5 Things a wife must do to save her husband and marriage PT 2

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INTRO: you could easily take the next 5-8 podcasts and throw me under the bus… so listen to my heart, listen to all of the podcasts and wait for the last final podcast on this topic before you judge. 

 

5 Things a Godly woman does for her husband.

Respect - CHECK

Love - NEXT UP

Honor

Serve 

Submit

*and what’s their problem if they can’t do these 5 things.

*A mans responsibility to make it easier

 

 

I will again admit in todays world many women wince and actually manifest visible agitation when one mentions loving their husband… as if it is their only job when it comes to their role as a wife. 

Love your husband.

 

But again I believe God knows what he is doing when he writes in his word… 

Titus 2:4 wives “to love their husbands.”

What are types of love a Godly woman should give her husband? 

First lets admit.. men are imperfect, flawed and broken - and with that being said maybe the most important aspect of loving your husband is

unconditional acceptance.accept your husband just as he is—an imperfect person. 

It’s pretty simple, you can stop loving your husband when he becomes perfect… and he can stop loving you when you become perfect. Point being - love is only truly love when you love those who at the moment have not earned it - for if one must earn love, they are not truly being loved, only rewarded according to our standard. 

I sure don’t want God to hold that type of love over me… Because I could never meet his standard. 

 

Second great way to love your husband is to tell him how much you love his Godly traits… yes, he may not have many, but the more you point those out and love him for them you will notice more, and you help nurture even more Christ like behavior. Remember God calls us to repentance by his kindness… it is your kindness to your husband that leads to greater alignment to who God is… that is a part of repentance. 

 

 

Love also means committing to a mutually fulfilling sexual relationship. I knew it was going to come down to sex again… just like a male podcaster to push sex. Actually last time I brought this up I had a few women give me some push back…and I get it, however scripture tells wives not to deny their husbands sex…

Yes… there is a whole lot more to love than sex, but lets look at how to fulfill God’s command to love your husband. So you gotta look at love from their perspective, not just your own.

 

 

 

again and again Surveys show that sex is one of a man’s most important needs—if not the most important from his wife. - and it todays culture there are many options for temptation to crawl in and many doors satan will open for the man who’s wife is not willing to love her husband in bed. Scripture is clear 1 Cor. 7:5 So don't refuse sex to each other, unless you agree not to have sex for a little while, in order to spend time in prayer. Then Satan won't be able to tempt you because of your lack of self-control.

 

When a wife resists intimacy, or is uninterested, or is only passively interested, or its the old “just go ahead” with the enthusiasm of a dead fish - her husband will feel like he is an inconvenience to her… Like “was I a mistake you made in marrying me?  her husband may feel rejection. It will eat away at his self-image, and create distance and isolation in the relationship. And the sad thing is that women don’t see the cycle they have just created in their marriage… They reason “well he is so disconnected why would he think I would want to have sex with him”

Break that pattern now for the sake of your marriage. 

 

 

Let me read a quote from Barbara Rainey who is a leading expert in Christian marriage. 

My husband’s sexual needs should be more important and higher on my priority list than  housework, projects, activities, and even the children. It does not mean that I should think about sex all day and every day, but it does mean that I find ways to remember my husband and his needs. It means I save some of my energy for him. This keeps me from being selfish and living only for my own needs and wants. Maintaining that focus helps me defeat isolation in our marriage.

 

The truth is that if a mans number one temptation in life is sexual in nature… it must also be his number one need… and only one person in the whole world is given that responsibility to fulfill it.