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Friday Sep 29, 2023
Friday Sep 29, 2023
The David Alliance
MingleMateMarry.com podcast youtube and website for the perfect marriage material and swag. They got a great hoodie called its a great day to be married… after today maybe some of you will want to wear purchase it… because many of you are not loving the days you are married…
What is keeping you from your purpose?
Pauls rank and education
Josephs need for the approval of his brothers
Moses need of the finest and best the world had to offer (living in Pharaohs court)
Samsons need for sexual escapades
Solomon and his wealth was his downfall
Hey if you are looking for applause, accolades, the approval of men, money, sex, security, affirmation, a clear path… you will never be all that God has for you to be?
IN FACT… there is a case to be made -that for you to be all that you can be you will in fact need less and less of what you think you need.
Here is the short answer as to how you find what God wants you to do and how to do it…
Do what pleases him… and when you feel like you don’t got it in you to do the right thing to please him… then you know what you need. - God give me the strength to not look at that so that I may please you.
You go to interview for a new job… and the interviewer asks you if you have ever blown it at your other job… and you want to please God… now you know you need wisdom and courage.
What ever you think you need to please God is what you need to ask for… not for the applause of men, or to look strong, cool and successful… you don’t need those to please God…
What did Paul say in Galatians 1:17 Am I now trying to win the approval of human beings, or of God? Or am I trying to please people? If I were still trying to please people, I would not be a servant of Christ.
Thursday Sep 28, 2023
Thursday Sep 28, 2023
The David Alliance
MingleMateMarry.com podcast youtube and website for the perfect marriage material and swag. They got a great hoodie called its a great day to be married… after today maybe some of you will want to wear purchase it… because many of you are not loving the days you are married…
Here is the strategy for a well made man of God
personal relationship with X
Understanding your life mission and goal (and possibly your life verse)
personal systems to operate ones life at its highest level
including systems for spouse, kids, church, faith, job
Learning how to handle finances
learning how to respond to hardships and difficult people
Learning how to be a man…Husband, father, son and a rockstar in your local church.
But there is a cheat code…
You can do all this, and I highly recommend it, You could read books on all of this… and I have and I do. But here is the cheat code that is missing in todays world.
Hanging around manly men… hanging around men of God.
I have talked about how here in the US we are were we are at do to the breakdown of the family… the lack of fathers and especially the lack of Godly fathers in the home. If you have no Dad, if you have a lousy Dad, if you have a Dad that is not a strong man of faith… use the cheat code - hang around other Godly men.
I saw a drunk man wanting to harm his wife and my Dad took him out and threw him up against a car until the cops came.
I saw a man call out a young man who had gone to far with his daughter…
I saw a men climb into a fight between 2 women and break it up while others watched.
I saw a man who every day before work started he sat in his truck for 45 minutes and read his bible and pray
I saw men who were ridiculed for their faith stand and take it and still love those who hate on them
I saw men stand in the center of the UW madison campus and preach the gospel
I have seen many men sacrifice money, time their jobs in order to live for God….
I have seen men leave unGodly friendships
I have seen men break up with beautiful smoking hot women because they were not who God wanted them to date…
I have seen men stick with their wives after having an affair
I have seen men love their kids when they spit in their face and blamed their dads for their own self inflicted wounds
Sure I could have read books, I could have watched youtube videos, I could have worked out a lot of this on my own by personal study… but I cheated by hanging out with MEN, men of God. Manly men… men who were not afraid to stand for what is right even in the midst of a hailstorm of hate and accusations….
here is the bonus… My dad is a manly man of God and because of that he attracted other manly men of God who had influence on me
And now I am trying to be that man for others… and attract manly men into my life for the sake of my own sons!
So here are a few clues on finding the man to mentor you… these are not written in stone, but they will help.
1- Go to a church that has a manly senior pastor… like attracts like.
- 2 Find Godly men who do manly things… Muai Tai, Ju jitsu, hunting,
- 3 Find Godly men who have manly jobs… mechanic, police officer, work in the military, Construction…
- 4 Find men who are active in ministry.
