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Friday Aug 11, 2023
Thursday Aug 10, 2023
Thursday Aug 10, 2023
The David Alliance
MingleMateMarry.com podcast youtube and website for the perfect marriage material and swag. They got a great hoodie called its a great day to be married… after today maybe some of you will want to wear purchase it… because many of you are not loving the days you are married…
Joe Klecko who was just recently inducted into the football hall of fame… he was elected into the pro bowl playing 3 different positions… never been done before or since… but in his hall of fame speech he said my son Dan has won 3 Super Bowl rings, he reminds me all the time… he’s a great player… and then he looks at his bust next to him on stage and says “hey Dan, lets see if you can get one of those.
Every year I watch the NFL HOF inductees and listen to their speeches… and everyone, I mean EVERY ONE, talks about hard work, dedication, team work… but the one thing they all say it hangs on is…. Well you do want to know right? I mean if we can tap into what makes the greatest of the greatest athletes… and we can translate it into our lives be it family, business, health, finances whatever… ok, all these things are great but they all hinge on personal responsibility - taking credit for your mistakes and your wins. Being willing to own up and work on your flaws, your blond spots, your weaknesses….
Mines a great psychiatrist. Thomas says there’s no such thing as mental illness. They were merely varying degrees of irresponsibility, and John Tim Maloy is booklet for success to the one big difference between winners and losers and he said that’s not mince words - losers Never accept responsibility and winners always.
Your study of negative emotions we found it almost all anger or frustration or hostility, comes from the attempt to blame others for problems in our lives rather than excepting responsibility. In fact, if you stop blaming other people you’ll find that most of your negative emotions will go away if you stop blaming your past and stop blaming your present. Stop blaming your parents and your boss and your relationships. You’ll find that it’s almost impossible to become angry. the way you stop blaming is by taking responsibility.
But here is the key to understanding taking responsibility. Its uncomfortable… look its easier to blame others. Its easier to tell the world it must change in order for your life to be better… but its just not the case. Taking responsibility is simply choosing to be uncomfortable through the stages of learning, applying and working at life. Simply said “its got to be uncomfortable to be great”. If you are not willing to take responsibility, you are unwilling to be great.
Rom. 5:3 We can rejoice, too, when we run into problems and trials, for we know that they help us develop endurance. 4 And endurance develops strength of character, and character strengthens our confident hope of salvation. 5 And this hope will not lead to disappointment. For we know how dearly God loves us, because he has given us the Holy Spirit to fill our hearts with his love.
v. 3 We can rejoice, too, when we run into problems and trials, for we know that we can blame others and gripe about how life is unfair knowing God will make things easier for us… uh NO!
The word there “develop” in the greek actually means to work out through labor. This is so easy to understand it hurts to listen to stupid people when they say life not fair. TRUE life is not fair for anyone… but many still choose to work out through labor, to persevere, take responsibility and move forward.
Let me be frank - now is the time to succeed regardless your age… but especially if you are under 40, because those under 40 are rife with excuses and pandering to their woes and foibles… they will give up, whine, blame… all the while those who are willing to take responsibility will advance step by step moving closer and closer to success in most areas of there life.
Persevere, pursue, own up to it and keep pushing forward.
Wednesday Aug 09, 2023
Wednesday Aug 09, 2023
The David Alliance
MingleMateMarry.com podcast youtube and website for the perfect marriage material and swag. They got a great hoodie called its a great day to be married… after today maybe some of you will want to wear purchase it… because many of you are not loving the days you are married…
Matthew 6:33 SEEK ye first the kingdom of God and his righteousness, and all these things will be added unto you.
