The Marriage Mess and the Jezebel Spirit

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5 Things a Godly woman does for her husband.

Respect - CHECK

Love - Check 

Honor - Check 

Serve - Check

Submit - Next Up

*and what’s their problem if they can’t do these 5 things.

*A mans responsibility to make it easier

 

The Jezebel spirit… now this is a hot topic right now in Christian circles. It is being covered by Mark Driscoll, Isaiah Salvador, Vlad Svchuk, Robert Morris, Jimmy Evans and many many others… 

 

To identify a Jezebel spirit in woman (and it can be a man - but today I will talk to men) one must ask if your wife wants to Respect you, love you, honor you, serve you and submit to you….

NOW she may have a hard time doing it, she may struggle, but at her core she should say “I truly want to be that woman for my husband”. But there are many women who would rather have their arms cut off than to say Yes I want to be that type of wife to my husband. If you feel like your wife is in the latter case she definitely has a Jezebel spirit… and again, men can have them to. 

 

What are the key characteristics of the JEZ spirit? 

Manipulation REV. 2:18

Control

Selfishness

Authoritative 

 

The word Jezebel actually means Unhinged or unmarried. The woman who is under the control of the Jezebel spirit has no regard for marriage, because marriage is about being under authority. She has no regard for things that are holy, like her vows, because she is demonic and is anti holy. 

 

What does a Jezebel spirit do to get her way? 

Whine, pout, demand, withdraw, Self righteous, use sex or the lack of it, name call, seduce, intimidate, Gossip about you to others including family members, 

And she will not talk about it… you will have conversations like this with her…. “oh, its me,Im the problem, its always me, your perfect… you know what- Im don’t talking about this”. That is all four characteristics: Manipulation, Control, Selfishness, Taking on the authority in the relationship. 

And guess what? 

The spouse has allowed it… Now I will speak to men for the most part. You have the spirit of Ahab… Ahab allowed Jezebel to be in control. That is a topic for a whole other podcast… but look into it. 

 

So once you determine that your spouse is operating under the spirit of Jezebel what do you do?

Well lets go in the order of importance.

 - repent -you allowed it and you did not stand up and be the head of the household.

 - Pray over your house, your life, your spouse

 - Get your ducks in a row before you take on the spirit and confront your wife. Maybe you caved in and now your spiritual walk is a mess, shallow, mundane or worse yet -phony. Get your walk in order at least a few weeks before moving forward. 

 - Prepare for battle… she will throw everything in the book at you. Get ready to go without sex for maybe weeks or months - and don’t beg for it, or you yourself try to manipulate her for it. Keep praying and keep seeking Gods grace.

 - When you are ready to confront her, do it with grace and start out by confessing you we’re not being the husband you were supposed to be and you are now seeking Gods guidance to be the head of the house. 

 -  Start to gently but firmly put your foot down and explain that when you as the husband now disagree, you will take time to pray about it and then you will let her know your decision.

 - explain to  your wife that there are 3 types of relationships. There are healthy relationships, unhealthy relationships and No relationships. And you will no longer tolerate unhealthy relationships so if she is going to pout, whine, complain, manipulate, sulk, withdraw, etc… you will choose to back off and have no relationship in that area… explain you will still have a relationship with her and love her… but in that one area you will choose to not talk about it or be moved forward on it. 

A line you may use at your own discretion is this… Are you telling me or are you asking me. If you are asking me that that means we can discuss it, but if we can’t discuss it, than it means you are telling me and I don’t take orders. But I will pray about it and get back to you on the matter. 

 

Here are things that will happen in most cases.

When you expose the Jezebel spirit - it will be come weaker even though it will fight back. You will have a greater intimacy with God in your quiet time and devotions. You will begin to notice rewards in your own life… this is biblical as we see in Revelation When Jesus talks about coming against the spirit of Jezebel. 

You will actually feel your love rekindled with your spouse because you see how they are being manipulated by this evil spirit. 

 

Finally, most women will at some point begin to move in line and become followers of their husbands as the husband continues to seek God. Some will not… but they will understand that they are in error and sin. 

I would recommend that everyone goes through deliverance, but especially those dealing with the Jezebel spirit.