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Friday Aug 21, 2020
Friday Aug 21, 2020
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Go big or go home!
Patrick J. Moynahan a US Senator who served for 40 years under both parties was asked the greatest change in the 40 years he was in office. He said it was the disintegration of the family. Divorce and the non biblical family structure have now become common place.
MIGHT I SUBMIT TO YOU TODAY – that we aint seen nothing yet. This family disintegration came at a time where we were still able to bond and connect emotionally, mentally and socially.
**MEANING THAT THIS PAST GENERATION AT LEAST HAD THE MENTAL, EMOTIONAL AND SOCIAL CAPACITY TO FORM HUMAN BONDS
WE NOW ARE RAISING A GENERATION THAT CANT EVEN BOND DUE TO PORN…
WE ARE RAISING BREEDERS – NOT PARENTS!
The brain is wired to experience love on 3 levels
Beta
Delta
Gamma
There are 3 levels that the brain has given men and woman to connect on
Phileo – Kindred, caring Nurturing love
Agape – Love you as my own, an undying love
Eros – hot passionate sexual love
Each has it’s own neural network with it’s own motives. If grown together IN MARRIAGE , full blown harmony and it flourishes!
When we just work one system the others shrink while the other takes over!
***If after a sexual act one cannot cuddle, communicate and share each others presence it destroys the high and the bonding.
You then look for a new high!
The worst case scenario is with Delta foss b – a chemical based protein that builds up in the brain and in time spills over like dominoes and flips a genetic switch and literally changes the structure of the brain.
Neoplasticity – rewires your literal brain tissue
I am no scientist but my guess is that over time it will begin to show up in newborn babies, much like fetal alcohol syndrome. A women drinks enough and it actually affects the genetic make up of the child.
What do women want? I know the secret! I really do!
I have had numerous conversations with couples where I will stop and say that I know the secret. When they ask me what I am talking about, I will say that I know the secret of what women want. Sometimes I say this to bait a man to come back to counseling. I tell him to come back one more time and I will tell him what that secret is. And with that I will lean over and whisper the secret into his wife’s ear and she will laugh or smile and say that I am absolutely right. So do you want to know the secret? Ok, send me $500 in unmarked bills… ok, kidding. Here is the secret men: Women want a man who wants for them what they want! Ok, guys we can be a little slow so let me unpack that for you. Your wife wants to have a husband that knows her enough and understands her enough that he knows what she wants specifically and knows women enough to know what she wants overall. Easy as pie, right? Ok, I got to admit I am as dumb as the next guy when it comes to this… but I have done my research.
What do women want specifically…. That one is on you- ask ?’s make notes
A final word to the women
Women you need intimacy and romance more then men. Due to this women can lust over romanticism. Constantly comparing their marriage romanticism to (and lack thereof) to the latest and greatest movie, couple next door or Hollywood star. So ladies if you are reading this please understand the addiction and destruction of such attitudes. You may have a great self-esteem and you may love your life all except for the fact that you feel like you deserve more romanticism from your husband. You need to fess up to this and talk to your husband about it.
And here is another hint to all the women out there… why do most men hate romantic movies? Two reasons; first, they feel like they are being judged by them. The average guy and even the above average guy can’t compete with the romantic scene in the movie. If your husband came home all excited because he bought you both front row tickets for the upcoming bikini fashion show, how would you feel? This is how your husband feels when you watch endless hours of lifetime for women movies. Secondly, many men have admitted to me secretly that they hate those movies because while a wife will romanticize over the passionate scenes in a movie, in real life she barely lets her husband kiss her or make love to him. If you don’t understand what I mean by this then imagine yourself losing 25 pounds or getting your hair done or picking up that perfect little black dress only to feel like your husband deep down inside is comparing you to the starlet on the cover of People magazine. It doesn’t bode well.
Here are some more simple guidelines to live by. Men are pretty simple (me included) feed them, share your respect for them and have sex with them and just like your shampoo bottle says “rinse and repeat”. Do this frequently and life is a whole lot easier.
