Dont be that guy

 

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Urban Meyer… not trying to use clickbait here or am I going to hate on the man… but well, once again like I always say he has become “that guy”. Don’t be that guy… can I make it any more simple???? JUST DON’T BE THAT GUY.

 

 

 

 

Urban Meyer quite possibly coaching the worst team in the NFL. He gave up a cushy job at FOX sports, took on a poor team that with his help is now worse. He stays behind and does not fly back with the team so that he can end up at a bar with his hands between a young woman legs as she bumps and grinds on him. The whole time not realizing he is on video… you do know it is 2021 right? Everyone is their own newsfeed with a phone in their hand.

 

What does it scream to me? A lack of understanding about how a man leads himself, his family and his business.

 

Urban seems to be morally bankrupt. Maybe he has not learned how to handle the pressure of being an NFL coach… I have seen many senior pastors fall into this trap. What is more disturbing is that Urban Meyer has been highlighted in numerous books on leadership and has even written his own NY times best seller… the problem??? He does not know he to lead himself. 

 

 

Here are 7 undeniable points on self leadership that Urban and you and I need to take a hold of.

 

  -  1 Integrity. You can have all the talent in the world, all the brains all the money all the connections… You can have it all - but without integrity you will end up being “that guy”. The guy who blew all that raw God given talent and opportunity. That guy caught on video…

Don’t be that guy. 

 

  -  2  Spirituality

This is the gas tank for your life. Without a continual filling of Gods word and the Holy Spirit you will run on your own strength… thats bad. BTW you will never operate in total fullness in any of these areas if you don’t fill the tank.

Self Leadership knows that one must continually fill the tank with Jesus and his word - because ultimately God must be the leader inside of us. 

 

 

  -  3  Faith. The outlook that what is most important is what I believe, but cannot see. You can call it a positive outlook, being an optimist -whatever you term you want to use. But faith is the hardest daily fight in any Christ follower. We believe the best… but… well… maybe… it is easy to slip back into a mindset of doubt, negativity and feeling forgotten. 

Leaders live in the realm of faith… yes it takes practice and hard work and time with God, but it is not only possible it is required by God. 

Does a man of faith find himself in a bar getting a lap dance? Sure if his faith fatigued and dried out. 

 

 

  -  4  Enthusiasm or some might say passion.  I remember reading years ago an article that said most people are not successful in life- not because they are not smart enough, not because they have not had the breaks, not because they didn’t have the right family… but simply because they never lived, operated or worked out of a place of passion.

I don’t care if you like bottle caps, if you are passionate about it I will bet you will be successful in collecting bottle caps.

What are you absolutely crazy about? Are you operating in that area in any way? 

Urban looks as if he has lost his passion so is it any wonder that he is trying to fill up on cheap substitutes. 

 

 

 

  -  5  Endurance

Do you know how to go the long haul. Its not just about grit your teeth and push through, but making sure you have enough emotional and spiritual energy to push through. Its interesting to me that Jesus seemed to have 4 major themes in his life, getting away, teaching, ministering, time with the disciples. You might thing that the most important time would be his time away with God… and while I agree, I think it is a tie. Between your spiritual gauge and your emotional gauge. Do you know how to fill your emotional gauge. A survey taken by pastors who had fallen into sin were asked how their spiritual lives were at the time and they all said “actually pretty good - but they were lacking the emotional energy to make healthy choices. i.e. they did not know how to fill up their emotional gas tank. 

Do you know how?

I know for myself. I play my guitar weekly, I work out, I read good books, I talk to my family and close friend -specifically to laugh, I hang with my wife for friendship. I don’t do all of these for hours… some just simply minutes. but they fill my tank so that I can endure. 

 

 

  -  6  Consistency 

Find what works, find what you are good at, find your gifting and your sweet spot and then stay consistent in those. I love asking myself this question: What would the best version of Garth do? What would his life look like in habits and routines? And then do that consistently. 

 

 

 

  -  7  Non stop learning 

So if you are not learning you are not growing and if you are not growing you are dying. I believe that.

but here are my no guilt rules for learning. 

If you read, read. but if you don’t like to read fine then listen to podcasts or watch a good youtube channel. But make sure it is educational in some fashion. If you do like to read and you pick up a book that bores you- toss it and get another book. don’t waste time on a book just because you spent 29.99 on it. Your time is more valuable than that.

What ever you learn and in whatever fashion - make sure you always have access to it by taking notes and filing your education process.

Learn only in your strengths and interests. Don’t waste time trying to learn how to be a better manager if you are a leader. Don’t waste time trying to learn about how to be better organized if you are a creative. Accelerate your learning by keeping it in your sweet spot. 

 

look Urban Meyer is now 5 and 0 as the Jaguars coach. he is the laughing stock of many of his peers, his players have admitted to now having a hard time respecting him. 

Don’t be that guy. Learn to lead yourself.