I have a solid belief that anyone can become successful, wealthy and even Godly if they are willing to put in the work. I love what Wallace D Wattle says.. and I quote:
Man has an inherent power by which he may grow in whatsoever direction he pleases, and there does not appear to be any limit to the possibilities of his growth. Wallace D Wattle
Now there are 2 sides to this camp. There are many out there who believe much like I do in that God gives us an ability to do and be great. And in fact wants us to do and be great. There are others who feel like its to ambitious and God is not a magic genie who just hands out free wishes… and I agree, he is first to be sought after like the verse says… he and his righteousness is to be pursued at all costs… but what is interesting to me regarding this verse is no one ever reads the verse beforehand… verse 32. Listen to verses 32-24
Matthew 6:32For the Gentiles strive after all these things, and your heavenly Father knows that you need them. 33But seek first the kingdom of God and His righteousness, and all these things will be added unto you. 34Therefore do not worry about tomorrow, for tomorrow will worry about itself. Today has enough trouble of its own.…
First off, what do the heathen or the gentiles strive for? Well if you are a Jew in the audience you are thinking that a gentile is after wealth, prestige, power, money, affluence, greatness - call it what you will… and Jesus says “all this will be added unto you” if you first seek me and my ways. What does seek his kingdom mean? it means seek Gods way of doing things.
Last week I was praying about what to do and what to keep in my extra businesses. I love to stay busy and even though I am a full time pastor I also have a few other businesses and ventures that I do. So I was asking God after a conversation with a friend of mine… God if there is something that You do not want me wasting my time on. just let me know… The very next day one of my sites goes down, I can’t figure it out, my web designer can’t figure it out, no one can figure it out and God said to me “I want that gone”. poof, no problem God. Now in the past when I wasn’t seeking Gods will and way first that would have driven me nuts… I would not stop until I figured it out… but when you seek God and his righteousness and his kingdom first… you can let things go. Now what does he want me to do? Well… I am still praying on what to keep and what to get rid of and in fact what to start up next… what about you? Are you striving in vain simply because you are not allowing your wants and desires for his kingdom to pave the way for all the other things you want and need? Why not try today to first seek him, let him take care of your needs and desires and all those other things… because as he says, they will be given unto you.
Tuesday Aug 08, 2023
Tuesday Aug 08, 2023
The David Alliance
MingleMateMarry.com podcast youtube and website for the perfect marriage material and swag. They got a great hoodie called its a great day to be married… after today maybe some of you will want to wear purchase it… because many of you are not loving the days you are married…
coming up soon on the podcast - TOMORROW QUIT LIVING BY YOUR FEELINGS!
V 2 Set your minds on things above. Not on things below
THIS IS THE KEY AND THIS IS A COMMAND
When asked why he robbed banks, famous bank robber Slick Willie Sutton said, “Because that's where the money is.”
You want to know more about God, have more of him in your life, be moved by him more, be used by him more… Get your mind up in heaven - thats where God is.
Christ Mindsets
Christ mind looks out for others first
Phil. 2:2 fulfill my joy by being like-minded, having the same love, being of one accord, of one mind. 3 Let nothing be done through selfish ambition or conceit, but in lowliness of mind let each esteem others better than himself. 4 Let each of you look out not only for his own interests, but also for the interests of others. 5 Let this mind be in you which was also in Christ Jesus,
*He said he had never lost money in a deal… (the man said, exactly- but the ones that he does business with sure do. Scott LaFavre)
We understand that we are to please him by that which we do not see (Faith)
2 cor. 5: 6 So we are always confident, even though we know that as long as we live in these bodies we are not at home with the Lord. 7 For we live by believing and not by seeing. 8 Yes, we are fully confident, and we would rather be away from these earthly bodies, for then we will be at home with the Lord. 9 So whether we are here in this body or away from this body, our goal is to please him.
A mind that first wants to seek God
Phil. 4:6 Don’t worry about anything; instead, pray about everything. Tell God what you need, and thank him for all he has done. 7 Then you will experience God’s peace, which exceeds anything we can understand. His peace will guard your hearts and minds as you live in Christ Jesus.
A mind that is focused on Gods plan for each individual. What does he want YOU to do.
2 Cor. 9: 7 You must each decide in your heart how much to give. And don’t give reluctantly or in response to pressure. “For God loves a person who gives cheerfully.
A mind that reflects Gods heart
1 Cor. 13:5 It is not irritable, and it keeps no record of being wronged.
A mind that understands the plans of the wicked
Matthew 9:4 Jesus knew what they were thinking, so he asked them, “Why do you have such evil thoughts in your hearts?