Guys you are not off the hook. Women need to have meaningful conversation and be romantically wooed in a regular basis. There are times I will sit and listen to my wife talk about stuff I don’t understand, care about or think is even remotely important… but it quickly turns into an emotional connection which makes for a great sexual connection. Sometimes I will even try to be romantic like the time I snuck home in the middle of the day and put a dozen roses on the table and snuck back out. The problem was that I closed the garage door behind me (it was open when I came home) because I wanted her to come downstairs and see the flowers. Unfortunately the garage door was up because she went for a walk with the dogs and came home and was locked out of the house. This was before the “cell phone” era and she was locked out until I got home 4 hours later. She was not happy, but you can be darn sure I was happy when I got home to let her in and there were roses on the counter… and yes we laughed about it and the make up sex was worth it. It is always the thought that counts more than the perfect romantic experience.
Thursday Aug 20, 2020
Thursday Aug 20, 2020
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What are you addicted to?
The problem is we think porn addiction is purely mental… it is not. It is as much a physical addiction as any other drug.
The difference between tolerance/ desensitization/ sensitization
*You build up a tolerance and need more and more exposure, morning noon night
*Desensitization is you need harder and harder
*Sensitization – you now need it not for the high, but to feel normal
Like an alcoholic –
Tolerance: You need more alcohol
Desensitization: You need harder liquor
Sensitization: You need more and harder just to feel normal (there is no high anymore)
you drink, soon you need to drink more then finally you need to drink just to feel normal (there is no high involved)
TWO SYSTEMS in our brain at work during orgasm
Or
Why I like sex with my wife
(system 1) Porn exciting – but no sex (dopamine) builds tolerance
(system 2) Satisfying – actually having sex, endorphins trust, security
After sex “Honey I wrecked the car” – why did she feel safe to tell me in that moment? She felt safe!
So here are some practical, tough, gut busting steps you can take on your way to a good counselor. But remember these are not the end all be all to conquering your addictions.
- Get rid of all things that you use in your addiction. Computer, internet, smart phone, etc… if it gives you access to porn then dump it.
- If option one is not possible due to work then tell your boss that you have an addiction to porn and you must put some type of security software on your computer to monitor you and help you break this addiction.
- If you are a women dealing with self esteem issues you can do the same by taking a 6 month media fast. Get rid of all magazines, websites, movies, music etc… that cause you to fall into the comparison trap.
- Find a strong Christian who can help keep you accountable in these areas.
- Begin to study God’s word and what he says about your issues. Memorizing scripture that you can go to war with. Place them up in your house where you can read them and meditate on them.
- Do a house cleaning of your past and ask yourself tough questions like where did this addiction start and why?
- Find out what your triggers are that drive you to your addiction. Many women have a trigger with apparel shopping and low self-esteem. Many men have certain times of the day that they are bored or in front of their computer that causes them to look at porn.
- If you are married and struggling with porn then have sex with the lights on. Enjoy your spouse in every way possible. Build a library of mental images of your spouse and what you do in bed and how you enjoy each other. Proverbs 5:19 say’s to let your lovers breasts satisfy you at all times. The idea here is continually overflow your mind soul and body with exposure to her nakedness.
- If your issue is self esteem then understand that self esteem is not tied to image but rather tied to who Christ says you are He says:a. using your gifts and talents, b. learning how to overcome challenges and c. serving others. d.distinguish between three facets of perception: facts, interpretation, and emotion.
- 10.Almost all addictions are tied to unhealthy relationships and friendships. You will have to break off some friends etc… in order to make this work.
What do women want? I know the secret! I really do!
Wednesday Aug 19, 2020
Wednesday Aug 19, 2020
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There are many dangers – here are some of the major ones.
- It is an arousal addiction. Drug addicts want more… but porn addicts want MORE different, MORE harder, MORE grittier and MORE violent, and then they want even more and it never stops. It is a monster that is veracious.
- It rewires the brain in unhealthy ways. Seeing people as objects is just one of the major dangers.
