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Monday Feb 19, 2024
Monday Feb 19, 2024
Garth Heckman
The David Alliance
TDAgiantslayer@Gmail.com Greg Kistler
How to be a man March 26th GRUB@ 6:45, MTG @7:15 HillSpring Church. Looking for your thoughts ideas and topics.
Eph. 5:22
Wives, submit yourselves unto your own husbands, as unto the Lord.
V. 33 Nevertheless let each one of you in particular so love his own wife as himself, and let the wife see that she respects her husband.
Respect - to obey, to desire, to win the favor of a God.
Does your husband feel desirable or desired by you?
When scripture calls the woman the weaker sex… one of the keys in understanding that verse is what it implies regarding the man…. And that is that he is stronger and will go through more trials, Temptations struggles and warfare in his relationship with God and with you and in life, then YOU the wife ever will.
- The man must be in right standing with God
No, the man can't be a bully and demand or Command but when he is a God-fearing loving husband, and he simply asks or expects out of your love for him to do the right thing -and you don't -it’s actually harder. * look if I demand my wife to do something and she doesn't well I guess - I get it because I'm being a Butthead. But when I'm truly a God-fearing loving man and she doesn't want to respect or serve or desire, then it's like slow poison to my system.
- The happiest wives and the most fulfilling marriages have wives that respect, submit and desire. Why? Because they have learned Gods ways are best…. Which means…
- Feelings are negated, they have learned to not let feelings dictate their life.
- Vows are taken in awe and fear before God. Wives ultimately will be held accountable by God to give an account of how well they served there husband…. By your actions did you make it easy for your husband to keep from temptation, to keep from being angry or bitter, to keep a soft heart towards you. Yes, he should always strive for this, but you are still part of the responsibility of making it easier for him. And you'll have to answer to God.
Sunday Feb 18, 2024
Sunday Feb 18, 2024
Garth Heckman
The David Alliance
TDAgiantslayer@Gmail.com Greg Kistler
How to be a man March 26th GRUB@ 6:45, MTG @7:15 HillSpring Church. Looking for your thoughts ideas and topics.
- The term warfare is used only 5 times in the NT and never in the context of the devil.
2 Cor. 10:3-5 Mental bondage
Tim. 1:18 a prophetic word to war the good war
2 Tim. 2:4 no man wars with the worlds affairs, details
James 4:1 war against the flesh
1 Peter 2:11 war against the flesh
The difference is stratos (warfare) and pal-ay wrestle.
We have already won the war… but we will wrestle
- pal-ay
Wrestle as if its life or death.
But the difference again is we wrestle and we war over over thoughts, mindsets and voices.
If we don’t wrestle as if it's life and death. Then we open up doors to Satan, where he can get a foothold and intern, allow demonic spirits to attach themselves to our behavior.
Eph. 4:27 and do not give the devil a foothold.
Foothold GK - opportunity, power, occasion for acting
DO NOT GIVE HIM A SEAT AT THE TABLE - HE WILL TAKE CONTROL.
Give him an inch and he will take a mile…
Give him an inch and he will take your mind.
***20 years ago in youth ministry we were trying to stop kids from cutting themselves, and now we are encouraging kids to cut things off!
WHY? We gave him a seat at the table!
The battle always starts in the mind.
Do your thoughts align with scripture?
Thursday Feb 15, 2024
Thursday Feb 15, 2024
Garth Heckman
The David Alliance
How to be a man March 26th GRUB@ 6:45, MTG @7:15 HillSpring Church. Looking for your thoughts ideas and topics.
Why you can love your spouse even when you hate your spouse… in fact you could actually rejoice when you are in moments and seasons, where you can't stand your spouse. Ultimately, it's the best thing for you if you understand what it means to be a disciple of Jesus Christ.
