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Friday Dec 08, 2023
Friday Dec 08, 2023
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MASCULINITY IS TOXIC
psychology professor at California State University, Herb Goldberg, tells the following story: “When I was 12 years old my father mocked me for crying one time. I consciously made a decision right then and there that I would never cry again. And I kept it, too, for years. When I finally realized crying is good, and that men need to cry too, I couldn’t do it anymore. Since then, I’ve been trying to learn to cry again, and it’s been very difficult. The same thing goes for other feelings. It’s very hard for me to let myself experience them most of the time” (The Other Side: “I Never Saw Clark Kent Cry”)…
My question is not wether you cry or not… its what did you learn and now practice from your father?
Was Jesus a plaid sweater vest, Sansa belt pants docker pants, and hushpuppy shoe wearing dude? NOPE! Jesus lost his cool and tore up the temple courts… not any court, but the temple courts… flipping tables with a whip…
He is the lion of the tribe of judah… a lion. He is coming back pissed off at the sinful, rebellious world, at satan and the anti Christ.
Jesus raged against the status quo. He was outspoken, bold, shameless, selfless, direct, compassionate, blunt, passionate, an equal opportunity employer and self-confident. He was committed to the point of death?
He was also deliberate, confident, soft, loving, strong, quiet and long suffering.
Being misunderstood for being a man in todays world is coming and is level 1
Being misunderstood for being a man Christian is common and level 2
But being misunderstood for being a true Follower of Christ and a True man is level 3… and it actually should be more like level 19…
We know Jesus lost his father at sometime… but he was around for most of his life. Jesus had many brothers and sisters and so he had to be around for most of his life. His Dad did something right to help prepare and set up Jesus… we can deduct a few things…
He taught Jesus how to work hard, how to get work done.
He taught Jesus to stand his ground and speak the truth
He taught Jesus to look out for the misunderstood and the low level of society.
He taught him to stand against hypocrisy and fallacy.
He taught him to stand against religiosity.
He taught him to love children, the lost - to love the avoided, the slutty, the disgusting the miscreants.
And at the same time never approve of their behavior and never water down the truth.
Now this can sound arrogant… but hold on and listen to where I am going… and by the way - to most people who really find things like this arrogant - its because they lack what I am talking about and they are envious and jealous… anyway… I have continually tried to figure out why I am so committed to Christ… what did I learn, what was I born with… what was the secret sauce. And yes, I have a very strong prayer life, a very strong devotion to Gods word and I am heavily involved in church and other ministries… but what was the defining factor to being a man who is totally committed to Jesus no matter what - and I truly mean no matter what. Marriage problems, health problems, money problems, kid problems….
The cause… the smoking gun if you will is simply this… a Father who was a mans man. He never stepped back in his devotion to Christ no matter what he faced or what he went through.
So today, read your bible, pray and daily ask God to make you a mans man….
Why is masculinity toxic… well it is in fact toxic to those who are on a steady diet of tolerance and social justice and don’t see Jesus for who he really was. So I make no apologies for you choking on my lifestyle, my words and my actions… one mans toxicity is another worlds hope. Change the world.
Thursday Dec 07, 2023
Thursday Dec 07, 2023
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the process of knowing and gathering information. good to know.
How and why should you know your bible and apply it to life. If you want to be happy, successful, rich, powerful, healing, miracles… study it. Make it a lifestyle of study.
Some people complain… and then you ask them how much have you studied on that topic you are failing at? Your relationship with your spouse sucks… or your son, or you boss… how many books have you read on those topics? How many sons have you interviewed who have great relationships with their dads…. Look, you don’t study, you don’t learn… well - you don’t get the reward.
Why would people not study what they want to know and be.
If you have lack its not because you don’t know how to find out… but rather a lack of drive.
Scripture says if you seek you will find… the truth. but how many people truly search….
most are waiting for it to fall into their laps. Most don’t want to search or study… but what you find on the way is sometimes even more important than the goal you were after.
here is how to do this on steroids… once you start to study it and search it… practice it and journal how it is going in your life. looking back sometimes helps you learn more than what you first learned at that time.
Look you cant do all you find out, but at least do what you find out… put what you searched, what you studied, put it into action.