- 5 go to a mens bible study and seek out the person there who has been the Xn the longest
Now what does scripture say
1 Timothy 6:11 “But as for you, O man of God, flee these things. Pursue righteousness, godliness, faith, love, steadfastness, gentleness.”
1 Corinthians 16:13 “Be watchful, stand firm in the faith, act like men, be strong.”
Prov. 27:17 “As iron sharpens iron, so one person sharpens another”.
Being with men will teach you to run from some things, How to act and be strong and understand that sharpening is uncomfortable.
Wednesday Sep 27, 2023
Wednesday Sep 27, 2023
The David Alliance
MingleMateMarry.com podcast youtube and website for the perfect marriage material and swag. They got a great hoodie called its a great day to be married… after today maybe some of you will want to wear purchase it… because many of you are not loving the days you are married…
What were you really good at growing up… I mean in Middle School and High school…
Or maybe you were just passionate about it… it took up most of the space in your head.
I was not the best student in Middle School and High school and at that time I thought I wouldn’t probably be that successful in life or have any real opportunities - BECAUSE I THOUGHT grade point average was everything…. at least When it came to having success…
Anyway… what I was good at… I was good at speaking, I was never afraid of a crowd or speaking or performing in front of a crowd. But another thing I was really really good at was PAIN. I would not have worded it that way as a kid, but looking back I now realized I was just good at putting up with or embracing pain… sure when I was young I used this super power for the things that mattered to me… Skateboarding, Water skiing, weightlifting… I also didn’t care what people thought of me… I was able to not only put up with peer pressure but actually mock those who would try to use it against me…
Hand me a beer at a party - I would throw it in the fire
Mock me for not having sex before marriage I would mock you for having sex because you lacked the fortitude and folded under peer pressure and now you sold your soul to emptiness… anyway.
But now I still use this super power to make a life for myself… my ministry… my family… my businesses…
My question is this… what were you good at age 12-20? What did you really succeed at? And now how are you using that in your daily life?
Study after study shows that what you were “into” in High school is in some way what you should be doing now…. maybe you were great at building models… and now you are an engineer… Maybe you loved talking in class or listening to other problems… You could be a teacher, or a counselor…
But beyond that… I will ask you again… what were you good at? We all took on different personas growing up, some for survival, some due to peer pressure, some more due to our personality - my wife for example… she don’t need anybody. NOBODY< not a single person. It has become a strength… She grew up in a messed up family with a number of Dads and had to fend for herself. She had to learn to compartmentalize and focus on self preservation. She grew up during high school having to buy her own clothes, makeup, car, insurance, gas money, money for school activities…
Maybe you were good at not giving up even after failing and failing and failing
maybe you were good at being alone
Maybe you were good at befriending the nobody’s
Maybe you were good at scheduling time for extra study because you were not a natural student…
What ever it was… good or bad, use it today in life.
Gen. 50:20 Joseph said what was bad god used for good.
and more clear in 2 Tim. 1:6 Paul writes…
This is why I remind you to fan into flames the spiritual gift God gave you when I laid my hands on you.
Fan into flames: Rekindle relight, to gain strength
Gift:Spirit-empowered service to the Church to carry out His plan for His people.
So again what you are good at? Maybe its time to ask God to rekindle that - to light it up for him, and watch it change the kingdom!
Tuesday Sep 26, 2023
Tuesday Sep 26, 2023
The David Alliance
MingleMateMarry.com podcast youtube and website for the perfect marriage material and swag. They got a great hoodie called its a great day to be married… after today maybe some of you will want to wear purchase it… because many of you are not loving the days you are married…
Just recently an F35 military jet crashed… the pilot ejected, the plan flew another 60 miles without him in it and then crashed… it was a small 100 Million dollar whoops’y daisy… But would anyone on purpose just think… Im”a crash this plane… and if so, what were you thinking.
The book the divine conspiracy a pilot was practicing maneuvers and at one point pulled a hard ascent to shoot into the sky.. but instead crashed her plane straight into the earth… she was so busy maneuvering that she lost sense of direction and did not realize she was flying upside down.- how is this even possible…
Well you can get so disorientated at those speed and with the G Force building up you can end up going by feelings and not by your instrument panel… When you feel your way rather than think your way - you are in trouble especially at Mach 1.6… thats over 1200 MPH…
Unless you were locked in a box, on an island on Mars you know about the WWJD bracelet craze. Millions were sold…and I mean millions - I never bought one, I never wore one… my own personal reasons - basically would Jesus wear one? Im mean really what would jesus do? I don’t think he would wear one… so… anyways.
