It’s your fault!

The David Alliance

 

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MingleMateMarry.com podcast youtube and website for the perfect marriage material and swag. They got a great hoodie called its a great day to be married… after today maybe some of you will want to wear purchase it… because many of you are not loving the days you are married… 

 

Hey just a heads up…. I am seriously thinking of switching up my podcast into one 30-40 minute audio and video podcast. I might then take that podcast and cut it up into small fragments for the online and radio sections I do… but I would love to hear what the audience thinks, so hit me up. 

 

The bible is full of verses about the husband being over the wife, over the kids, raising up Godly kids, loving his wife like Jesus…

 

When you are the head of something at first it seems like a good thing, maybe a great thing… “im in charge”. Im the man… I have the authority….Very true

But remember being over something means you still have a higher authority, you still have to answer to someone. I remember at a greenhouse I worked at during college… Buesses flowers - shout out - and Mr. Busse put me over 2 other college kids… and mostly because I did not do drugs… and they not only did drugs, but they did them while at work in the back greenhouse… anyway…. After the day was over he called me back to the far back greenhouse… He did not call the other two, he called me. He told me what I did wrong, what I did right, and what I could improve on… he didn’t not tell the other 2 employees I was over what they did wrong OR what was done wrong… he told me. I was in charge.

Why are young men in todays world struggling, dropping out of HS at records levels… living at home, playing video games, lack of self esteem and work ethic… afraid to talk to the opposite sex… hooked on porn and no depth of discipline or understanding of what God expects and who he is… Young girls sleeping with anyone that they seem attracted to or feels like they owe them …. no big deal. Young women bragging on body counts, thinking life is about their body shape and breast size, why women are dehumanizing the role of a man, literally saying they don’t need a man. Women who will use abortion as birth control… why are kids under 30 yelling and screaming about life not fair, they deserve more… yet they lack a work ethic, kindness is now weakness…ok I could go on forever… but why? WELL LETS CHECK IN WITH THE AUTHORITY… What have Dads been doing that past 50 years? they have proven a lack of depth in seeking God, putting themselves first, jump at divorce, lack of work ethic on their marriage, suck as a father, selfish, wishy washy and afraid to take a stand for morality…

I blame the lack of fathers more than I blame todays generation..im not saying their behavior is acceptable… but when a kid throws a temper tantrum in the store yelling and screaming… you don’t blame the kid, you blame the parent. 

To  be the leader men must do 3 things seen in scripture… its not rocket science… but it is mandatory - and you will be held responsible. 

 

Lead your Family (Ephesians 5:23)

Seek God, hear his voice, do what he says and lead your family. And if Mama and the kids don’t like it, to bad… You are the man of God, Lead your family. But trust me, you better be seeking, reading praying listening and and doing the word of God. 

Lead first in your personal life, then in your work life then in your church life… your example is the power. 

Look why would they follow you if you are failing at hearing and doing… but if you are - then they will look the fool for not listening and doing. 

 

Love your Wife (Ephesians 5:25)

This has no fine print… your wife might have put on 30 pounds, 75 pounds or 175 pounds. She may not like sex, she may not have a job, she may spend money like water… she may not be a follower of Christ… there is no prerequisite to this command. Love your wife - Period. Now it will be a lot easier if… she’s beautiful? NO… she treats me well? NO… she likes sex? No…. it will be easier if you first love Jesus and seek his power to do the impossible. We love quoting verses about Gods power to heal, deliver, save, speak words of prophecy…. but some of you need his power to love your wife. It ain’t easy, but it is a command and very possible… in fact doable if you seek Gods strength.

Teach and lead Their Children (Ephesians 6:4)

Well this means your kids gotta spend time with Dad… Dads gotta talk, listen, not judge, talk, listen, guide, teach, share, give insights from his past… and more than anythings he must give physical affection and live a God centered life. 

Kids don’t want to listen to a loser father… does that offend you? Tough… eat those words and live your potential as a follower of Jesus. 

Look its not easy being a man… especially in todays world… you get told its toxic, its demeaning, its bullying, its close-minded… and look where its got us. 

Read, pray, seek God, listen, obey and be a man.