And finally understand that failing is the best way to learn… but to fail successfully you have to search successfully, you have to study successfully, you have to DO successfully… in order to learn and succeed successfully.
Are you studying? Are you searching? Are you doing? Are you failing? Are you learning? If not… who sold you on that lifestyle? Thats just stupid. Look we all know people we admire for many reasons… but almost always the ones we admire the most are the ones who made somthing out of their lives… not the ones who were born into it.
Finally understand that God said to whom much is given much is required…Luke 12:48
But there is an even more powerful insight… when Jesus hands out the talents to be invested in and worked… we understand that the servants had to search out opportunities and study how to invest and then acted… the servant who did not do this… NOT EVEN putting the money in the bank to earn the Master money was evil… lazy, didn’t study, didn’t learn and did not act…. how hard is it to put the money in the bank… but here is the real secret… the ones who did study, learn and act… they were rewarded not only with more responsibility but also with the talents that were given. to the wicked slave.
Study, learn, Do… fail or succeed but keep doing it and you will have an amazing adventure to tell others.
Wednesday Dec 06, 2023
Wednesday Dec 06, 2023
6. Disobeying the Government
As the West moves increasingly further away from biblical truth and biblical morality, laws will be put into place that will attempt to stop the church from obeying God as directed in Scripture.
In fact, this is already happening. In 2021, the state of Victoria in my home country Australia passed the “Change or Suppression (Conversion) Practices Prohibition Bill” that makes praying for homosexuals and transgendered people so that they do not engage in homosexual behaviour or change/act like the opposite gender a criminal offense punishable of up to ten years in prison.[1] Even if a member of one’s church approaches and asks the pastor to pray for them because they are having homosexual thoughts is illegal!
7. Rejecting Critical Theory and Neo Marxism (‘Social Justice’ over Biblical Justice)
Critical Theory has infiltrated the West through various movements and groups, such as Critical Law, modern feminism (third-wave feminism), and Black Lives Matter.
Critical Theory teaches that all white, heterosexual, male, Christians are by nature oppressors, and nothing can free them from the sin of their oppression.
8. Upholding Biblical Marriage
Extreme detailed definition of marriage right down to the minutia = A man and a Woman who join together for a lifetime commitment in a covenant.
Biblical marriage and families are the bedrock of society. If the church does not uphold biblical marriage, then most relationships in the church will breakdown, causing harm and division within the church, resulting in the church stagnating and not fulfilling its purpose to bring believers to full maturity in Christ.
9. Valuing Children
Churches no longer encourage their married couples to have children.
Second, many married Christian couples in the West either do not want to have children at all (a reflection of Western culture) or only want to have one or two for selfish reasons.
Finally, many churches in the West put children out of the main church service and into Children/daycare Sunday school classes… and do not actually train their kids.
10. Upholding Biblical Gender and Gender Roles
Here is another definition in great detail of the gender roles….
Male and Female
11. Preparing for Persecution
The last challenge the Western church faces is persecution. I believe that as Western culture continues to turn its back on the biblical faith and biblical values and becomes increasingly hostile to biblical Christianity that persecution will arise. It won’t just be the government (see point 6 above), but the populace will begin boycotting Christian business, companies will not want to hire Christians, companies will not want to do business with churches or Christians, Christians will be banned from social media sites, churches will be vandalized at a greater rate and to a greater degree, and Christians will be physically threatened and attacked.
Tuesday Dec 05, 2023
Tuesday Dec 05, 2023
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3. Hiring or Empowering Qualified Pastors/Elders/Overseers
The list of qualifications for pastors/elders/overseers is lengthy! The two most prominent passages that list these qualifications are 1 Timothy 3:1–7 and Titus 1:5–9. The qualifications concern two areas: character and teaching ability. First, for a man to be a qualified pastor/elder/overseer, he must be able to know and teach correct doctrine. Second, he must meet a lengthy list of character requirements.
Why are qualified pastors/elders/overseers harder and harder to find? Well, 90% of all men look at porn. 60% or more have vacillating and changing biblical doctrine and beliefs regarding family, sex, morality, AND THE MAJORITY OF PASTORS IN TODAYS WORLD “AS CHRISTIANS” HAD NOT KEPT THEIR VIRGINITY UNTIL MARRIAGE… The crop from which to choose from is dismal and in face shrinking yearly.