- It creates dissatisfaction in not only your spouse, but in any partner. No one can live up to a porn image, video or experience.
- It causes impotency. Ever wonder why drugs like Cialis, Viagra and others have become so popular? Porn will leave you limp in bed.
- Social media and that includes porn is the leading cause of divorce, marital dissatisfaction and adultery.
- It is changing the sexual identity of our youth, creating the greatest distortions of our sexual attitudes and social realities in the shortest amount of time. There has been a skyrocketing percentage of young girls in emergency rooms due to anal sex from a boyfriend who watched porn and forced this on his girlfriend.
- A close relation between porn use and feelings of loneliness, depression and low self esteem.
- And #8 The greater the exposure to porn the greater ones self esteem drops and affects ones ability to enjoy the comfort and company of the opposite sex.
- It’s harder to quit than crystal meth or crack.
- 10.Let’s not forget that the estimated lost wages for employers is almost a staggering 17 billion.
2 Cor. 10:3-7
3 For though we live in the world, we do not wage war as the world does. 4 The weapons we fight with are not the weapons of the world. On the contrary, they have divine power to demolish strongholds. 5 We demolish arguments and every pretension that sets itself up against the knowledge of God, and we take captive every thought to make it obedient to Christ. 6 And we will be ready to punish every act of disobedience, once your obedience is complete.
7 You are judging by appearances. If anyone is confident that they belong to Christ, they should consider again that we belong to Christ just as much as they do.
So what are some of the divine weapons we have?
First of all understand…
Marriage doesn’t cure porn addiction any more than it cures drug addiction.
Easiest to fall when:
Overly tired
Overly confident
Over the line- what you expose yourself to (instagram, the beach, bar, gym)
- 1 Repent
- 2 Remove triggers
- 3 Counseling
- 4 Accountability with others and technology
- 5 Sex with your spouse
*Don’t gear up to fight what you can eliminate: Don’t try to fight the images on your phone… just eliminate it.
Tuesday Aug 18, 2020
Tuesday Aug 18, 2020
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What does Porn do to us?
FIRST WE MUST ASK HOW DOES IT WORK?
Beethoven
DO-RE-ME-FA-SO-LA-TE-DO
All these chemicals emit…. wanting completion
*dopamine – the pleasure drug
*serotonin – oil for your brain
*Oxytocin – bonding chemical
*MHC – Attraction
*Delta Foss B – Genetic programmer
*Phenothylamine – ecstatic high
* epinephrine
* vasopressin
* testosterone and estrogen, FSH and LH
PHYSICALLY
We become angry and impotent and dissatisfied
SPIRITUALLY
Well from this verse it is obvious that you can end up in Hell.
EMOTIONALLY
Now ladies… Before you cast stones at me!
I have sat in my office and heard women yell and scream and cry about their husbands porn habits - AND THEY HAVE EVERY RIGHT TOO!
Before you cast stones at me and call me a heretic let me explain on a very basic visceral level.
Here are the facts;
men look at porn (typically women who are exceptionally beautiful and desirable) and to some degree men get something out of it. They then suffer from its affects ranging from
low self-esteem
Sexual dysfunction
addiction,
destroying intimacy in the bedroom
Lack of trust
lack ability to be turned on
all the while compromising and corrupting their marriage in numerous ways.
Compare that to women who look at images in the media via magazines, movies, Internet images for advertising etc…(typically women who are exceptionally beautiful and desirable) and to some degree women get something out of it. They then suffer from its affects ranging from
low self-esteem
Sexual dysfunction
addiction,
destroying intimacy in the bedroom
Lack of trust
lack ability to be turned on
all the while compromising and corrupting their marriage in numerous ways.
Sound familiar???
satan in his incredibly evil and perverse way… takes the root of the porn issue and re-packages it in such a way that you also struggle with it.
YOU LUST:
LUST: GK - desire, lust after
I long for, covet, lust after, set the heart upon.
