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Making men MEN again. The David Alliance will help you slay your giants.
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Jun 24, 2026
Jun 24, 2026
7 min
Garth Heckman
The David Alliance
th grade… lets make a snowman… just a huge snowball… we push it up a large hill… lets roll it down and see how fast it can go… Im going to let it roll over me at the bottom… BIG MISTAKE. IT PICKED UP MOMENTUM, SUCKING UP EVERY PIECE OF SNOW IN ITS PATH… FASTER, BIGGER, FASTER, BIGGER….
Introduction: God Has Always Been Moving
Momentum. It is the principle that a body in motion tends to stay in motion.
In physics, it is a law.
In the kingdom of God, it is a promise.
God Is the Source of All Momentum
The Spirit Moved First
The very opening of Scripture shows us a God in motion:
"In the beginning-MOMENTUM- God created-MOMENTUM- the heavens and the earth. Now the earth was formless and empty, darkness was over the surface of the deep, and the Spirit of God was hovering-MOMENTUM- over the waters." — Genesis 1:1–2
The Hebrew word for 'hovering' is rachaph — it means to flutter, to brood, to move with energy and intention. This is our God. He does not wait passively. He moves first. He initiates. Momentum in the kingdom always begins with Him, not with us.
You did not choose momentum. Momentum chose you.
Once the world was formed it was called to multiply and be fruitful = momentum!
In him is the momentum… where is his Spirit leading?
"You yourselves have seen what I did to Egypt, and how I carried you on eagles' wings and brought you to myself." — Exodus 19:4
WHAT IS GOD SAYING… I BUILT MOMENTUM TO CARRY YOU OUT OF EGYPT.
The build can be hard, the waiting, the build up…
But when they left - they were begged to leave, given treasure, given favor, provided miracles of crossing the red sea!
The eagle does not flap its wings furiously —
it spreads them wide and rides the thermal currents. The question is not: 'How hard am I working?' The question is: 'Am I in alignment with what God is already doing?
An eagle will carry its young on its wings after pushing them out of the nest…
Not only that they will remove the soft lining of the nest to get them to step out…
IF THEY DON’T THEY WILL PUT THORNS IN THE NEST…
The eaglet will be forced out only then to have the mother fly with it, catch it if need be and teach it to catch the thermal waves of momentum.
Maybe things are uncomfortable because God is trying to move you into momentum.
Jun 18, 2026
Jun 18, 2026
7 min
TDA
The David Alliance
Corinthians 1:27-29:
"But God chose the foolish things of the world to shame the wise; God chose the weak things of the world to shame the strong. God chose the lowly things of this world and the despised things—and the things that are not—to nullify the things that are, so that no one may boast before him."
Right after using these three words, Paul caps off his thought in verse 28 with a fascinating Greek phrase: ta mē onta, which literally translates to "the things that are not" or "the non-existent things."
God literally takes people and things that the world treats as if they don't even exist—social ghosts, invisible people, tiny crumbs—and uses them to bring to absolute nothingness (katargeō) the heavy hitters of society.
It is the ultimate biblical paradox: God uses the "morons," the "powerless," and the "nobodies" to rewrite human history.
Jun 17, 2026
Jun 17, 2026
7 min
The David Alliance
Garth Heckman
Common Patterns Across Preparation for the ultimate purpose.
OR AS I LIKE TO THINK OF IT
WHAT THESE WAVES PRODUCE AS MY FREQUNCY
- Obscurity and delay built character: Long "preparation seasons" stripped self-reliance and taught waiting on God.
- Suffering produced empathy and reliance:
- Skills and context were strategic: God repurposed their vocations/cultures (shepherding, fishing, scholarship, administration, tentmaking) rather than erasing them.
- Failures were not disqualifiers: Denial (Peter), murder plot involvement indirectly (Paul, Paul shouting at the High Priest), family dysfunction (Joseph/David) became part of their testimony.
- Positioning: Experiences placed them exactly where needed (Joseph in Egypt, Daniel in Babylon, Paul on Roman roads, Ruth in Boaz’s field).