Your relationships (specifically marriage) is by far the very best venue in which to become more like Jesus. PERIOD! When you give up, check out, tune out, walk out, blame your spouse or God… you are just simply saying “hey this be like Jesus thing is not for me”. You may not see it that way,
(Insert excuses here… they changed, they hurt me, they're not who I thought they were, I thought I was marrying someone else, they've fallen in love with someone else, there was an fair, I just don't feel the same way about them anymore. We’ve grown apart.
but it is absolutely the very thing that is best prescribed for you to be more like Jesus. You can ignore this at your own peril… or you can embrace it and get excited about how much this is going to twin you with Jesus.
My wife gave me a Valentine's Day card yesterday with a two page letter in it praising me for what an amazing husband I am. I'm not saying this to Bragg but what I am saying is 38 years ago she would not have been able to write that letter. And the reason she can write that letter now is because there were many days and seasons I couldn't stand her. So how does this breakdown in real life, two weeks in a row? I don't want to be around her, but I've made a commitment and a covenant to be married to her so I must see God even more. Do you have the right heart and attitude towards my wife, and to love her. Moments like those throughout our life together is what has created me to be more like Jesus as well as her.
The question when you get married isn't about whether or not you want to have hot steamy sex great friendship, lots of laughter go on trips and experiences together. The question should be do I really want to be more like Jesus? Because if you - than get married, and stay committed for life! The outcome is inevitable, you have to be more like Jesus or you will be miserable..
Wednesday Feb 14, 2024
Wednesday Feb 14, 2024
Garth Heckman
The David Alliance
How to be a man March 26th GRUB@ 6:45, MTG @7:15 HillSpring Church.
God is a god of fashion and design and details. All one needs to do is simply look at creation, and you are overwhelmed at how much detail he put into the gift of creation for us to enjoy.
Song of Solomon is a love letter from a man to a woman and a woman to a man. As you read that you will understand, they take great details to explain how much one another means to them, and even use pictures and stories and emotions vividly to do just that.
Can you imagine if most men today wrote SS? Yeah I like your boobs and you smell like my favorite type food out at the fair…. Ahhhh the romantic
Detail starts in listening to your wife and then later that week asking her about how she is feeling about said conversation.
Recall places, conversations, feelings etc…
The truth is it doesn't take much to make your wife happy or feel loved, but it does take time and it does take details. Everyone wishes they had all the money in the world to spoil their spouse but still a spouse - in time -is wise enough to know that you put no effort into it just your wallet.
Details in your card… maybe some poetry
Heart vase, filled with chocolates, with flowers in it, and a $100 bill in it, and a hand written note of 3 favorite memories o my wife. But it really only cost me 20 bucks max.
Tuesday Feb 13, 2024
Tuesday Feb 13, 2024
Garth Heckman
The David Alliance
How to be a man March 26th GRUB@ 6:45, MTG @7:15 HillSpring Church.
Whats the bait?
V week… I make Kim walk around all week in a string bikini sparkly red….
What makes a guy HOT SEXY DESIREABLE
Feb. 5th 2007 A crazy decadent afternoon of passion - it was Super Bowl Sunday… I got a text message, I called the number back on a different phone… Kim heard me ticked off… thought it was about the game.
Eph. 5
21Submit to one another out of reverence for Christ. 22 Wives, submit to your husbands as to the Lord. 23For the husband is the head of the wife as Christ is the head of the church, His body, of which He is the Savior.…
Submit GK experience
And - Note that this verse clearly ties the truth about submission to the instructions on being filled with the Spirit. Paul is teaching that if one is filled with the Spirit, he or she will willingly submit themselves to whatever authority God has placed over them. The corollary truth is that genuine submission from the heart is not possible apart from the Spirit’s empowering. Finally, in this verse it is clear that there is to be a mutual submission between believers apart from the line of authority.
John Phillips…
The key to each relationship is submission, the kind of submission the Son yielded to the Father when He lived on earth as a man. That kind of submission, so often contrary to human nature, is an evidence of the filling of the Spirit. The Holy Spirit will drill us in submission by the pressure of human relationships. It may take time, but eventually we learn that the path of submission is best; we learn to fall in line with the will of the Holy Spirit.
What makes a wife want to submit in every area of life?