It has got to be tough to be a woman in today’s world. Women are exposed to thousands of images daily and the majority of them have perfect bodies, breasts and buttocks. Most images have a studio behind them that has given them an extreme make over, perfect lighting and what few blemishes are left get taken care of by Photoshop. There is no way to compete if you are using this as your standard of beauty.
JOE ROGAN
So what happens to the women who constantly compare themselves to the “image factory” that the media forces down our throats? They suffer from many of the same issues that men suffer from with pornography.
in over 35 years of counseling
More men complain about wives not wanting sex due to self esteem issues.
No excuses for porn for men…
No excuses for porn for women…
God condemned David, Solomon and Samson for their porn habits… you don’t get a mulligan
over 50% of the time spent on the internet world wide is looking at porn.
64% of Christian men look at porn - desire and distraction
Close to 20% Christian women - curiosity and comparison
BUT ON TOP OF THAT WOMEN ARE ALSO BOMBARDED AT IMAGES THAT THEY SHOULD LOOK LIKE.
SOCIAL MEDIA has now become the number one cause of low self esteem among women!
Ladies you need to start to look at yourselves the way God looks at you and not the worlds.
*when you compare yourself to the worlds standards you are telling God he failed in how he made you.
*Ladies remember at the beginning of the sermon I said if you husband tells you he struggles to not hold it against him but to fight with him… BUT You must also be willing to admit to him that your self esteem is a hindrance to your sex life and intimacy with your husband and be willing to fight for that as well.
Monday Aug 17, 2020
Monday Aug 17, 2020
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What is Porn… I don’t know that I can define it, but I know it when I see it.
Thats not actually correct… so what is porn?
Any physical or mental act that will illicit sexual pleasure outside of the bonds of marriage through any other means than that of your spouse.
Matthew 5
27You have heard that it was said, ‘Do not commit adultery.’ 28But I tell you that anyone who looks at a woman to lust after her has already committed adultery with her in his heart. 29If your right eye causes you to sin, gouge it out and throw it away. It is better for you to lose one part of your body than for your whole body to be thrown into hell.
LUST: GK - desire, lust after
I long for, covet, lust after, set the heart upon.
PT Barnum one of the greatest promoters in the world.
Took over the circus and it became Barnum and Bailey Circus
The circus was still novel, spooky and not necessarily an accepted form of entertainment. He would hire an orchestra to play on Sunday at noon for free. Now understand that this was a big deal and for free meant people would come from all over the town and vicinity to hear them. They would be the worst orchestra you could find – simply terrible.
He had the orchestra play right next to the area where he had his circus set up and a few songs into the set he would drop a banner that said circus starts in 5 minutes. This obviously would drive people to the circus. He then would promise greater and more strange acts the next day and the next day until everyone was talking about it and would go!
The novelty would wear off and he would have to find greater and stranger acts. It was the only draw to keep people coming back.
This is much like the effects of porn on the brain. The culture has surrounded you with the idea that it is acceptable through soft porn like Sports Illustrated and Victoria secret commercials. But you must continue to up the anti.
Here is the simple explanation of what happens when you see porn.
You see the image and you are excited through erototoxins they include
*dopamine – the pleasure drug
*serotonin – oil for your brain
*Oxytocin – bonding chemical
*MHC – Attraction
*Delta Foss B – Genetic programmer
*Phenothylamine – ecstatic high
* epinephrine
* vasopressin
* testosterone and estrogen, and FSH and LH
The porn company studies your fetish’s so they can capture you and get this chemical response.
Types of porn – guy on girl, girl on girl, guy on guy, guy on horse, women in nickers, teen asian girls, spanking, Russian women shaving other Russian women etc…
All of these create a chemical high that does a few things.
Gives you a high – It works!
Try’s to bond – this creates anger triggers in the brain (over eat, spend, drink, excessive exercise)
Builds addiction to the chemicals
Over time creates sensitization
The stress creates scar tissue in the arteries
Damages the cells in the hippocampus –reason & remembering
We see women as objects – this is how the brain now is wired
Friday Aug 14, 2020
Friday Aug 14, 2020
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You’ve heard the saying “why do Bad things happen to good people” But we all know that Bad things happen to all people. And the real question is “Who caused the bad things to happen”?