- Ultimate purpose was bigger than comfort: Their lives advanced God’s redemptive story—preserving Israel, establishing kingship, prophesying, building the Church, and pointing to Jesus.
Purpose
Disruption follows purpose.
ie. God created the earth and sin entered. God calls a person and disruption enters,
If our purpose does not end in people it’s empty of true fulfillment!
1 — Purpose is simple. It is given to us by God. But is fulfilled thru your gifts, talents, passions, abilities, (these are different waves that create the frequency of your life)
2. Purpose has nothing to do with perfection - but rather in motion - continually moving forward in Gods purpose.
3. The sum of your interruptions, roadblocks and daily grind fulfill your purpose more than the grand scheme, dream or goals you achieve.
4. "Your unique gifting, passion and quirks were engineered for friction and addiction.
What do I mean?
Your purpose will cause friction for some.
Your Purpose will be your addiction… you can’t give up.
Joseph told his brothers his dreams. This wasn’t just a young boys blunder, but a confidence and stubbornness born out of his purpose.
5. "Your purpose might look entirely invisible to the world."
Culture tells us that impact is measured by volume, dollars, visibility, likes and applause. A divine perspective, however, measures weight differently.
Jun 16, 2026
Jun 16, 2026
7 min
The David Alliance
Garth Heckman
So what am I talking about today?
But we get our gifting, our passions our talents and our purpose all confused.
What is what?
Gifting is a natural ability. Athletics, singing, math, Art
Passion is something we love doing. Performing, creating, teaching, playing
Talents are typically something we have practiced to achieve.
And sometimes these all weave together for the perfect storm.
But none are the sum total of our purpose!
The Bible doesn't give just one single sentence for a person's purpose;
it unfolds it like a grand narrative with a few core pillars.
OT and NT a person's ultimate purpose is generally broken down into three main relationships:
- your relationship with God,
- your relationship with others,
- and your relationship with the world around you.
1. To Know God and Bring Him Glory MGLG
At the very foundation, the Bible states that humans were created by God and for God. Your primary purpose is to be in a relationship with Him and to reflect His character to the world.
- Reflecting His Image: In Genesis 1:27, it says humans are made in the "image of God." Think of this like a mirror—our job is to reflect His love, justice, kindness, and creativity into the world.
- Bringing Him Glory: MGLG -The prophet Isaiah quotes God as saying, "Everyone who is called by my name, whom I created for my glory, whom I formed and made" (Isaiah 43:7).
BOTTOM LINE: LOOK LIKE GOD AND MAKE HIM LOOK GOOD
2. The Twin Pillars: Love God, Love People
When Jesus was asked what the most important commandment in the entire scripture was, He simplified the entire Old Testament law into two direct actions. This is often looked at as the "Ultimate Summary" of human purpose.
MATTHEW 22:37 The first commandment Love the Lord your God with all your heart, mind and spirit. Second greatest is to lover your neighbor as yourself.
3. Cultivate the World (The Cultural Mandate)
Purpose in the Bible isn't just spiritual; it's also practical and action-oriented. Right at the beginning of the human story, God gave mankind a specific job description regarding the earth itself.
In Genesis 1:28, humans are told to "Be fruitful and increase in number; fill the earth and subdue it." This is often called the Cultural Mandate. It means humans are designed to be stewards—caretakers of creation. Your purpose includes taking raw potential (whether that's land, a business, a family, or a talent) and cultivating or literally squeezing everything out of it to help life thrive.
4. Walking in Unique, Prepared Good Works
the Apostle Paul writes about how Gods purpose intertwines with our purpose which is good works. We are uniquely crafted for specific contributions to this world.
"For we are God’s handiwork, created in Christ Jesus to do good works, which God prepared in advance for us to do." — Ephesians 2:10
The word used for "handiwork" or "workmanship" in the original Greek text is poiema (where we get our word poem). The Bible views your life as a unique masterpiece designed to carry out specific good deeds that match your exact strengths, personality, and experiences.