4. Discipling Church Members
The fourth challenge for the church is discipling its people.
For many church members, the most discipleship they receive is the Sunday morning sermon.
Most Christians are discipled more by western society than the Bible.
When was the last time you heard a conversation where someone said “Well the Bible says….?
Churches lack solid bible study… by that I mean they actually study the Bible.. and not a bible study book or DVD or video or YT channel or a social media post… but they pick up their bibles and they understand how to parse, compare and study the scriptures.
One problem is that people don’t know the tools to use, or have access to them…
BTW the internet is a poor choice for a tool when it comes to true Bible study.
5. Adopting and Defending Sexual Purity
A mountainous challenge for the church in the West is sexual purity. Sexual purity refers to God-sanctioned sexual conduct, which is sexual conduct only within a marriage between one man and one woman. All other sexual activity and conduct is considered sexual immorality Failure to preach and teach sexual ethics according to the Bible
- Sexual conduct outside of marriage
- Adultery
- Homosexuality
- Divorce
- Social media appetite
- Predatorial behaviour/abuse (seduction, manipulation, rape)
- Paedophilia
- Intentional failing to report criminal sexual misconduct
- Intentional Coverups of sexual abuse
- Intentional hiring of sexual miscreants
- Selfish or poor sexual practices in marriage
- White wash sex sins outside of marriage from an abuse of “love”
Monday Dec 04, 2023
Monday Dec 04, 2023
WHATS NEXT?
So whats next… for our world? Our Family, our church?
**There are going to be more and more churches that build amazing ministries… Worship, drama, video, life application messages, social services, youth and young adult ministries… AND THEY WILL GROW… but they will not have the power of God - they will attract the world and be worldly and religious - well intentioned… but far from God.
What is the climate of Christianity in the USA?
1. More churches are in significant decline.
2. Aging leaders and aging congregations.
3. Increasing resistance to change - good and bad. Worship styles, deliverance ministry, theology
4. Navigating changing worship experiences -
5. Exhausted pastors - ministry is harder than it has ever been. To stay anointed, in his presence, time demands, to lead in spite of what the world wants, in spite of what the church wants…
What are the Problems of the Church in USA
- Lack of emphasis on evangelism and outreach.
*If we had a month of services where I said you cannot come to church unless you bring a non-Christian… would it
- Offend you
- Challenge you
- Cause you to not come that month
- Depress you
- Excite you about our emphasis on outreach and growth
- Cause you to go to another church
1. Affirming the Sufficiency and Authority of Scripture
By ‘sufficiency of Scripture,’ I mean that the Bible has everything necessary for faith (doctrine) and practice (how to live one’s life in a way that pleases God). By ‘authority of Scripture,’ I mean that the Bible has authority over what Christians and the church believe and how they organize and conduct their lives.
2. Consistent Prayer
It will not be a surprise to many that prayer in churches is dwindling at a rapid rate. Whereas many churches used to host prayer meetings on Sunday and Wednesday evenings, now many churches do not host any type of consistent prayer meeting. The bottom line is that churches are not praying as much as they used to pray.
We are told by Jesus to pester God with our petitions and he will give us justice (Luke 18:1–8),
Friday Dec 01, 2023
Friday Dec 01, 2023
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- A covenant is identity - Two lives become one:
In covenant you become identified with the other individual and there is a supernatural commingling of two lives.
Covenants have blood spilled. It is not just an oath, but an oath built on spilt blood. The woman’s body has a Hyman which has no specific purpose or biological purpose other than when she has her first sexual experience it tears and blood is shed. The curtain that separated the holy of holies had no real purpose… in itself it was not holy… but when Christ blood was spilled the curtain tore open to let the whole world know there is a new covenant.
SEX IS YOUR IDENTITY - VIRGINITY IS THE OPPORTUNITY TO CREATE YOUR IDENTITY WITH YOUR HUSBAND IN A COVENANT.
- - A Covenant has a Hierarchy - A line of command… WHY? he created a chain of command in order to hold the man responsible.
1 Cor. 11:3
This has nothing to do with quality of being or importance, but rather responsibility.
A woman has to respect, submit and obey her husband as long as he himself is obeying and submitting to God. Otherwise the hierarchy is broke and you don’t get to tell her what to do.