When bad things happen….
I deserve it i sinned, I’m bad, I’m being punished, Gods not paying attention.
The truth is satan and his demons come to steal, kill and destroy… that about covers it.
Jesus came to give us life and life abundantly.
You know…
the book of Job was written 155 years before Moses. Job worshiped God, but did not know that there was a satan or demons. So when things got bad and satan attacked Job, he blamed God. Now he did not have an attitude about it- he basically was like “hey God can give good and bad”.
It took God himself to reprimand Job and correct him. Job 40:8
What was Jobs response? he humbled himself, repented and asked God to forgive him. Job. 42;10
Do you blame God for your life? Look I am not going to get into who caused your problems… satan, demons maybe even YOU??
But if you have played the blame game where you even hint that God played a part in this you need to go to him and repent. Tell yourself again that God comes to give life. Go into this weekend with the weight of blame off your shoulders and thank God that he is a God who brings good things!
Job 1:21, 13:24, 16:9
Thursday Aug 13, 2020
Thursday Aug 13, 2020
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lll. Demonic forces – Satan is a real being and a real force and he is out to steal, kill and destroy.
Distraction might be the most demonic activity we face today to keep us from building walls.
*We see over 2000 advertisements a day
*We are interrupted 600 times a day
*We have 999 channels on TV
To busy to build! To distracted to Build!
Cornerstone – Jesus is the cornerstone – if we build without him it will not stand.
1 Peter 2:6
6 For in Scripture it says: "See, I lay a stone in Zion, a chosen and precious cornerstone, and the one who trusts in him will never be put to shame."
The cornerstone is the crooked weird shaped stone in the corner of the foundation that keeps the rest of the building straight. If the building is not built from the cornerstone then the whole building will be built crooked and unsafe.
If you use the cornerstone anywhere else but the corner/beginning spot of the foundation it will still be as dangerous as ever
Uses for Duct tape – it is supposed to be for ducts –
I read 101 uses for Duct tape – billy club for protection, use instead of nail polish, remove hairs, toilet paper
We use the Cornerstone for all the wrong reasons –
We can’t just try to stick the cornerstone into our life half way into our life
We don’t just stick it into relationships when having problems
We don’t just stick it into money issues when short at the end of the month
We don’t just stick it into life when we get older
John 14:26 Jesus will send the Helper/Holy Spirit
The Holy Spirit is called parakletos – the HELPER
When Reese was 5 we bought him a super robot warrior model. It had 100,000 pieces. He begged me to put it together. So that night after everything was opened, picked up and everyone in bed I started to put it together. It took all night. He woke up that morning and saw it – EVERY KID HE SAW HE SAID LOOK AT THE MODEL I MADE – I WAS HAPPY TO HEAR HIM SAY THAT!
Do you need God’s intervention into your life.
I have not taken responsibility
I have opposition in my life right now
There are things I need to rebuild in my life
If this is you – lets ask God to do what only he can do as we now strive to do what only we can do!
Wednesday Aug 12, 2020
Wednesday Aug 12, 2020
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PART 2 What are you building…. the real question is who is stopping you!
Opposition from
ll. Others – Conflict from Your mom, dad, boss, wife, husband
THE REAL CONFLICT FOR MANY OF US ARE THE VOICES FROM THE PAST: I had great parents… I don’t remember much of them ever speaking negative to me… only a few times that stick out.
But I do remember a teacher, a girl my age at 16, a fat kid when I was in 6th grade…
a. Most conflict comes out of people who lose sight of what God has called us to do!
When you hear lies from your friends, parents, satan or your own head… this is what you tell them.
SHUT UP, SHUT THE FEAR UP!
In and out burger – one focus – burgers and fries and shakes.