Does "Handiwork" Tie into "Good Works"?
Thematically yes, strongly: The verse's logic flows from identity (we are God's crafted masterpiece) to purpose (created for good works God pre-planned). Being God's poiema equips and orients us toward the erga agatha. Good works are the outworking and goal of His creative work in us—not the cause of salvation, but its fruit (tying back to vv. 8–9).
Picture this: His work in us, created us for his works through us to fulfill his purpose.
Handiwork vs. Good works in Eph. 2:8,9
Two different words.
Gods work is a masterpiece
Our work is a labor.
ONE IS OUR IDENTITY
THE OTHER IS OUR ACTIVITY
Life experiences we see in scripture and the real world.
Their life experiences were not random or wasted but formed the precise preparation, character development, skills, relationships, and credibility God used for their callings.** The Bible shows a consistent pattern: God shapes people through seasons of obscurity, suffering, failure, cultural exposure, and incremental faithfulness long before the "big moment." These experiences built humility, dependence on God, specific competencies, empathy, and strategic positioning.
David (1 Samuel 16 – 2 Samuel)
- **Key experiences**: Rejected by His father born illegitimate, Shepherd boy overlooked by family, given menial jobs, trials by lion/bear protecting sheep, anointed privately as future king, served Saul as musician/warrior, faced Goliath with past faithfulness as proof, 13 plus years as fugitive hiding in caves from Saul, attracted misfits and losers, forced to work with the Philistines his enemies.
- **How it prepared him**: Learned how to deal with rejection and turn to God. Shepherding taught leadership, courage, and reliance on God (Psalms reflect this). Defeating Goliath came from tested faith in small battles. Wilderness years forged trust in God’s timing (refusing to kill Saul), developed military strategy, and created a loyal following. These equipped him to unite Israel, establish the kingdom, write worship that endures, and prepare the way for the temple/Solomon. His "rejection" years were kingship training.
Jun 14, 2026
Jun 14, 2026
7 min
Garth Heckman
The David Alliance
Can opener
What is it?
How do I use it?
Where do I use it?
Why do I use it?
My Natural gifts are leadership, communication,
(Preached when I was 14, spoke for Mayor Pawlenty, spoke infant of 20K- never nervous)
My physical gifting is balance, strength, I could skate, ski, snowboard great for a husky kid
My Spiritual gifting is Evangelism, Apostleship, Preaching/teaching, giving
My Soul gifting is creativity, music, poetry - written 100’s songs, books for Hal Leonard
My Mental gifting is prolonged focus, grind, discipline AND AN IDGAF ATTITUDE
These are all waves… but when they tune into the frequency that God has for me it intensifies my life in His purpose.
**BUT HANG 3 PICTURES ON A WALL… NEVER!
Liars club and old show - What’s this for? What is its purpose. David Letterman got his start here…
When I tested in high school it said you should be a professional clown, a comedian or an actor/singer. I guess I’m all three today.
I took a test when I was in my late 20’s at a conference. Basically it took questions and pictures of your formative years and helped you weave insight into your gifting…
My Storie board growing up helped me understand that I was doing exactly what I should be doing…
But none of these told me my purpose.
Mark Twain is widely credited with the famous quote: "The two most important days in your life are the day you are born and the day you find out why.
a 1970 sermon by the Rev. Ernest T. Campbell at the Riverside Church in New York.
Jun 11, 2026
Jun 11, 2026
7 min
Garth Heckman
The David Alliance
Gravity - You can’t beat it.
Client lost 265 pounds…
Box jump 2 inches… to 20 inches.
You can’t beat gravity… but you can improve.
Eph. 3
17 so that Christ may dwell in your hearts through faith. And I pray that you, being rooted and established in love, 18 may have power, together with all the Lord’s holy people, to grasp how wide and long and high and deep is the love of Christ, 19 and to know this love that surpasses knowledge—that you may be filled to the measure of all the fullness of God. 20 Now all glory to God, who is able, through his mighty power at work within us, to accomplish infinitely more than we might ask or think.