YOU HEAR GODS VOICE… and its proven
V Day
No, you can’t just say I heard from God- now submit. You have to have a proven track record my friend. Early in our marriage my wife wouldn’t ask me to pray for anything. In fact, she would ask me to ask my father to pray for things regarding our family or needs or problems. But overtime as I would learn how to press more and more in to hearing God’s voice, and it was a proven track record of hearing God’s voice acting on it and seen the fruit of it that caused her to submit.
Now the first person my wife runs to to ask to pray about something and to hear God’s voice, and what to do is me.
Do you wanna know why I’m so sexy to my wife? It’s because she sees a man who reads and praise every day, here’s God‘s voice, acts on it, and because of that she and her children bear much fruit and blessing because of it. In her mind, she thinks, of course I want to spoil rotten the man who brings me all good things through his walk with God.
I have conversations with friends who lament about the lack of respect, love and sex they get from there wives… I always ask them, would you want to be married to you?
Seriously is your faith so amazing that your wife rests in that, has confidence in that, sees a track record of that?
I find great joy when I find out my wife brags on me in front of other women… many times as these women lament about their husbands. She doesn’t brag about my bench press my skill in martial arts, my multiple business projects, money, friends… she brags about the security and safety I have provided for her.
Monday Feb 12, 2024
Monday Feb 12, 2024
Garth Heckman
The David Alliance
How to be a man March 26th GRUB@ 6:45, MTG @7:15 HillSpring Church.
ESPN, Grammys, NFL honors, After victories in sports,
Have you talked to their GF’s and buddies?
In Matthew 7:21-23, Jesus gives a profound warning about the deadly danger of self-deception:
“Not everyone who says to Me, ‘Lord, Lord,’ will enter the kingdom of heaven… Many will say to Me on that day, ‘Lord, Lord, did we not prophesy in Your name, and in Your name cast out demons, and in Your name perform many miracles?’ And then I will declare to them, ‘I never knew you; depart from Me, you who practice lawlessness.’”
This verse is a slap in the face wake up call. How does that kind of self-deception happen?
When you base your confidence of salvation on the wrong evidence. Example…many believe that if they affirm certain facts and make certain claims, use certain words, they can be sure they are Christians.
So how can someone who professes Christ tell if they are self-deceived and not a Christian at all?
First, merely referring or thanking Jesus as “Lord” because of a prior a profession of faith does not guarantee someone is a true believer. Matthew 7 says that at the judgment many will claim Jesus is their “Lord,” but have no real relationship with Him.
Second, merely believing the right doctrine does not make you a Christian. In the context of this passage, those who address Jesus as “Lord,” are referring to Him not only as Master but as God. They are acknowledging His deity. But you can acknowledge Jesus’ claims and the truth of the gospel and still not belong to Christ.
How many people on SM rave and promote bits and pieces of scripture regarding the worlds agenda. If only I had a dollar for every time I post truth from scripture and someone comments that is not very X like. Jesus is love, Jesus doesn’t judge….
Finally spiritual fervency doesn’t mean you are a Christian. In these verses, the repetition of “Lord, Lord” implies fervency both in life and at the judgment. These people are sincere! But an emotional response to Jesus Christ and His message is not a guarantee of genuine Christianity.
Warning…. They are sincere
So, if none of those things is solid proof of saving faith, what is?
Matt. 7:21 gives the answer: “Not everyone who says to Me, ‘Lord, Lord,’ will enter the kingdom of heaven, but he who does the will of My Father who is in heaven will enter.”
Jesus specifically identifies who will enter His kingdom: those who not only claim
Him as Lord, but also obey Him as Lord.
Obey GK - acting in such a way to cause Gods will to happen.
His will / word happens due to your actions.
He wants us virgins till marriage - how are your actions holding up
He wants purity, sacrifice, he wants us to share the gospel with people, actions??? Actions??? Actions???
Read his word, seek his voice and obey both.
Monday Feb 05, 2024
Monday Feb 05, 2024
Garth Heckman
The David Alliance
How to be a man coming soon at HillSpring Church.