What would Jesus do…
Its quaint, a nice sentiment, but I feel lacking in really bringing about any conviction… here is what I would suggest… Rather than WWJD… how about
WWJT
What would Jesus think? I feel that this is a much more powerful act in which to practice. We can excuse what Jesus would do… because well…He is Jesus.
But I don’t think asking myself what Jesus would do is going to make me do it… Look we all saw plenty of athletes wear those bracelets and yea… pretty poor witness in the mean time. But the point is, we are transformed by the renewing of our mind… not by the renewing my actions… now before you think I am being nit picky…
stop to realize that we can in fact think what he thinks… in doing so it leans into our heart and mind that if we can think it, and digest it mentally, it can transform us and in fact we can start to do what he would do if we first think what he would think.
Very little if anything is changed by merely doing… or at least it changes very little. We typically do for a while, and then stop… but when we think, when we stop to think what would Jesus think… well now I have to really wrap my head around the “why” and not just the do.
I may have shared one of my favorite stories about a woman who was trying to lose weight… she tried everything, but just could not “DO” it. She went to a Doctor who explained to her that she will never DO it long enough to make it a habit, rather she had to think it first and get it so engrained that it became who she was… so he suggested that this woman carry a big purse with her and in the purse was a bathroom scale with a picture of a skinny woman… when ever she would get ready to eat something rather than trying to do the right thing, she simply would pull out the scale and the picture. She would weigh herself and think about that number on the scale and look at that picture and think about who she wanted to be.
And by thinking first it engrained into her mind, soul, spirit who she really was… and she then acted accordingly.
Why is it so important to read the word of God AKA the bible? Because you have to think about it… yes, we have all read a page or two and then thought… what did I just read… I zoned out. But still the greatest aspect of reading is that we have to think it, we have to put it in our brain and we are first to consume it mentally before we DO IT. The genesis again is that we are not trying to “what would Jesus do” but first and foremost must wrestle with what did Jesus think… and by thinking of what Jesus would think we are thinking what would jesus think.. confusing? Well not really, because thats the point.
So today, don’t worry about what Jesus would do, worry first about what he would think… The doing will come soon enough.
Friday Sep 22, 2023
Friday Sep 22, 2023
The David Alliance
MingleMateMarry.com podcast youtube and website for the perfect marriage material and swag. They got a great hoodie called its a great day to be married… after today maybe some of you will want to wear purchase it… because many of you are not loving the days you are married…
Look at you… you aint no man… you just talk…You gotta a Lamborghini mouth and a moped work ethic…
Mark Twain: "Action speaks louder than words but not nearly as often.”
Maybe it should be “Actions reveal the truth behind words”
Words today are amplified by social media. the right font, the right video, the right music, the right cliche… But where is the action?
No matter how powerful the speaker, the words chosen, the eloquence and the manner to which they speak, no matter how impactful they seem and no matter what promises are made.. no matter what great change has been promised or what great past accolades have been touted… words mean nothing… they are stupid, they are lies! They lie… unless there is action.
Simply put, it means that what people do carries more weight than what they say. In other words, people are judged not by what they say they will do but by what they do. This phrase is particularly relevant today when we receive countless messages and promises from individuals and institutions.
Look there are businesses out there who are searching, literally searching for people who DO. Think of it, the highest demand is not for those who have a great resume, or those who make grand promises… but for those who DO. Companies lose billions of dollars every year because they trusted people who say and don’t’ do.
Its the same in the lives of people who say they are Christian. Much said, little done. If you truly believe in scripture than you should be the most active, fearless and productive people in your home, job and church.
Here is a good question to ask yourself… if you talk a good talk, but you know deep down in your heart you don’t really follow through, you know its just talk… what do you get out of it? A good question.
What do you get from just a life of words and no action?
