have you ever heard this quote?
Watch your thoughts, they become words.
Watch your words, they become actions.
Watch your actions, they become habits.
Watch your habits, they become character.
Watch your character, it becomes your destiny (Or your potential).
This is true, but this is lacking in one major overwhelmingly obvious condition or step…
If you really want to change - and I mean change anything - for Good, true 100% change you have to do the almost impossible for most people.
If you truly want to change your life - in any area, you have to be willing to change friends. Changing friends will change you. But warning, most friends don’t want you to change, or to change friends… why? Because it makes them feel aware of how little they are willing to put into changing their own lives - in changing themselves.
Look if you are a gym rat, how many times have you had people around you give you excuses as to why they are out of shape… or even how they intend to get back in shape. They feel guilty around you- thus they start the nervous talk, the excuse talk, the backtrack talking. I have found a way to help them realize the dilemma - I look at them and tell them to change friends or they will never change their life and health. And they kind of nervous laugh… and then still list of some rationale… “uh, well I don’t need to change friends, I just need to get motivated, I just need to get a plan, I just need to focus, I just need to make time, I just need to eat better… I just I just I just I just…
Shut the front door and get rid of the excuses and get new friends. You want to be a boxer, you better start hanging out with boxers. You want to be a successful entrepreneur you better start hanging out with successful entrepreneurs, you want to be a better parent you better start hanging out with better parents… you better change your “friendscape” and not just your landscape.
So if I think back to this past month I have had to say no to acquaintances who want to go hunting, fishing, go out to coffee and just talk, go to a movie etc… these are all fine and things I would like to do… but if I am seeking change than I need to spend time with the people I want to be like. i.e. change
The disciples were 11 men who wanted to be like Jesus… and Jesus wanted them to be his disciples… however as much as Jesus taught them, it was more about them being with him - lets be honest, most of the time the disciples didn’t even understand what Jesus was saying - but they are in his presence.
You might miss the fact that in order for the disciples to change, they had to be with Jesus - meaning they had to leave family and friends.
Luke 14:25 Many people were traveling with Jesus. He said to them, 26 “If you come to me but will not leave your family, you cannot be my follower. You must love me more than your father, mother, wife, children, brothers, and sisters—even more than your own life! 27 Whoever will not carry the cross that is given to them when they follow me cannot be my follower.
This no doubt has a deep pointed spiritual application to us as Christ followers - but it also screams the practical application of change by association in our own normal lives. I don’t cut out all my friends, nor do I unfriend them - but the amount of time and influence I give them is now handed off to others who I want to be like.
Who you are is who you are with.
Quick thought - maybe you are not with anyone, you are a loner a shy person etc… the same still applies to you.
The greatest missing ingredient in changing your life comes down to changing your friends.
Tuesday Apr 26, 2022
Tuesday Apr 26, 2022
Wake the Faith up Slayer… This is Garth Heckman with the David Alliance and you can reach me at
Brought to you by wellbuiltbody.com Gym Apparel for men and women that rocks and shocks and ain’t for everybody - but just might be for you. wellbuiltbody.com
July 9th - Saturday - A Father Daughter/Son conference called PROTECTOR! Speakers on how to protect your son and daughter Emotionally, physically, sexually, socially and spiritually. Ages 10 and up if you feel your student is mature enough. Price $100 per family. At HillSpring Church New prague south of the Twin Cities
Just landed a speaker who will challenge you how to keep your kids safe from human trafficking… you say well my kid will never fall into that… oh not so fast. You obviously don’t know what you are talking about… so get ready to sign up!
How do you win in life?
How do you win in marriage?
How do you win in your job?
How do you win in your health?
How do you win in your intelligence?
How do you win in your personal goals?
Whatever the question is - the answer is the same. You win - YOU ALWAY WIN with deeper relationships.
I have said this a million times… “I ain’t rich, but I got friends”.
You need something done, you need something, you have a question… not to worry I have deep relationships. You win with deeper relationships.
We all know its true. And because it is true we must ask ourselves continually “how can I deepen my relationships?” In every arena?
My spouse, my kids, my boss, my co-workers, my pastor, my small group, at my favorite restaurant?
Here are 3 things you can immediately do to make deeper relationships.
Listen and ask questions.
You do this to learn how to feel the issue the person is trying to describe. You are not just asking questions to find out more about what they are saying, but rather asking questions that will help you connect to them. Once you can feel what they are saying, they will believe that you understand. And it will create a depth of trust beyond just words. You are trying to not just hear them but to feel them.