A mind that is under constant renewal/transformation
Rom. 12:2 Don’t copy the behavior and customs of this world, but let God transform you into a new person by changing the way you think. Then you will learn to know God’s will for you, which is good and pleasing and perfect.
A mind that is not easily fooled
Galatians 6:3 If you think you are too important to help someone, you are only fooling yourself. You are not that important.
*satan tried to pull a few over on Jesus in the desert
A mind that is of one mind
James 1:8 a Double minded man, Their loyalty is divided between God and the world, and they are unstable in everything they do.
It doesn’t mean you can’t do 2 things, or 3 things… or even 4 things, what it does mean is make sure what you are doing is what God wants you to do. or you will have your mind cluttering up his mind.
A mind that keeps Gods priorities… people need Jesus. (when you get to heaven there is a good chance you will think of those who did not make it to heaven)
Colossians 3:2 Think about the things of heaven, not the things of earth.
A mind that brings peace
1 Tim. 6:5 These people always cause trouble. Their minds are corrupt, and they have turned their backs on the truth.
Monday Aug 07, 2023
Monday Aug 07, 2023
Chapter 3: Since, then, you have been raised with Christ, set your hearts on things above (seek the things above), where Christ is, seated at the right hand of God. 2 Set your minds on things above, not on earthly things. 3 For you died, and your life is now hidden with Christ (GK Kroop-two To be concealed, a secret escape… you escape away to which is greater) in God. 4 When Christ, who is your life, appears, then you also will appear with him in glory.
5 Put to death (to deprive, starve out, cut off, sever its food supply), therefore, whatever belongs to your earthly nature: sexual immorality, impurity, lust, evil desires and greed, which is idolatry. 6 Because of these, the wrath of God is coming. 7 You used to walk in these ways, in the life you once lived. 8 But now you must also rid yourselves (take off, renounce, cast off) of all such things as these: anger, rage, malice, slander, and filthy language from your lips. 9 Do not lie to each other, since you have taken off your old self with its practices 10 and have put on the new self, which is being renewed (strengthened with energy and vigor, grow up, higher and higher stage) in knowledge in the image of its Creator. 11 Here there is no Gentile or Jew, circumcised or uncircumcised, barbarian, Scythian, slave or free, but Christ is all, and is in all. (You are known by only one thing *growing in God, renewing daily or a non-believer- there is no middle ground)- quit thinking with your old self v.10, that is thinking with the old mind.
Colossians 3 is a transitional chapter… Chapters 1,2 why, and now 3 is how.
V. 1 Set your hearts on things above/God - seek what he seeks
V. 2 Set your minds on things above/God - think what he thinks
*you cannot seek what you do not think
HOW? you set your mind on things above. V.2
How do you gain mind control over someone? The experts will tell you its not so much lies you program into their mind as much as Keeping information from them and getting them to say yes… this builds an avalanche of habitual thinking which leads to action in the direction they want.
We saw this in the garden of eden with satan.
Satan does not tell lies as much as he withholds all the information given… and he gets Eve to say yes to an easy impulse.
But a renewed/transformed mind constantly wants to know more and know what Christ knows.
- It wants to know all that God has for them
- It wants to hear No, Yes and not right now
*if you can’t think greater than how you feel - your mind has not yet been transformed
If you can’t think greater than your circumstances - Your mind has not yet been transformed
If you can’t think greater than your past - your mind has not yet been transformed
If you can’t think beyond your parents expectations - Your mind has not yet been transformed
If you can’t think beyond your spouses expectations - your mind has not yet been transformed.
If you can’t think beyond…
Do you want to see things the way Christ sees them? Transform you mind.
A transformed mind allows you to live in the invisible… others may even think you have a perfect life - you don’t, you just have an invisible life… that is supernaturally empowered.
v1 if Christ is seated at the right hand of God, and we are seated with him, then we can only see satan and his kingdom as beneath us, below us, under us.