Ecc. 9:10 10 Whatsoever thy hand findeth to do, do it with thy might; for there is no work, nor device, nor knowledge, nor wisdom, in the grave, whither thou goest.
What is keeping you from your goals
What is keeping you from your potential
What is keeping you from your future
What is keeping you from your wants and desires
What is keeping you from asking her out
What is keeping you from being the best husband, father,
What is keeping your broke???
Its not a lack of know how, its not a lack of opportunities, its not a lack of spiritual blessing, it is not a lack of education…
Its only one thing. Procrastination.
How do we overcome procrastination…
Start with your basic habits… build in habits that take procrastination out of your ritual.
You can’t read and pray or go to the gym…
Put it in your schedule to drive to the gym after work, read your bible for 10 minutes then walk into the gym. Don’t make decisions make your decisions… build it into your daily routine, your system and the decision has already been made.
Understand you have the power… most of us have jobs. We may not like our jobs but we choose to do them. The things we choose to procrastinate are the same things that work is… but we still can choose to do them. You have the power to choose, the same way you don’t want to work, but still choose to do so.
Start… simply start. Do something each day regarding your desire.
You want to write a book. Then today go buy a new journal. The next day buy a new pen and pencil. The next day buy a good lamp to write by at night… at some point the motivation kicks in and you just do it.
I went to a motivational speaker event (I go to lots) and the speaker said that he has learned how to get over 75% of his audience to be successful in what he shares… where in most people who go to an event like his - well they listen, they get fired up and go home and do nothing. So what does this guy do different to get such great results? He takes 20 minutes out of his presentation and tells them to work on their goal right now. Call someone, watch a video on Youtube, Text a possible network connection to grow, or ask someone to teach you, Ask someone to keep you accountable, IT DOES NOT MATTER, what mattes is they started and gained some motivation during the session… now here is a secret… he than asks those in attendance to share what they did with others around them… and the energy and mind share and catalyst of momentum kicks in.
Environment matters. I am just about finished with my book. I do not write at night, I do not write at work and I do not write at home. I write only one day and in one place. It is my favorite coffee shop with free refills. I know no one there, I put on my headphones and just write… Wednesday mornings from 7am - 10am. I can crank out as many as 40 pages in that time slot of 3 hours. However if you gave me 15 hours at home or work I would barely get 5 pages done. It is the wrong environment.
This last one works really well for me. I have talked about this a few years back on the podcast and its just something that I made up but really works. Before I begin a project or a goal… lets say it is calling up that girl I want to ask out. I put a timeline together…
Ok, Its 2pm, if I call right now and she answers, I could in 20 minutes be laughing on the phone with her. In 30 minutes I could be setting up a date with her, and in 45. Minutes I could be texting her, can’t wait for Friday night, and in 24 hours I could be texting her… do you like sushi? And in 2 days I could be out shopping for a new shirt… and in 4 days I could be sitting at dinner with her… and in 4 days 3 hours I could be kissing her goodnight.
Then I just let me mind track the time… the more I put off starting the farther away that kiss is.
Another example… I want to clean the garage. I put a mental map together… If I start in 20 minutes, I would have the back wall cleared in 45 minutes, 30 minutes after that I could have the old motorcycle parts pulled out of the garage, in 2 hours I could have my car parked back in my garage. In 3 hours I could have the boxes thrown, the fridge dragged out to the curb and I could be picking out paint colors for the wall.
Then I just let my mind track the time… the longer it takes me to start, the farther away my goal is accomplished… and it stirs me to start.
Sunday Feb 04, 2024
Sunday Feb 04, 2024
Garth Heckman
The David Alliance
How to be a man coming soon at HillSpring Church.
Are you not entertained?
Maximus (Russell Crowe)
Arguably the most recognizable Gladiator quote, this line delivered by Maximus goes to show the lack of empathy the crowd embodies. The mob wants nothing more than bloodshed and death, a show to distract them from the emptiness of reality.
We could easily cry this out in todays world forums and families.
As well as…
Are you not distracted?
Are you not deceived?
Are you not gullible?
Are you not in the dark?
Are you not in the fight?