Look at the dot of an “I” in your bible.
That is the sun, it holds 1 million earths
Our current earth is the galaxy it lives in
THERE ARE PLANETS OUT IN OTHER GALAXIES THAT ARE BIGGER THAN OUR GALAXY.
Paul is essentially praying that his listeners will do the impossible: to intellectually comprehend something that is inherently beyond intellectual comprehension, all so they can be entirely consumed by the divine.
He is telling you to try to beat gravity… you won’t but you can experience it greater and greater.
A teacher in bible college put it this way… Describe to someone what the ocean is who has never SEEN THE OCEAN AND NEVER experienced anything liquid.
God calls us to grasp how wide, long, high and deep his love is… knowing we never will fully grasp it.
But the attempt is clear: ALWAYS FOCUS ON GODS LOVE FOR US!
When you focus on Gods love 3 things happen in your life!
- 1. Sin
We don’t have a sin problem,
we have a knowing God problem.
Knowing His Supreme love keeps us tender and sinless - think of the time you were most whipped in love. I can. Kim and I were dating and she was in the car leaning forward fiddling with the radio. I was outside standing behind my car filling it up with gas. I looked at my buddy Pele and said can you believe that girl loves me? I literally
could not fathom it… He looked at me in disbelief and said “it makes no sense”. **But what if he then said “how many times do you think she will let you fool around
with other girls… how many times will she let you smack her around, lie to her, steal from her, gossip about her… etc… I would have had a mental breakdown and sparks shoot from a short circuit in my head… that would make no sense to me. Knowing God’s love keeps us from asking how far can I go in the world...
Satan will take your sin, your past, your guilt and try to make you feel like a servant.
ITS CALLED SIN CONCIOUS
John 14:31 If you love the father you will obey his commandments.
Love God = the fruit is obedience.
*if you focus on the commands you will be religious and guilt ridden and sin conscious.
You will fall into the trap of trying to push yourself away from your sin
Using willpower
Discipline
Rules
Accountability
What did Joseph say when he was tempted by Potiphar’s wife?
He remembers the 7th commandment: Thou shalt not have adultery…
NOPE!
Jun 10, 2026
Jun 10, 2026
7 min
Garth Heckman
The David Alliance
Gravity - You can’t beat it.
Client lost 265 pounds…
Box jump 2 inches… to 20 inches.
You can’t beat gravity… but you can improve.
Eph. 3
17 so that Christ may dwell in your hearts through faith. And I pray that you, being rooted and established in love, 18 may have power, together with all the Lord’s holy people, to grasp how wide and long and high and deep is the love of Christ, 19 and to know this love that surpasses knowledge—that you may be filled to the measure of all the fullness of God. 20 Now all glory to God, who is able, through his mighty power at work within us, to accomplish infinitely more than we might ask or think.
Look at the dot of an “I” in your bible.
That is the sun, it holds 1 million earths
Our current earth is the galaxy it lives in
THERE ARE PLANETS OUT IN OTHER GALAXIES THAT ARE BIGGER THAN OUR GALAXY.
Paul is essentially praying that his listeners will do the impossible: to intellectually comprehend something that is inherently beyond intellectual comprehension, all so they can be entirely consumed by the divine.
He is telling you to try to beat gravity… you won’t but you can experience it greater and greater.
A teacher in bible college put it this way… Describe to someone what the ocean is who has never SEEN THE OCEAN AND NEVER experienced anything liquid.
God calls us to grasp how wide, long, high and deep his love is… knowing we never will fully grasp it.
But the attempt is clear: ALWAYS FOCUS ON GODS LOVE FOR US!
Jun 7, 2026
Jun 7, 2026
7 min
The David Alliance
Garth Heckman
Just because cancer sucks doesn’t mean your life has to.
