Why men shut down P2

Garth Heckman 

The David Alliance

TDAgiantslayer@gmail.com

 

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August Friday and Saturday 16th 17th End times conference at HillSpring Church sponsored by The David Alliance, 

 

8 reasons why you shut your mouth and quit sharing your life and struggles with your woman…

And what you can do about it… this will be a series…

 

Silence is not strength. If You choose to not deal with hurts and issues realize you are choosing the easiest thing To do -not the hardest or most brave… and definitely not the healthiest way to deal with issues. 

 

Yes we all have stuff to deal with and we all have stuff to bury… but should we?  

And Why Do we??

 

Yesterday was #1 she may use it against you.

TODAY…

 

  2 -  He may not want her to worry about him, or to think less of him.

 

What happens if you tell your wife that you are tempted to talk behind someone's back at work so that you get the promotion. Or that you are struggling with porn or lust or that you haven't read or prayed for a few weeks. Your first concern is how she will then see you and how that will then affect your relationship. And don't get me wrong she will see you differently but depending on what the woman is made of, she will either encourage you convict you reject you or silence you. 

 

A great conversation to have with someone before they are your Wife is to find out what you can and can't share with them and how they would respond. Remember, maybe one of David's wives should've asked him because you are king and can have him do anything. should I be worried about you finding other women? 

 

 

  3 - he may not share his true heart because it's about you, his wife and he knows you can't handle it. This is the number one issue in most relationships. 

 

Women who grew up in homes of divorce, do not handle, confrontation well at all. And it will manifest later in their own marriage. 

 

My wife comes from an upbringing where her mother had four different men in her life, and they were all very dysfunctional and even evil. But they all - but one, were divorced from her mom. Let's just say early on my wife, could not handle confrontation no matter how minor it would be. We had to work through this and be honest we still are. 

 

When you share the truth with someone because you love them and want what's best for them and they don't receive it, they can't handle it and they pull back or blame  -overtime you shut down, and your love them can even dwindle.