You are were your mind is
Friday Aug 04, 2023
Friday Aug 04, 2023
The David Alliance
MingleMateMarry.com podcast youtube and website for the perfect marriage material and swag. They got a great hoodie called its a great day to be married… after today maybe some of you will want to wear purchase it… because many of you are not loving the days you are married…
coming up soon on the podcast - TOMORROW QUIT LIVING BY YOUR FEELINGS!
Helen let me tell you Why I suck as a salesman… Classic scene from Tommy Boy and yes it is a all time favorite movie of mine… but today I want to tell you why you suck
as a marriage man….
Lots of emails, texts, phone calls and conversations… here is what we got so far as to why your marriage sucks.. now a lot of this has to do with why a lot of men just in general have lives that suck… but thats for a later podcast, today lets just stick to marriage and relationships.
Here are 5 cultural reasons your marriage sucks.
- 1 No Dad or lack of good parental example… you only know what you know from growing up.
Prov. 22:6 Train up a child in the way he should go, And when he is old he will not depart from it.
There are a lot of men and women out there wandering in life and in marriage because they had no training… there was no track record to follow so they wander from relationship to relationship, from mistake to mistake…
- 2 To quick of expectations… dating was great, marriage will be greater, ecstasy is just around the corner.
The greater it is, the longer it takes.
You don’t make antiques… but you can take care of things when they are new, and older, and aging and really old.. and they become valuable after much care.
Your marriage will be amazing… just work at it the next 45 years… its worth it.
Hebrews 10:23 says, “Let us hold unswervingly to the hope we profess, for he who promised is faithful.” In summary, the Bible teaches us to love others as God loves us and persevere in doing what is good and right, even when difficult.
- 3 To lazy to put in the work. It is hard freaking, gut busting, back breaking work for most people to have a good marriage let alone a great marriage. There are people out there who are willing to pay the price of blood sweat and tears and financial hardship to build a career or business and it will never bring the satisfaction a great marriage will… but they put nothing into the marriage.
Slacker' in the Bible
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Go to the ant, you slacker!Observe its ways and become wise.
Prov. 6:9
How long will you stay in bed, you slacker?When will you get up from your sleep?
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Like vinegar to the teeth and smoke to the eyes,so the slacker is to the one who sends him on an errand.
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The slacker craves, yet has nothing,but the diligent is fully satisfied.
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The slacker buries his hand in the bowl;he doesn’t even bring it back to his mouth.
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The slacker does not plow during planting season;at harvest time he looks, and there is nothing.
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The slacker says, “There’s a lion outside!I’ll be killed in the public square!”
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I went by the field of a slackerand by the vineyard of a man lacking sense.Prov 26:13
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The slacker says, “There’s a lion in the road—a lion in the public square!”Prov 26:14
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A door turns on its hinges,and a slacker, on his bed.Prov 26:15
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The slacker buries his hand in the bowl;he is too weary to bring it to his mouth.Prov 26:16
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In his own eyes, a slacker is wiserthan seven men who can answer sensibly.
Thursday Aug 03, 2023
Thursday Aug 03, 2023
The David Alliance
MingleMateMarry.com podcast youtube and website for the perfect marriage material and swag. They got a great hoodie called its a great day to be married… after today maybe some of you will want to wear purchase it… because many of you are not loving the days you are married…
coming up soon on the podcast - TOMORROW QUIT LIVING BY YOUR FEELINGS!
My spouse will not change… I have tried everything…
Yes I have seen prayer do amazing things in peoples lives… but I have also seen people pray and nothing happens… their spouse still refuses to change. And I have seen many divorce in that situation and move on, and I have seen many stick it out and they learn to find fulfillment outside their marriage… I am not telling you what to do other than, hard times can produce amazing Godly character… But you still must choose.
Questions to ask yourself when a partner is refusing to change
- Is what I am asking for a behavioral change or personality change? - True story about myself, when Kim and I were married the first 20 years, people would often ask her… is he like this at home? Is he like this all the time? My personality is loud, boistrous, sometimes obnoxious, I am a protector, I speak my mind any where, any time… but yes I have mellowed… She was wise enough to not ask me to change my personality, but rather my tactics and my focus in behaving the way I do. Example… if we are in a theater and someone is smoking, on their phone, talking etc… I would just yell at them from where I am at… now she has convinced me it is better I go up to them and talk to them. Is their sense of personal identity in any way at stake here or a job conditioning they are under… many cops act a certain way because they are cops and they cannot turn it off.