I have talked openly about my cancer journey before… 3 cancers started in my Colon, spread through my Lymphatic then liver cancer… they said I’d be dead in 2 years with liver cancer. But even though I made it I was left with a brain tumor and an enlarged heart… plus severe neuropathy and hearing loss and a few other goodies…
But what I kept telling myself was I hope others can learn from my journey… so I just finished
5 eBooks on my cancer journey. I just listed them on Etsy and Sam cart. If you have questions about cancer for yourself or a friend feel free to hit me up. But with that I want to do a short series on what I learned the hard way from living through the hard way.
1. Prayer Becomes a Lifeline, Not a Ritual
Before cancer, prayer can feel like a spiritual discipline — something you do because you should. Cancer strips that away entirely. When you are lying in a clinic chair watching chemicals drip into your veins, prayer stops being a religious exercise and becomes the most honest conversation of your life. You learn to pray with a rawness and desperation that actually draws you closer to God than a thousand comfortable Sunday mornings ever did.
2. God Is Present in the Darkness, Not Just the Highlights
It is easy to sense God in the mountaintop moments — the answered prayers, the breakthroughs, the celebrations. Cancer teaches you to find Him in the valley. In the 2am fear. In the waiting room silence. In the moment the doctor walks in with results. You discover that His presence was never limited to the good days — He was always there. You just needed the noise of a comfortable life to be stripped away before you could feel Him.
3. Surrender Is Not Weakness — It Is the Bravest Thing You Will Ever Do
The control you thought you had was always an illusion. Cancer simply makes that undeniable. Learning to say "God, I trust You with this" — and actually mean it — is one of the most spiritually mature and courageous acts a human being can perform. You discover that surrender is not giving up. It is giving over — and there is an inexplicable peace that follows that most people never experience until they have no other choice.
4. Your Identity Is Not in Your Health, Your Productivity, or Your Role
Cancer has a way of stripping you of everything you used to define yourself — your energy, your independence, your ability to perform and produce. And in that stripping, you are forced to confront a beautiful and terrifying question: Who am I when I can do nothing? The answer God whispers back changes everything. You are not what you do. You are not what you produce. You are deeply, permanently, unconditionally loved — and that is enough.
5. The Body of Christ Was Designed for Exactly This
You learn very quickly that you were never meant to walk hard seasons alone. The meals that show up at your door. The friends who sit in silence with you because they don't know what to say but they show up anyway. The stranger in the waiting room who prays with you. Cancer reveals the Church at its absolute best — and you discover that receiving grace from others is just as holy as giving it.
6. Eternity Becomes More Real Than Ever Before
When your mortality is no longer an abstract concept but a very present reality, eternity stops being theological and starts being personal. You find yourself thinking about heaven differently — not as a distant idea but as a coming home. Your grip on this world loosens in the most freeing way. The things that used to consume your worry — money, status, opinions of others — begin to look very small against the backdrop of forever.
7. Gratitude Goes Deeper Than You Knew Was Possible
You never knew you could be so grateful for a Tuesday. For a cup of coffee. For the sound of someone you love laughing in the next room. Cancer recalibrates your gratitude to a frequency most people never reach. The ordinary becomes sacred. The mundane becomes miraculous. You find yourself thanking God for things you walked past a thousand times without noticing — and that shift in perspective becomes one of the most unexpected gifts of the entire journey.
8. God Can Handle Your Anger, Your Doubt, and Your Questions
One of the most liberating spiritual discoveries of the cancer journey is that God is not fragile. He does not flinch when you are angry. He does not withdraw when you have questions He hasn't answered. He does not love you less when your faith feels more like a flickering candle than a raging fire. You learn that honest wrestling with God is not a sign of weak faith — it is actually the evidence of a real relationship. He can handle every hard question you bring to Him.
9. Your Suffering Has a Purpose Larger Than You Can See
Romans 8:28 stops being a bumper sticker and becomes a lifeline. You begin to see — sometimes only in hindsight — that nothing in your journey is wasted. The fear you survived gives you the ability to sit with someone else in theirs. The night seasons you endured become the very thing that qualifies you to speak hope into someone who is just entering their own. Your cancer becomes a platform for a ministry only you could carry — because you lived it.