Are you not the wicked Lazy servant who buried his talent in the ground?
We miss - I believe the most important line in the movie which follows this line. Gladiator yells to the crowd “are you not entertained, is this not why you are here?”
WHY ARE WE HERE?
Why are we here on this earth?
Entertainment… I doubt any of us would be so bold and so foolish to answer yes to this question… but yet we find ourselves at times in exactly that lifestyle and mindset.
If I strive to succeed at my business, is it not truly so that I have the resources to entertain myself and meet my desires?
You might be surprised at the number of times the Bible touches on the subject of entertainment. On the positive side, Jesus went to parties and made time to get away from the grind of ministry with His disciples. Paul said that God “richly provides us with everything to enjoy” (1 Timothy 6:17), and he obviously knew something about poetry (Acts 17:28), sports (1 Corinthians 9:24-26), and the theater (1 Corinthians 4:9). What’s more, the end of history is pictured as a banquet for God’s people in Revelation. Negatively, King Herod’s attempt to entertain his guests led to John the Baptist’s execution (Matthew 14:6-12), and the Persian King Ahasuerus’ wild party ended with what amounted to a divorce (Esther 1:1-22). How do we sort through these biblical references? Here are several principles to help you determine Scripture’s teaching on entertainment and amusement.
Entertainment is not for fleshly desires or feelings to be experienced. It is not an escape and it is not to be in the form of activities that are lewd, unholy, or selfish…
Entertainment a seen in scripture was for the purpose of enjoying Gods creation including his people. It gives you a respite for a fight that is coming again soon.
Interruptions don’t interrupt my mission, but rather serve as a break to focus on a particular aspect of God to feel invigorated and refreshed.
Monday Jan 29, 2024
Monday Jan 29, 2024
Garth Heckman
The David Alliance
How to be a man coming soon at HillSpring Church.
THOUGHT #1 LOYALTY PROTECTS LOYALTY
Marriage
Loyalty also means doing what is best to protect the Loyalty… the Loving Kindness.
Man's test of loyalty is when he is successful.
Woman's test of loyalty is if he is unsuccessful
TRUE LOYALTY PROTECTS LOYALTY
Loyalty… Im not in chat rooms, Im not flirting with the ladies at the gym, bank, work,
TRUE LOYALTY PROTECTS LOYALTY
There are men I have told my wife - That guy at church… don’t let him hug you. That guy on line, don’t respond to his comments…
READY TO SWALLOW HARD… SHE SUBMITS! -
SHE KNOWS I AM TRYING TO PROTECT OUR LOYALTY!
SHE WANTS TO BE LOYAL TO ME!
You know what Uriah should have said to Bathsheba? Hey if you are ever showering and a man wants to meet up with you… DONT! Even if its the King!
PROTECT THE LOYALTY!
I AM A JEALOUS HUSBAND…
GOD IS A JEALOUS GOD! WHY?
HE WANTS TO PROTECT THE LOYALTY!
I told Kim: I will love you no matter what… even if you cheat on me! IM NOT WANTING HER TO TEST ME ON THIS….
Thursday Jan 25, 2024
Thursday Jan 25, 2024
Garth Heckman
The David Alliance
How to be a man coming soon at HillSpring Church.
Who will God expose…
2 Kings 5
Naaman - the Kings General
Slave girl - captured by
King Aram - go and take 750lbs of sliver, 150lbs gold, 10 tailor made suits by Ben Snyder
King of Israel - he’s picking a fight
Elisha - I got this
DUNK 7 times in the Jordan river
Gehazi - Goes to get the money
Struck with Leprosy
Naaman does not want any of his money… but he does ask Elisha to ask God to overlook him having to bow to anther God
17 “If you will not,” said Naaman, “please let me, your servant, be given as much earth as a pair of mules can carry, for your servant will never again make burnt offerings and sacrifices to any other god but the Lord. 18 But may the Lord forgive your servant for this one thing: When my master enters the temple of Rimmon to bow down and he is leaning on my arm and I have to bow there also—when I bow down in the temple of Rimmon, may the Lord forgive your servant for this.”