How to save your marriage Part 2

The David Alliance

 

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1 Corinthians 11:3 

But I want you to understand that the head of every man is Christ, the head of a wife is her husband, and the head of Christ is God.

Ephesians 5:23

For the husband is the head of the wife even as Christ is the head of the church, his body, and is himself its Savior.

 

Between you and me, one of the biggest comments (and I’m certain it’s true) women tell me their husbands are weak men. Weak in discipline, weak physically, weak spiritually, weak in leadership, weak in communication etc… so the women lead by default and then get blamed for being Jezebels- but it truly is only out of the void of having a manly man of God to lead them.

 

One woman responded… “Don’t get me wrong, I would love to have a husband that stood his ground, didn’t let me push him around and led our family like a man of God should, however he never has. At first I would push back just to see if he would stand up to me… and he wouldn’t - now its just  to late, I have no respect for him. Even if I asked him to lead, I don’t think he would. He has no real walk with God and I suppose we will probably divorce once the kids are older. I however do see myself looking for a future marriage where my husband will take control… and I truly do believe I will let him have control if he is in fact a man of God. 

 

Here is another response: I will just come out and say it. My husband is a selfish fat pig. He is overweight, has no discipline, and I am not sure if he is more selfish or lazy… probably 50/50. But he has no desire to lead himself or our family. My kids love their Dad, but they are getting to the age where they are becoming embarrassed by him. 

 

ok, my first thought is this… if you are  a man and you do not want to take control… thats on you and you will stand judgement before God. 

If I am talking to the women and you truly do wish your husband took the lead… then here are a few ideas

  - 1 make sure you truly want him to take the lead and you are not just saying it with your mouth. It will take time, he will mess up, but if he try’s and you shut him down, become stubborn, discourage him or don’t allow him time to grow in this new role, than he will give up.

  - 2 if you do want him to lead and he wants to lead. Then by all means meet with some Godly men and women (pastors, or men and women who have Godly marriages) and ask them to mentor you both on how he can lead and how you can follow. Marriage like anything else takes practice. 

  - 3 If he does not want to lead, and you will not get a divorce you can do two things: one pray that God radically knocks his world upside down…where he is forced to seek God. Look, I believe the man should be the head of the household, but if he is not, then by default the woman is… so now ladies, pray and give God permission to lay out your husband in such a way that he calls on you and on God to learn how to be a manly man of God.

If he never changes… you can still pray for Gods grace and have an amazing life. you can come to a point where you realize that you are becoming more like Jesus by having to deal with a poor husband. and God will carry you, bless you and strengthen you in this time. 

  - 4 my final thought. If you are willing to go through deliverance (and you can contact me for more information) it can radically set the husband free from the spirit of Ahab, and set the women free from Jezebel. And neither both have to be working to find freedom. But Delieverance is the key to a great deal of marriages that are in need of what seems to be an unsolvable problem. 

There is still more to follow up on tomorrow, but this should give you plenty to think about today.
GArth Heckman, TDA - keep slaying giants.