10. Death Has Lost Its Sting — and That Changes How You Live
Perhaps the deepest spiritual gift of walking through cancer is coming face to face with your own mortality and discovering on the other side that you are no longer afraid. Not because the journey wasn't hard — it was. But because somewhere in the valley you encountered a God who conquered death Himself, and His resurrection became personal to you in a way it never was before. You come out the other side living differently — more boldly, more lovingly, more freely — because you have settled the deepest question a human soul can face.
These ten things are not just lessons — they are a testimony. And your three cancer journeys have given you a depth of spiritual authority on every single one of them that no seminary degree could ever replicate. 💙
Jun 4, 2026
Jun 4, 2026
7 min
The David Alliance
Garth Heckman
Just because cancer sucks doesn’t mean your life has to.
I have talked openly about my cancer journey before… 3 cancers started in my Colon, spread through my Lymphatic then liver cancer… they said I’d be dead in 2 years with liver cancer. But even though I made it I was left with a brain tumor and an enlarged heart… plus severe neuropathy and hearing loss and a few other goodies…
But what I kept telling myself was I hope others can learn from my journey… so I just finished
5 eBooks on my cancer journey. I just listed them on Etsy and Sam cart. If you have questions about cancer for yourself or a friend feel free to hit me up. But with that I want to do a short series on what I learned the hard way from living through the hard way.
1. Prayer Becomes a Lifeline, Not a Ritual
Before cancer, prayer can feel like a spiritual discipline — something you do because you should. Cancer strips that away entirely. When you are lying in a clinic chair watching chemicals drip into your veins, prayer stops being a religious exercise and becomes the most honest conversation of your life. You learn to pray with a rawness and desperation that actually draws you closer to God than a thousand comfortable Sunday mornings ever did.
2. God Is Present in the Darkness, Not Just the Highlights
It is easy to sense God in the mountaintop moments — the answered prayers, the breakthroughs, the celebrations. Cancer teaches you to find Him in the valley. In the 2am fear. In the waiting room silence. In the moment the doctor walks in with results. You discover that His presence was never limited to the good days — He was always there. You just needed the noise of a comfortable life to be stripped away before you could feel Him.
3. Surrender Is Not Weakness — It Is the Bravest Thing You Will Ever Do
The control you thought you had was always an illusion. Cancer simply makes that undeniable. Learning to say "God, I trust You with this" — and actually mean it — is one of the most spiritually mature and courageous acts a human being can perform. You discover that surrender is not giving up. It is giving over — and there is an inexplicable peace that follows that most people never experience until they have no other choice.
4. Your Identity Is Not in Your Health, Your Productivity, or Your Role
Cancer has a way of stripping you of everything you used to define yourself — your energy, your independence, your ability to perform and produce. And in that stripping, you are forced to confront a beautiful and terrifying question: Who am I when I can do nothing? The answer God whispers back changes everything. You are not what you do. You are not what you produce. You are deeply, permanently, unconditionally loved — and that is enough.
5. The Body of Christ Was Designed for Exactly This
You learn very quickly that you were never meant to walk hard seasons alone. The meals that show up at your door. The friends who sit in silence with you because they don't know what to say but they show up anyway. The stranger in the waiting room who prays with you. Cancer reveals the Church at its absolute best — and you discover that receiving grace from others is just as holy as giving it.
6. Eternity Becomes More Real Than Ever Before
When your mortality is no longer an abstract concept but a very present reality, eternity stops being theological and starts being personal. You find yourself thinking about heaven differently — not as a distant idea but as a coming home. Your grip on this world loosens in the most freeing way. The things that used to consume your worry — money, status, opinions of others — begin to look very small against the backdrop of forever.
7. Gratitude Goes Deeper Than You Knew Was Possible
You never knew you could be so grateful for a Tuesday. For a cup of coffee. For the sound of someone you love laughing in the next room. Cancer recalibrates your gratitude to a frequency most people never reach. The ordinary becomes sacred. The mundane becomes miraculous. You find yourself thanking God for things you walked past a thousand times without noticing — and that shift in perspective becomes one of the most unexpected gifts of the entire journey.
