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The problem with most men and many women for other reasons is loneliness. 

Men feel lonely because they do not feel like they have an ability to connect.

Women feel lonely because they connect, but typically on only a surface level… as one friend called it “Window dressing dinners”. You get together over coffee, dinner or a function and you all just pretend you are good friends. 

 

And covid has only made things worse…

BUT HERE IS THE REAL ISSUE…

The problem is we know what a good friend is like, we know what best friends are supposed to be like, we even know the simple basic principles of friendship… the problem is we have forgotten how to make friends. 

Remember as a kid you could make friends with a total stranger at the park?

 

So what are the building blocks of making friends? 

1 These. 5:11

Therefore encourage one another and build each other up, just as in fact you are doing.

 

Encourage: Paraklete, come along side, actually invite their presence into your life. 

Want a friend? Be a friend. Invite them into your life… from activities to personal stories to honest dialogue about yourself. But come along side others and invite them into your life… no facade, no pretentious behavior, no posturing… just invite them into your life for who you are. Some will walk with you, others will not, some will pretend to for a while… You will get burned a few times, but you will also make some great friends by invitation. 

 

Build one another up: Build the foundation. Start with the basics in friendship. you know we used to have an easy time building friendships as kids because it was built around the basics like discovery. I like this, you like this… wow we both like this - and the friendship starts. 

I love the line in the movie stepbrothers… “did we just become best friends?” - Yep. They are figuring out what they all have in common… and yea, I won’t go there, but they discovered a bond in commonality. I was in the Carlsbad caverns a mile down under ground listening to a guide talk about the bats and more interesting facts. Well the guy next to me was in awe, I was in awe and he said something funny about it, I responded and before you knew it we were both enjoying each others company discovering the story behind the cave. We ended up talking, laughing and becoming friends.

I went to a gun class on defensive shooting… met a few other guys there and in the middle of this class while learning/discovering new things I connected with quite a few other men… just like when we were kids. 

 

Keep doing it, don’t get a clique… I run from friends who want a clique. If you have a group of friends and they can only be friends with those in the group… you don’t have friends, you have a membership club that costs you your freedom and friendship with others. 

 

Never stop making friends… some of you are a 2 degree shift away from losing all your friends. What do I mean? You only have a couple friends and if one moves or and one dies… you are back to zero. Never stop making friends. The word here for Continue doing it in the greek is Poy-eh-o. It is an interesting word that means keep making stuff out of anything. Keep making any friends…

Yes even non Christian friends. 

I have a hobby… I love making friends with the odd duck.

Let me give you some examples on my friends list:

Ethiopian woman who is very strange and smells

Inner city heavy set woman with a temper

Gang banger

Tattoo artists

Hitman thug drug dealer (BTW he is white and 45 yrs old)

Teenagers who are spoiled rotten, snide and insecure 

Old men who are transgender or gay

Multi millionaires

Scientists

Hipster podcasters who are into DMT and shrooms

People who share different faith or religious views… i.e. Muslim, Bahai, Occult and yes… I hate to say it… even Calvanists - ok, its a joke, but honestly some of us have a harder time making friends with other Christians than with the hardened sinners out there. 

 

The point is…maybe you can’t make friends because you are looking for the perfect friend… he aint out there, she does not exist. But if you practice what 1 These. 5:11 says you will have more friends than you know what to do with…. trust me on this… I’m your friend!