If a United States Colonel goes rogue the private under him does not have to obey him.
FINALLY
We get married - LIVE A COVENANT
in order to practice Gods love and likeness. You say I am in a horrible marriage…
Could Jesus live in that marriage? Yes, he could. So the real question is “how much do you have to be like Jesus” to live in that marriage… because that is the point of our walk with Christ… to be more like him!
The Mystery of Marriage EPH. 5: 32This mystery is profound, but I am speaking about Christ and the church.
How do we love each other the way Christ loved the church? Only through the power of the God.
You can’t build a strong nation, country on marriages based on feelings. But you can on a country based on covenants.
We live in a world where we can be Christians but still not honor Gods command “no sex before marriage”. And because of that… we get married on a weakened “feelings” based foundation. Thus… breaking a marriage covenant is easy because it was based on feelings to begin with.
Thursday Nov 30, 2023
Thursday Nov 30, 2023
WHEN SATAN WEAKENS YOUR MARRIAGE HE WEAKENS YOUR ABILITY TO RULE AND REIGN
But these three purposes are to be
lived out in a covenant.
The unseen benefits of a covenant
- When you understand what a covenant is, you make a more serious choice regarding if YOU want to get married and WHO you will marry. You don’t want to marry someone who does not marry on a covenant understanding.
- Covenants are hard… they are meant to be hard.
There are no shortcuts.
1864 The Donner party with 80 plus people all from one family we’re going to travel from Illinois to California where life would be better. Half way through the journey they met an old explorer Lansford Hastings… cut up north thru Utah…it will save you lotts time. Just the opposite, first they hit deserts… no water for days, then mountains with snow peaks and drifts 15-20 ft. high. They tried to camp out and survive but the party started to die off quickly… and the only way the last few could survive was through cannibalism. **You can take other peoples advice about your marriage… to “save time” - to “be Happy” - to “do whats fair” - to “live in the worlds standards”… but you will ultimately cannibalize your marriage and all other relationships.
DON’T GET TEMPTED BY SHORTCUTS… Anything outside of scripture is a shortcut.
Live your covenant according to scripture!
- Covenant - No feelings allowed
As Christ loved the church. Jesus did not want to die on the cross according to his feelings… but he chose to do so according to his love for humankind.
There is nothing that will pollute, and kill a marriage faster than one spouse living by their feelings.
…if its not best for me
… if its not easiest for me
… if it doesn’t feel good
… if it is hard…
I won’t do it - especially for my spouse.
Feelings killed the potential and the future of that marriage.
How many incredible MARRAIGES never happened…
How many wrecked roads of potential….
DUE TO FEELINGS.
- It is till Death… (to cut, spill blood) They are life or death
When a couple in Christ day got marriage they would cut up an animal in half and the bride and groom would walk in-between them on the way to the altar…signifying death if either of you break this covenant.
Wednesday Nov 29, 2023
Wednesday Nov 29, 2023
Covenant: A divinely created relational bond. The administration for the paperwork was done up in heaven… it was divinely created.
From Mark 10, Eph. 5
From these, God’s purposes for your marriage are clear.
1. Reflect the Image of God (Genesis 1:27)
Note the phrases “in our image” and “in our likeness” in Genesis 1:27. God is clearly stating that He made Adam and Eve to reflect Him.
There is nothing like marriage to show you how poorly of a reflection you have of Christ!
2. Reproduce a Godly Heritage (Genesis 1:28)
In Genesis 1:28 we learn that couples are to be “fruitful and increase in number.”
God Himself adopts us as His own children forever when we trust Christ as our personal Savior (Romans 8:15, 23; Galatians 4:4–6; Ephesians 1:5–6).
*Your greatest witness, your strongest pull to the gospel for nonbelievers I believe is your marriage and the family you raise.
3. Reign in Spiritual Warfare (Genesis 1:28)
According to Scripture, the third purpose for marriage is to steward, or care for and cultivate, everything God entrusts to you—spiritual, physical, and relational.
*Your marriage is under attack because he knows it speaks loudly of Gods grace,
*He knows it is your source of strength and encouragement
*He knows One will chase a 1000, Two will chase 10,000… throw in my 2 boys and their wives we will take out a country, and my grandkids…. We can rule he world for Jesus.