Jesus last words – go into all the world and make disciples – THIS IS THE FIRST AND FOREMOST PROMISE FOR US TO WORK ON.
c. let go of the past – It used to be like this, we used to do it this way,
Kim and I were pulling into the garage and we had gotten Reese something and she said “ok lets not tell Reese not to say anything to Ryan I don’t want him to feel bad” and I said No that’s not right and she said your right – that’s my past.
NEW WALLS NEED NEW DESIGNS… need new ideas, new ways of doing things, a new timeline etc…
When building something new or something of faith- LET GO OF:
Past mistakes
Past habits
Past mindsets
When Nehemiah rebuilt the walls he did it in a new way – a way that they did not try in the past.
What are you building?
Build it Gods way and not the from the voices in your life or head!
Tuesday Aug 11, 2020
Tuesday Aug 11, 2020
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I Could give you a hundred horror stories of me trying to put something together or build something… but lets go back to the beginning… when I was just 10 years old I build a wood boat. So excited to put it in the water… it’s wood right? Even if it sucks it will float…. Nope sunk to the bottom of the lake… why? I used to many nails.
What do you want to build today?
Everyone is building something… your bank account, your dream car, house or boat. building the perfect marriage, the perfect family, the perfect job…
What are you building? Many times we think a lot about building but not a lot about what is trying to tear it down.
The temple was rebuilt, but the city is a wreck… and the walls are torn down leaving it open to the attack of the enemy. Nehemiah gets approval to rebuild the walls… and thats where the fun starts.
Nehemiah 2:10-20
10 When Sanballat the Horonite and Tobiah the Ammonite official heard about this, they were very much disturbed that someone had come to promote the welfare of the Israelites.
Nehemiah Inspects Jerusalem's Walls
11 I went to Jerusalem, and after staying there three days 12 I set out during the night with a few men. I had not told anyone what my God had put in my heart to do for Jerusalem. There were no mounts with me except the one I was riding on.
13 By night I went out through the Valley Gate toward the Jackal [a] Well and the Dung Gate, examining the walls of Jerusalem, which had been broken down, and its gates, which had been destroyed by fire. 14 Then I moved on toward the Fountain Gate and the King's Pool, but there was not enough room for my mount to get through; 15 so I went up the valley by night, examining the wall. Finally, I turned back and reentered through the Valley Gate. 16 The officials did not know where I had gone or what I was doing, because as yet I had said nothing to the Jews or the priests or nobles or officials or any others who would be doing the work.
17 Then I said to them, "You see the trouble we are in: Jerusalem lies in ruins, and its gates have been burned with fire. Come, let us rebuild the wall of Jerusalem, and we will no longer be in disgrace." 18 I also told them about the gracious hand of my God upon me and what the king had said to me.
They replied, "Let us start rebuilding." So they began this good work.
19 But when Sanballat the Horonite, Tobiah the Ammonite official and Geshem the Arab heard about it, they mocked and ridiculed us. "What is this you are doing?" they asked. "Are you rebelling against the king?"
20 I answered them by saying, "The God of heaven will give us success. We his servants will start rebuilding, but as for you, you have no share in Jerusalem or any claim or historic right to it."
3. Opposition Sanballat = sin
**if what you want to build is Godly then there will be opposition
- - My Fathers Church through out the years – money, The City, staff, politics, opposition from people WELL MEANING PEOPLE,
- - Build a Godly family – opposition from your family, from yourself, your kids, from the media from their friends, from your busy calendar
v.10 Political Reasons – NOT REALLY!!!
When you are trying to build something Godly Opposition comes from
Ourselves – Rationalize
Others - economic, gifting etc..
Satan - Demonic
l. Ourselves –
a. Laziness, hopelessness, Sinfulness, PRIDE and the list goes on…
We need others to break free from ourselves !
One of the first things Nehemiah did
was to find other like minded men
and take them with!
*Find others to help you build
Don’t ask your neighbor to help you build a rocket unless they work for NASA
Find the right people to help you build!
Tim Grindstaff – helped me build walls in my marriage. There was a lot of dissapointment.
