The simplest hardest thing to do to change your life

Wake the Faith up Slayer… This is Garth Heckman with the David Alliance and you can reach me at

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I dare you to change your life…

I dare you to do something hard…

I dare you to be and fulfill the complete potential in you…

So we immediately stop and think, well I could, I should, I know it would take a lot of work, and some risks and some trial and error - but Honestly after 57 years on this earth I have realized that is not what is truly keeping your from your potential… Have you ever heard this quote?

Watch your thoughts, they become words.

Watch your words, they become actions.

Watch your actions, they become habits.

Watch your habits, they become character.

Watch your character, it becomes your destiny (Or your potential).

 

This is true, but this is lacking in one major overwhelmingly obvious condition or step…

If you really want to change - and I mean change anything - for Good, true 100% change you have to do the almost impossible for most people.

If you truly want to change your life - in any area, you have to be willing to change friends. Changing friends will change you. But warning, most friends don’t want you to change, or to change friends… why? Because it makes them feel aware of how little they are willing to put into changing their own lives - in changing themselves. 

Look if you are a gym rat, how many times have you had people around you give you excuses as to why they are out of shape… or even how they intend to get back in shape.  They feel guilty around you- thus they start the nervous talk, the excuse talk, the backtrack talking. I have found a way to help them realize the dilemma - I look at them and tell them to change friends or they will never change their life and health. And they kind of nervous laugh… and then still list of some rationale… “uh, well I don’t need to change friends, I just need to get motivated, I just need to get a plan, I just need to focus, I just need to make time, I just need to eat better… I just I just I just I just…

Shut the front door and get rid of the excuses and get new friends. You want to be a boxer, you better start hanging out with boxers. You want to be a successful entrepreneur you better start hanging out with successful entrepreneurs, you want to be a better parent you better start hanging out with better parents… you better change your “friendscape” and not just your landscape. 

So if I think back to this past month I have had to say no to acquaintances who want to go hunting, fishing, go out to coffee and just talk, go to a movie etc… these are all fine and things I would like to do… but if I am seeking change than I need to spend time with the people I want to be like. i.e. change

The disciples were 11 men who wanted to be like Jesus… and Jesus wanted them to be his disciples… however as much as Jesus taught them, it was more about them being with him - lets be honest, most of the time the disciples didn’t even understand what Jesus was saying - but they are in his presence. 

You might miss the fact that in order for the disciples to change, they had to be with Jesus - meaning they had to leave family and friends.

Luke 14:25 Many people were traveling with Jesus. He said to them, 26 “If you come to me but will not leave your family, you cannot be my follower. You must love me more than your father, mother, wife, children, brothers, and sisters—even more than your own life! 27 Whoever will not carry the cross that is given to them when they follow me cannot be my follower.

This no doubt has a deep pointed spiritual application to us as Christ followers - but it also screams the practical application of change by association in our own normal lives. I don’t cut out all my friends, nor do I unfriend them - but the amount of time and influence I give them is now handed off to others who I want to be like. 

Who you are is who you are with.

Quick thought - maybe you are not with anyone, you are a loner a shy person etc… the same still applies to you.  

The greatest missing ingredient in changing your life comes down to changing your friends.