Hey we have all seen the parent talk smack or talk repercussions to their teen. Keep it up and you will have to deal with…. But then it never happens. What would happen if you just never told your kids what will happen but you just did it. They talk back and you take their phone for a day, they don’t do their homework they don’t get the car, they don’t clean their room they have their gaming taken away… but you never tell them in advance, you just do it. Believe it or not- if you start this from a young age, your kids will grow up incredibly successful. They will have proof number one that actions have consequences… and not words - I hope you caught that.
But even deeper still… back to our question of what do you get out of talking but not acting.
So here is something I found helpful… and I am not sure all the psychology that is behind this, but it works.
When I have a big goal, when I really want something done… I tell no one, When challenged or encouraged to talk about my accomplishments or my goals… I say nothing, when given windows in which I can share about all that I will do, could do, want to do, or working on doing… I SAY NOTHING. And it motivates me with this one thought… I will say nothing unless I have actually done that act in which they are talking about.
How many times have I heard people say “Im thinking about writing a book”. And I say WHO CARES. Why do I say that? Because no one other than your mother cares… just write the book. I say that having written 12 books… no one cared about my “im writing a book… talk” until I actually wrote the book.
1 John 3:18:“Dear children, let us not love with words or tongue but with actions and in truth”
But be doers of the word, and not hearers only, deceiving yourselves. James 1:22
James 2:17 So also faith by itself, if it does not have works, is dead.
Matt. 5:16 May they see your works
They profess to know God, but they deny him by their works. They are detestable, disobedient, unfit for any good work. Titus 1:6
These verses are an admonition of being seen by a lack of action, not by a lack of talking…
Wednesday Sep 20, 2023
Wednesday Sep 20, 2023
TDA
If you are a man who has a son, congratulations. You have something that should not be wasted. You have in your possession a great opportunity - something to invest that will pay dividends beyond the scope of any other investment. You have riches that will exceed your time here on earth. If you do not waste it. You have a son… that makes you a father. You now have the opportunity to be a FATHER… what an amazing piece of raw material in your possession in which to forge an eternity with, for God.
How does one invest into that eternity - that legacy?
I think there are 3 things we see in scripture.
Provide - Provide for them. Their body, soul and spirit. live, walk, talk, act, exemplify a man who provides for his kids. It is not enough to just provide food, water and a roof over their head. You must provide for them emotionally, mentally, socially.. be and live the example. Pour into them in all aspects of who they are as humans and spiritual beings. Do you provide hugs, kisses, encouragement, verbal affection, I love YOU’s and the like? If not then might I be so bold as to say you suck as a provider. You are not taking your investment into the future very seriously.
Protect - Maybe you are not the toughest dad on the block… thats fine. but you do have to protect your legacy - that is your children… is your house safe? Oh yes, I have a gun in my bedroom… thats not what I mean.
Will they find porn in your house, on your phone, will they hear you yell at your wife or treat her with the cold shoulder? Will they see a dusty bible? Will they know and see that you are involved in Church life? Will they hear you gossip and bad mouth others or the pastor or their friends…. these things make or break a safe protective home. Are your kids safe to share their fears, their dreams, their hopes and questions? You may have a house surrounded by a mote, guns galore and you may be a blackbelt in Karate - but if your kid doesn’t feel safe and protected emotionally… You failed.
Preview - show them what a Godly father looks like. Here is a tough question if you are willing to answer it gut wrenchingly honest… Would you desire your kids to have the same intimacy with Jesus as you do? Would you be happy if they had the same faith in God? the same prayer life? New the bible as well as you did?
Do you pray before meals? Do they see you pray for direction with problems, opportunities or for the world. Do they see you share the gospel, love those who hate you, give sacrificially? If I asked your kids, help me write a movie script about how Godly your dad is… would they be able to come up with any stories… or would it be one of those movies that starts out with “partially based on a true events”… meaning- there is a whole lot of filler going on in here? But my dad does call himself a Christian… so we’ll just fill in the blanks.
You are blessed to be a Dad, you have an incredible investment opportunity… but you gotta provide, protect and preview…
Tuesday Sep 19, 2023
Tuesday Sep 19, 2023
The David Alliance
MingleMateMarry.com podcast youtube and website for the perfect marriage material and swag. They got a great hoodie called its a great day to be married… after today maybe some of you will want to wear purchase it… because many of you are not loving the days you are married…
Hebrews 12:1-3
1B and let us run with endurance the race that is set before us, 2 looking to Jesus, the founder and perfecter of our faith, who for the joy that was set before him endured the cross, despising the shame, and is seated at the right hand of the throne of God.