The brains of Albert Einstein – Charles Atlas
The Body of Charles Atlas – Hemingway
The Romance of Hemingway – Albert Einstein
This is why it is so important for us to continue to invest in relationships.
They are the key to building Godly lives!
Jesus found the disciples to help build the walls/ the gospel movement.
Where would I be without Godly men in my life? Not very far…
Divorced, broke, unhappy, spiritually bankrupt, etc…
I have men in my life who have made major impacts on my
Health: My father, Mike Morgan,
Finances: David H, Phil,
Family: My father, Brian S
Ministry: My father, Tom Tom and Tom
Marriage: Tim G,
And the list goes on… but understand when building things that are Godly you need a team!
Monday Aug 10, 2020
Monday Aug 10, 2020
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#1: LIES
Your excuses are liars, your doubts are thieves.
The more times in a day that you rationalize why you can’t become all that you wish to be fertilizes and enforces the prison your mind operates in. Your excuses in time actually become real restraints and not just lies. You build your own prison to quote Creed… don’t hate me.
What does scripture say?
Satan is a liar! John 8:44
You are of your father the devil, and your will is to do your father's desires. He was a murderer from the beginning, and has nothing to do with the truth, because there is no truth in him. When he lies, he speaks out of his own character, for he is a liar and the father of lies.
The danger is not being lied to and believing it. It is lying to yourself and believing it. For in that moment you have created distrust, and therefore can no longer believe in yourself… let that sink in for a moment.
Satan whispers in our ear as if it is our own thoughts… if we choose to believe him, ourselves or anyone else that is contrary to scripture we are choosing to live outside of our potential and destiny.
#2: Your it
Blaming others is giving your power to people. We reinforce our psychological victim stories and procrastination patterns to the point where they actually become our identity the more we blame.
The greatest single most metaphysical momentum changer is choosing to take responsibility.
What are the top 3 things in your life that frustrate you? Now take responsibility for them and change them.
#3: Focus
Focus can be a form of complaining.
The more you focus on what’s not working for you, the more you’ll be training your brain to look for those things in your environment.
Focus on how little money you have and all you’ll see is more scarcity of prosperity.
Focus on how mean people are and you’ll notice more mean people.
Focus on the lack of opportunities and you’ll witness more closed doors.
Don’t believe me?
Kim and I went on vacation and our rental car was an arcadia… we had never seen them before in Minnesota. we liked it and thought they must be popular in Florida, but must not be good in the snow- that’s why we don’t see them in Minnesota. When we got home, we were picked up by friends and on the way home we saw a dozen Arcadias… our mind had been reframed by what we were focusing on.
Start focusing on opportunities.
Here is a challenge: Pull out your phone and write down all the opportunities to serve God, pray for others etc…
Write down all the opportunities to make money within your skill set.
NOW WHAT SHOULD YOU EXPECT? Expect to have about 2-3 dozen more flood your mind in the next few days… What you focus on is what you see and expect and attract to your life.
Matt. 6:33
Seek me first… Focus on God first… why? because pretty soon that is all you will see! His will, his opportunities, his blessing, his gifting, his open doors.
#4: Flat line
Why is life so blah blah blah flatlined?
You don’t have the energy to go after it….why? Health? maybe a part of it. But mostly due to the fact that your goals are to low, they have no spark, no wow factor!
My goals are my alarm clock in the morning. Jesus came to give us life and life abundantly… why don’t we feel that Zoe life? because somewhere we have exchanged Gods life for our lower expectations life. A “life” free life, if you will. A life that protects us from failure by not going after Gods life.
Jesus came to give us life and life abundantly…. just think if I made you a guitar… It would probably be ok…. but what if the greatest luthier made you a guitar?
God’s life is above and beyond what we could expect… the author of life is giving us a hand made, perfect amazing life (I don’t mean perfect as in no problems, I simply mean the perfect life for us in order to be all that we can be)
Why would you not go after that?
Fear.
but if you press into god and experience his love- it casts out all fear and you can push in even harder for his life. His goals, his accomplishments.