8. God Can Handle Your Anger, Your Doubt, and Your Questions
One of the most liberating spiritual discoveries of the cancer journey is that God is not fragile. He does not flinch when you are angry. He does not withdraw when you have questions He hasn't answered. He does not love you less when your faith feels more like a flickering candle than a raging fire. You learn that honest wrestling with God is not a sign of weak faith — it is actually the evidence of a real relationship. He can handle every hard question you bring to Him.
9. Your Suffering Has a Purpose Larger Than You Can See
Romans 8:28 stops being a bumper sticker and becomes a lifeline. You begin to see — sometimes only in hindsight — that nothing in your journey is wasted. The fear you survived gives you the ability to sit with someone else in theirs. The night seasons you endured become the very thing that qualifies you to speak hope into someone who is just entering their own. Your cancer becomes a platform for a ministry only you could carry — because you lived it.
Jun 3, 2026
Jun 3, 2026
7 min
The David Alliance
Garth Heckman
Just because cancer sucks doesn’t mean your life has to.
I have talked openly about my cancer journey before… 3 cancers started in my Colon, spread through my Lymphatic then liver cancer… they said I’d be dead in 2 years with liver cancer. But even though I made it I was left with a brain tumor and an enlarged heart… plus severe neuropathy and hearing loss and a few other goodies…
But what I kept telling myself was I hope others can learn from my journey… so I just finished
5 eBooks on my cancer journey. I just listed them on Etsy and Sam cart. If you have questions about cancer for yourself or a friend feel free to hit me up. But with that I want to do a short series on what I learned the hard way from living through the hard way.
1. Prayer Becomes a Lifeline, Not a Ritual
Before cancer, prayer can feel like a spiritual discipline — something you do because you should. Cancer strips that away entirely. When you are lying in a clinic chair watching chemicals drip into your veins, prayer stops being a religious exercise and becomes the most honest conversation of your life. You learn to pray with a rawness and desperation that actually draws you closer to God than a thousand comfortable Sunday mornings ever did.
2. God Is Present in the Darkness, Not Just the Highlights
It is easy to sense God in the mountaintop moments — the answered prayers, the breakthroughs, the celebrations. Cancer teaches you to find Him in the valley. In the 2am fear. In the waiting room silence. In the moment the doctor walks in with results. You discover that His presence was never limited to the good days — He was always there. You just needed the noise of a comfortable life to be stripped away before you could feel Him.
3. Surrender Is Not Weakness — It Is the Bravest Thing You Will Ever Do
The control you thought you had was always an illusion. Cancer simply makes that undeniable. Learning to say "God, I trust You with this" — and actually mean it — is one of the most spiritually mature and courageous acts a human being can perform. You discover that surrender is not giving up. It is giving over — and there is an inexplicable peace that follows that most people never experience until they have no other choice.
4. Your Identity Is Not in Your Health, Your Productivity, or Your Role
Cancer has a way of stripping you of everything you used to define yourself — your energy, your independence, your ability to perform and produce. And in that stripping, you are forced to confront a beautiful and terrifying question: Who am I when I can do nothing? The answer God whispers back changes everything. You are not what you do. You are not what you produce. You are deeply, permanently, unconditionally loved — and that is enough.
5. The Body of Christ Was Designed for Exactly This
You learn very quickly that you were never meant to walk hard seasons alone. The meals that show up at your door. The friends who sit in silence with you because they don't know what to say but they show up anyway. The stranger in the waiting room who prays with you. Cancer reveals the Church at its absolute best — and you discover that receiving grace from others is just as holy as giving it.
6. Eternity Becomes More Real Than Ever Before
When your mortality is no longer an abstract concept but a very present reality, eternity stops being theological and starts being personal. You find yourself thinking about heaven differently — not as a distant idea but as a coming home. Your grip on this world loosens in the most freeing way. The things that used to consume your worry — money, status, opinions of others — begin to look very small against the backdrop of forever.