- Is their refusal a matter of capacity or willingness?
- Will things be different if I give them some time? How much time can I give? What factors could foster their change?
- How would the ideal scenario of their transformation look like to me? and what would I have to change in order for them to change?
- What is a transformation I would consider “good enough”?
- What is the worst that can happen? What would make me consider divorce?
- If my partner can’t change and provide what I need at the moment, is there a way I can tend to my needs differently? Can I rely on myself or others for support while giving my partner time and space?
- Am I asking them to change so I wouldn’t have to deal with an unwanted change of my own?
- If they remain the same, could I be happy with them?
- Is therapy an option?
At what point do I give them an ultimatum with a pastor or counselor… change or Im leaving. - Not a divorce, but moving out to reassess what my life is about.
Wednesday Aug 02, 2023
Wednesday Aug 02, 2023
The David Alliance
MingleMateMarry.com podcast youtube and website for the perfect marriage material and swag. They got a great hoodie called its a great day to be married… after today maybe some of you will want to wear purchase it… because many of you are not loving the days you are married…
coming up soon on the podcast - TOMORROW QUIT LIVING BY YOUR FEELINGS!
But I want you to understand that the head of every man is Christ, the head of a wife is her husband, and the head of Christ is God.
For the husband is the head of the wife even as Christ is the head of the church, his body, and is himself its Savior.
Between you and me, one of the biggest comments (and I’m certain it’s true) women tell me their husbands are weak men. Weak in discipline, weak physically, weak spiritually, weak in leadership, weak in communication etc… so the women lead by default and then get blamed for being Jezebels- but it truly is only out of the void of having a manly man of God to lead them.
One woman responded… “Don’t get me wrong, I would love to have a husband that stood his ground, didn’t let me push him around and led our family like a man of God should, however he never has. At first I would push back just to see if he would stand up to me… and he wouldn’t - now its just to late, I have no respect for him. Even if I asked him to lead, I don’t think he would. He has no real walk with God and I suppose we will probably divorce once the kids are older. I however do see myself looking for a future marriage where my husband will take control… and I truly do believe I will let him have control if he is in fact a man of God.
Here is another response: I will just come out and say it. My husband is a selfish fat pig. He is overweight, has no discipline, and I am not sure if he is more selfish or lazy… probably 50/50. But he has no desire to lead himself or our family. My kids love their Dad, but they are getting to the age where they are becoming embarrassed by him.
ok, my first thought is this… if you are a man and you do not want to take control… thats on you and you will stand judgement before God.
If I am talking to the women and you truly do wish your husband took the lead… then here are a few ideas
- 1 make sure you truly want him to take the lead and you are not just saying it with your mouth. It will take time, he will mess up, but if he try’s and you shut him down, become stubborn, discourage him or don’t allow him time to grow in this new role, than he will give up.
- 2 if you do want him to lead and he wants to lead. Then by all means meet with some Godly men and women (pastors, or men and women who have Godly marriages) and ask them to mentor you both on how he can lead and how you can follow. Marriage like anything else takes practice.
- 3 If he does not want to lead, and you will not get a divorce you can do two things: one pray that God radically knocks his world upside down…where he is forced to seek God. Look, I believe the man should be the head of the household, but if he is not, then by default the woman is… so now ladies, pray and give God permission to lay out your husband in such a way that he calls on you and on God to learn how to be a manly man of God.
If he never changes… you can still pray for Gods grace and have an amazing life. you can come to a point where you realize that you are becoming more like Jesus by having to deal with a poor husband. and God will carry you, bless you and strengthen you in this time.
- 4 my final thought. If you are willing to go through deliverance (and you can contact me for more information) it can radically set the husband free from the spirit of Ahab, and set the women free from Jezebel. And neither both have to be working to find freedom. But Delieverance is the key to a great deal of marriages that are in need of what seems to be an unsolvable problem.
