Why men shutdown in relationships

Garth Heckman 

The David Alliance

TDAgiantSlayer@gmail.com

BAM - watch them every Tuesday night on our Facebook page. This Week the Jezebel Spirit… and not just women have it. 

 

August Friday and Saturday 16th 17th End times conference at HillSpring Church sponsored by The David Alliance, 

 

8 reasons why you shut your mouth and quit sharing your life and struggles with your woman…

And what you can do about it… this will be a series…

 

Silence is not strength. If You choose to not deal with hurts and issues realize you are choosing the easiest thing To do -not the hardest or most brave… and definitely not the healthiest way to deal with issues. 

 

Yes we all have stuff to deal with and we all have stuff to bury… but should we?  

How do you deal with your hurt especially from the one you love the most.

 

1  - She uses it against you later on.

 

She herself may be wounded. And when people use your weaknesses as weapons against you- it can cause a man to shut down in a millisecond? 

 

Then he distrusts others… even other trusted men.

 

Here is a different perspective from the word of God when we talk about sharing the gospel and being rejected. The Bible tells us that we will be despised and rejected for sharing Christ so we aren't shocked when it happens. We're still cool to do it because it's the right thing. And the same way we are still call to share our hurts our emotions and our feelings with our loved ones even if they won't except it or even if they use it against us. But knowing this text some of the sting out of it when it happens. 

 

An illustration are used to use regarding this point is when I would go to speak to a large group of teenagers before walking out on the stage will be introduced. I would unzip my zipper. It wouldn't take more than a few seconds, and Kids would start yelling your zippers down your zippers down. They will expect me to become incredibly embarrassed, but instead, I would simply reach in my pocket and pull out a note and ask one of them to read it into the microphone, and the note would say this, I know my zippers down why are you looking. Kids would laugh, but then I would explain to them that I'm not embarrassed because I knew it was down. I knew what was happening and I was prepared. If you have the Same mindset when you share your intimate hurts and feelings with your spouse, it lessens the blow if they choose to ever use it against you.