If you read the gospels you will find in many places where Jesus answers others with questions… this is a good place to start - unlike many of us who want to answer with answers… bad place to start!
Listen and respond with feelings of connection.
You might say something like this - I think I understand correctly… I once lost a friend through gossip and felt betrayed by people I trusted… it made me uncomfortable sharing with others for a while… is this how you feel?
When others can identify your own emotions regarding the topic at hand, you have built a bridge for deeper connections.
If its your boss you could say “I know when people have dropped the ball for me and It left me in a bad spot… it made me feel like they only cared about their own work and not the company…. is this how you feel”.
Once you have listened and responded with questions and feelings you are ready to…
Listen and comfort…”what can I do” How can I help? What do you need?
Deeper relationships are sometimes just based on going the extra mile. Listen, and then do something about it.
Again, to many times we want to listen and then give the answer, rather than listen and ask them what the answer is… even if they don’t know, it means more if they just know you are there.
Bonus for the win… follow up these conversations. I take notes in my phone to follow up with everyone!
Try texting later in the day or the next morning asking them about the issue and how they are doing.
Check in on them before the weekend, stop by their office or their cubicle or their bedroom if you are a parent.
I hope you understand what I am about to say regarding deep relationships and if not… just mull it over and it will come to you.
In todays world deep relationships are built on less and not more.
Tuesday Apr 26, 2022
Tuesday Apr 26, 2022
Wake the Faith up Slayer… This is Garth Heckman with the David Alliance and you can reach me at
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July 9th - Saturday - A Father Daughter/Son conference called PROTECTOR! Speakers on how to protect your son and daughter Emotionally, physically, sexually, socially and spiritually. Ages 10 and up if you feel your student is mature enough. Price $100 per family. At HillSpring Church New prague south of the Twin Cities
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TOP TEN THREATS TO YOUNG PEOPLE
Motor vehicle accidents
Guns
Unsafe infant sleep
Toxic exposures
Suicide and depression
Child abuse or neglect
Illicit drug use
Teen pregnancy
Head injuries
Drowning
How real are these… well they all have merit, but I am more concerned about my kids becoming cold to the move of God. Becoming haphazard in their pursuit of Jesus. Being ok with just being a good person…
I want my kids to pursue Jesus in all things, at all times and in all ways. But a big part of this is also teaching them how and what to look for that might be used against them.
Prov. 27:12 The prudent sees danger and hides himself, but the simple go on and suffer for it.
Prov. 22:3 A prudent man foreseeth the evil, and hideth himself: but the simple pass on, and are punished.
Prudent: Gk crafty shrewd and sensible…. always looking ahead for the sneak attacks of the enemy. Ready to not just react, but has learned how to be ready to respond.
John 10:10 The thief comes to steal kill and destroy…
This isn’t just a statement of fact, but rather a condition of the future so as to warn us.
So lets go back to the original statement or question… what are the top ten threats to your sons and daughters? Well one of the first things you look at when wanting to attack your enemy is what are their habits and what are their weaknesses.
so what are you students weaknesses? Start with their personality. Study it, find out what it is. Then look to see what that personality style has for weaknesses and do even more homework as to how to navigate that weakness and talk to them about it… warning them and giving them advice as to how to be aware of how the enemy would use it.
Every person has the ability to grow in their strength, but also to be even more aware of their weakness. I am a firm believer of working on your strengths… it will be of much more value than working on your weaknesses… but BUT that does not mean you don’t take a hard look at your weaknesses. We must be as evenly attuned to being aware of our weaknesses and how they can trip us up… especially over a long period of time - as much as being in tune with our strengths.
Now a word on our strengths.
I know a young man who was a new police officer… but after a year and a half the captain told him to step down and look for another job… why? Because he was kind, loving, sweet, tender hearted and a servant… which made him way to naive and trusting for that job. It put him and other officers in harms way. It was a strength that was unintentionally inverted into a weakness in that situation and in that role.
my Dad told me time and time again, Garth your biggest strengths will be your biggest weaknesses. Have you had the talk with your kids about their strengths… and how they will be weaknesses. The enemy can pull many more tricks out of his bag when working on our strengths than on our weaknesses.
Jn. 10;10 The enemy comes to steal kill and destroy… he will use our strengths to do that if we do not learn to not rely on our strengths but rather on God and his wisdom.
Your sons and daughters will be attacked by the enemy, in fact they are right now…have you prepared them for the attack.