WHEN SATAN WEAKENS YOUR MARRIAGE HE WEAKENS YOUR ABILITY TO RULE AND REIGN
But these three purposes are to be
lived out in a covenant.
Tuesday Nov 28, 2023
Tuesday Nov 28, 2023
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God’s intention for marriage is not to be a contract that needs both parties to hold up their end of the deal—as 1 Corinthians 13:1 says, “…love keeps no records of right and wrongs.” God’s purpose for marriage is different from the world’s.
It’s a covenant—binding and irrevocable because of His love. I Cor. 7 states you can leave, but you can’t divorce… this is covenant talk, not contract talk.
Covenant: A divinely created relational bond. The administration for the paperwork was done up in heaven… it was divinely created.
**Have you gone through the FOR BETTER FOR WORSE portion of your marriage… and wondered why the worse seems to come around more than the better? Because we focus on the immediate - a covenant focuses on the eternal.
There is far greater judgement on Adultery than on fornication. WHY? One is breaking a covenant.
Proverbs 6: 26 For a prostitute will bring you to poverty, but sleeping with another man’s wife will cost you your life. But the man who commits adultery is an utter fool,
for he destroys himself. 33 He will be wounded and disgraced. His shame will never be erased. 34
For the woman’s jealous husband will be furious,
and he will show no mercy when he takes revenge.
35 He will accept no compensation,
nor be satisfied with a payoff of any size.
Monday Nov 27, 2023
Monday Nov 27, 2023
THE DAVID ALLIANCE
Intro: As much as I hate Hallmark movies (and that channel is on 24/7 at our house during Xmas) It does teach the world the mindset of marriage.
We all know what happens in a Hallmark movie… one woman, 2 men, one from the past or small town… ultimately has to choose one and someone has to give up some type of dream… but they live happily ever after.
HOLD ON… I don’t mean it taught us what to expect in our lives… what it does do is teach us to build a pattern around what we expect in marriages today… i.e. fall in love, think it will last, hit some hard times and divorce to do it over again.
Marriage is harder than it looks and not as fun as it might seem.
Everyone in life has a moment or two when you did not realize the power behind that choice…
listening to that voice if you will: My mom telling me you cannot go with your best friends dad to go see him graduate at boot camp… and it saved my life.
AND THERE ARE TIMES… you see a choice you did make and you wonder what life would have been like without that choice…
THIS IS MARRIAGE - BUT AGAIN you don’t realize it till years after you got married.
LIKE ME - AND MOST - you think what would my life have been like…in a good way and in a bad way and in a self reflective way… But everyone who gets married has that thought… wow the change in my life because of that one person.
- This is why a covenant is so important to marriage. It holds our feet to the fire until we can see the beauty of the decision to stay with that person even if they are the wrong one.
The best things that ever happened to me were due to the hardest things that ever happened to me. Because I understood a covenant - I learned to understand that in marriage.
Understanding a marriage covenant helps you change your expectation… from This will make me happy (an unrealistic high selfish expectation) to this will make me more like Jesus (a realistic lowly achievable Holy expectation).
Marriage is a covenant We see in Gen. 2: and Mark 10
Mark 10 7 ‘For this reason a man shall leave his father and mother and be joined to his wife, 8 and the two shall become one flesh’; so then they are no longer two, but one flesh. 9 Therefore what God has joined together, let not man separate.”
Eph. 5:31-33 31“For this reason a man will leave his father and mother and be united to his wife, and the two will become one flesh.” 32This mystery is profound, but I am speaking about Christ and the church. 33Nevertheless, each one of you also must love his wife as he loves himself, and the wife must respect her husband.…
God’s intention for marriage is not to be a contract that needs both parties to hold up their end of the deal—as 1 Corinthians 13:1 says, “…love keeps no records of right and wrongs.” God’s purpose for marriage is different from the world’s.
It’s a covenant—binding and irrevocable because of His love. I Cor. 7 states you can leave, but you can’t divorce… this is covenant talk, not contract talk.
Covenant: A divinely created relational bond. The administration for the paperwork was done up in heaven… it was divinely created.
**Have you gone through the FOR BETTER FOR WORSE portion of your marriage… and wondered why the worse seems to come around more than the better? Because we focus on the immediate - a covenant focuses on the eternal.