There is still more to follow up on tomorrow, but this should give you plenty to think about today.
GArth Heckman, TDA - keep slaying giants.
Tuesday Aug 01, 2023
Tuesday Aug 01, 2023
8-2-23 TOMORROW QUIT LIVING BY YOUR FEELINGS!
1 Peter 3:10 But the Day of the Lord will come as a thief in the night, in which the heavens shall pass away with a great noise, and the elements shall melt with fervent heat. The earth also and the works that are therein shall be burned up.
OR 1 Cor. 3:13
13 his workmanship will be evident, because the Day will bring it to light. It will be revealed with fire, and the fire will prove the quality of each man’s work.
But did you know that not only will everything burn, but everything will bow…
Every tongue confess every knee will bow
Phil. 2:9 Therefore God also has highly exalted Him and given Him the name which is above every name, 10 that at the name of Jesus every knee should bow, of those in heaven, and of those on earth, and of those under the earth, 11 and that every tongue should confess that Jesus Christ is Lord, to the glory of God the Father.
1 Samuel 5:1-12
The Philistines capture the ark of the covenant and bring it into their temple of Dagon… the next morning the idol of Dagon had fallen over appearing to be bowing down to the Ark of the covenant… and the Philistines said “Dagon it” JK
The picked the idol up and set him in place again. The next morning the idol had fallen over and its head and hands had broken off.
“HAVING DISARMED THE POWERS AND AUTHORITIES”
Col. 2:15 And having disarmed the powers and authorities, he made a public spectacle of them, triumphing over them by the cross.
Why always all the talk about the supernatural, the demonic, the deliverance ministry, the invisible world…
Because our battle is not with flesh and blood
AND BECAUSE OUR BATTLE WAS WON - IS WON - must be won IN THE SUPERNATURAL SPIRITUAL WORLD.
Christ stripped the powers off of this world and the underworld and the evil with what he performed at the cross… he now gives us the same power to fight in the spiritual realm. Does this mean we idon’thave to fight? Oh no, we have to fight, Eph. 6 we are at war… but having disarmed the powers, having stripped the powers, we now move in authority and in power with an assured Victory…
Now when the mind wanders to “I have seen people pray and war over areas in their life and things did not turn out the way they wanted. People died, businesses lost, relationships still unmended -
Well here are 3 thoughts…
- we are called to war even if every battle is not won… the war has still been won… everyone will bow
- we may not see a win on earth, but we always win in eternity - everyone in eternity will Bow
- We do not war until we win, we war until we die.
Go to WAR… you were created for war… Go to war.
War, knowing everything will bow!
Finally, everything will bow to the Lordship of Christ… just like the philistines who put The presence of God in the vicinity of Dagon… Keep God in your presence, Keep him alive and moving in your life… and all things - every problem will bow.
Monday Jul 31, 2023
Monday Jul 31, 2023
Wake the faith up
15 And having disarmed the powers and authorities, he made a public spectacle of them, triumphing over them by the cross.
Disarmed (spoiled) - surprise! Aorist tense - now and forever.
This verse is loaded with mental imagery of a Roman tradition of humiliating the Romans enemies. They would take the highest ranking officers, generals etc… strip them naked and march them through the city streets to their execution.
Then the end will come, when He hands over the kingdom to God the Father after He has destroyed all dominion, authority, and power.
1 Samuel 5:1-12
The Philistines capture the ark of the covenant and bring it into their temple of Dagon… the next morning the idol of Dagon had fallen over appearing to be bowing down to the Ark of the covenant… and the Philistines said “Dagon it” JK
The picked the idol up and set him in place again. The next morning the idol had fallen over and its head and hands had broken off.
“HAVING DISARMED THE POWERS AND AUTHORITIES”
Why always all the talk about the supernatural, the demonic, the deliverance ministry, the invisible world…
Because our battle is not with flesh and blood
AND BECAUSE OUR BATTLE WAS WON IN THE SUPERNATURAL SPIRITUAL WORLD.