3 Consider him who endured from sinners such hostility against himself, so that you may not grow weary or fainthearted.
Matt. 5:48 Be perfect, therefore, as your heavenly Father is perfect.
Not that I have already obtained all this, or have already been made perfect, but I press on to take hold of that for which Christ Jesus took hold of me.
Perfecter of our faith… what does that mean? It means Christ set before us an example of what perfect faith looks like and what we should strive for…
Someone recently said “ministry is saying yes to that which you are not qualified for -outside of your intimacy with God… it got me thinking.
If you were looking at a graph and on the far left side was levels of intimacy bottom low end, top high end
and across the bottom right ran the purity scale
Your graph would climb in power as you grew in purity. This is what Hebrews is saying…
He is the perfecter of our faith… our faith is motivated and empowered by the purity and perfection in our walk. but what also do these verses say? Jesus is at the right hand of the father - and we know he is interceding for us and he is the example to us to not give up. It is still dependent on our pursuit of Jesus.
Sometimes we think faith comes simply by hearing - and yes that is true, but we also see that there is a perfecting to our faith… so we have faith, but there is a perfecting to that faith.
A little faith with perfection is greater than a lot of faith with little perfection…Remember Jesus words, faith the size of a mustard seed can move a mountain.
What am I trying to say? I have great faith, I really do, but I know if there is sin in my life I am playing with dirty faith… and it is pretty pathetic. If I have very little faith but I know I am intimate with Jesus and my walk is pure… it is much more powerful.
Would you rather light a bomb with a tiny bit of dry gun powder or a whole bucket of wet gun powder… make sense?
So lets take where we are at and ask God to help perfect our faith… and lets see that little bit of faith move mountains.
Maybe today we worry not so much about our faith but about our perfection… how are we doing on the purity scale? Would it be wise to pray for more of Gods perfection and purity than to simply pray for more faith.
Just a thought, until tomorrow - KSG
Monday Sep 18, 2023
Monday Sep 18, 2023
The David Alliance
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Change = repent
Repent is less of an emotional response and actually more of a practical response by what we see in scripture.
Acts 3:19 Repent, then, and turn to God, so that your sins may be wiped out, that times of refreshing may come from the Lord,
to change one's mind or purpose/behavior with abhorrence to ones past.
So its not just a spiritual response, its not just an emotional response… it is actually changing ones mind and behavior…
But what is the best way to change ones behavior?
Well Repentance is first… crying out to God asking for forgiveness… but now what. What are some practical ways?
I will give you 7 quick ways to think and work on.
1 Pick one behavior that will change more than just your behavior…
Lose weight or work out… this changes many things and not just the one behavior itself.
Healthier, feel better, boost self esteem, look better, more energy, it might help you better find that special person, builds self discipline for other areas… One behavior with many blessings.
2 Next… pick just one behavior you want to change.
My clients who I train want me to train them, give them a routine for the other days they are home, give them a diet etc… I say NO. Lets just work out 2 or 3 days a week and make that a normal behavior. your CNS can only handle on major change at a time… so don’t make it harder than it should be.
3 make it measurable… Now again make the measuring stick easy to manage. if you are going to work out… don’t build into the behavior, work out, lose 30 pounds, fit into that little black dress. Just make the behavior work out 3 times a week. One simple measurable goal… if you measure to many things or make it to complicated you will feel overwhelmed and give up.
4 Envision it before it ever happens… yes this is called faith. But envision you pushing through the days you want to give up, envision the way you will feel when it happens, envision the stories you will tell… envision teaching others how you did it… as Victor Frankl said “find your why”. live the whole experience before it ever happens.
Wether it is getting out of debt, saving for a house, rebuilding a relationship, reading your bible every day… see it, feel it, taste it.
5 Expect and plan for interruptions. It is called planning for chaos… its normal, its expected, it’s life. So why would you not expect it?
You know why most people fail? They don’t plan for failure!
6 Activate mental peer pressure
Outward peer pressure is good… but inner mental peer pressure is even better. It is the peer pressure that has not yet happened. Let me explain… I will never have an affair… why? I have deep seated mental peer pressure…
Pro.6:32He who commits adultery lacks judgment; whoever does so destroys himself. 33Wounds and dishonor will befall him, and his reproach will never be wiped away.
There are people in my life and network who have messed up greatly with adultery, pornography etc… and they are now “that guy”. I don’t like these people, I love them…but I don’t like them. I do not want to be looked at like the people I don’t like. I don’t want to carry reproach that will never be wiped away… I never want to always be that guy?
7 Get a mentor
Best way to change your behavior is to hang around those who are already practicing that behavior.
Friday Sep 15, 2023
Friday Sep 15, 2023
The David Alliance
MingleMateMarry.com podcast youtube and website for the perfect marriage material and swag. They got a great hoodie called its a great day to be married… after today maybe some of you will want to wear purchase it… because many of you are not loving the days you are married…
If you could have any super power what would it be?
Make people tell the truth, but that doesn’t always help . In fact that’s a strategy by Satan
Satan lies with the truth
Misleading by telling the truth…
Did you finish your homework? I just finished my english paper… feels good to be done.
- Dissemble to hide under false appearance.
White on black crime is a problem that affects all black americans. Crime on any person is a problem, and black on black crime is by far a greater risk to blacks than white on black crime.
- Paltering… you say something true and then lead it into a false conclusion. Rape is evil, it is a wrong that women will forever struggle with. This affects every woman and is why we need to keep abortion legal. Women have rights…
Paltering - yes its evil, yes women who are raped will struggle with it - it does not affect EVERY woman and is not the reason they want to keep abortion legal.
Satan is a great liar, maybe the best.
- Eve - Surely you will not die, God doesn’t want you like him, you will know good and evil. This is a classic example of all 3 of satans tactics…
- Jesus - Jump off this temple mount and nothing will happen to you, God will protect you… true, but underneath the false narrative.
- You - You are a sinner… YEP! and then he lies about our future, our hope, our eternity
You see The accuser doesn’t tell the whole truth. Ie you are a sinner - true
But…
We are forgiven by Christ death and Rez
So what is the best strategy to satans lies? Knowing the whole truth.
What is the whole truth..
- The word - Scripture, Psalm 119:160, NKJV The entirety of Your word is truth, And every one of Your righteous judgments endures forever.
- The witness- (the Holy spirit) Jn. 16:13-15 He will guide us into all truth
- The way (Jesus himself) Jesus is the way the truth and the life -time with Jesus is time with the truth.
Spend time with all three and you will rarely if ever be deceived.
Thursday Sep 14, 2023
Thursday Sep 14, 2023
Part 2
Satan exercises his limited authority and dominion by way of a hierarchy, in different geographical regions, and in a militaristic fashion or strategy.
In Matthew 4, Satan legitimately offers Jesus the kingdoms of the world.
Plural… kingdoms… there are certain levels and kingdoms that satan has a limited power over.
Satan exercises his otherworldly dominion by way of a hierarchical, geographical, and militaristic strategy.
You can see this most dramatically in Ephesians 6
12 For we do not wrestle against flesh and blood, but against principalities, against powers, against the rulers of the darkness of this age, against spiritual hosts of wickedness in the heavenly places
SO there are multiple layers to satans power… there are hierarchies like in the military, there are different geographical regions, and different military types of attacks…
But notice the next few verses.
14 Stand therefore, having girded your waist with truth (The truth to see through the strategies of satan), having put on the breastplate of righteousness (again to see through his strategies), 15 and having shod your feet with the preparation of the gospel (no matter where you go geographically you bring the peace of God) of peace; 16 above all, taking the shield of faith with which you will be able to quench all the fiery darts of the wicked one. (you can defend against his actual attacks) 17 And take the helmet of salvation, and the sword of the Spirit, which is the word of God; (so now we have Gods fighting plan and his weapon to do warfare) 18 praying always with all prayer and supplication in the Spirit, being watchful to this end with all perseverance and supplication for all the saints