5 things a father does Pt. 4

 

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Five things a father does for his kids…

 

#1 A Godly Father protects…

#2 A godly father whoops his kids… 

#3 A Godly father provides…

#4 A Godly Father loves

If you don’t actively love your children—or don’t make it clear that you love them—then they won’t want to listen when you try to teach them. “If I speak in the tongues of men and of angels, but have not love, I am a noisy gong or a clanging cymbal.” (1 Corinthians 13:1) 

 

I believe 99% of most fathers are trying to some degree… they want to be a good Dad, they want to provide for their kids, they want to be kind, gentle, patient…They want to appear smart in front of their kids… and all of this you have little to no control over…. but what you do have??? What you do have trumps all of that…

Imagine your kids 15-20 years from now talking about you as a father to their friends or co-workers… and it goes like this… Yea, my Dad was a simple man, we didn’t grow up with a lot… he didn’t have a very good job and it was about all he could get  with his limited education. He wasn’t known for anything exceptional… he was average. But one thing he did do for me… He made sure I knew how much he loved me. Hugs, verbal affection, sacrifice… there was never a night he was home that he didn’t tell me he loved me and gave me a hug before bed.

I call that a winner. I call that a great and Godly Dad. 

Did you know that a father who is not there is creating a vacuum for his daughter, and a Hole for his son. If you don’t love your kids how will they know how to love their kids… seems pretty simple yet many of us miss it. 

I was walking out of a church on a Sunday… a little boy heard the pastor told the men of the church to tell their families they loved them….

Yea and so does a pimp… but we both know he doesn’t love them. Your kids only know if you tell them.

Three ways you must love your kids

Time - Time is the foundation for great communication, for connection and trust.

I always tell parents that great communication is like catching a shooting star in the sky flying by. You don’t just schedule 20 minutes tonight between 11:20 and 11:40 NO NO NO if you want to catch a shooting star racing across the sky with it’s tail on fire.. you gotta just plan on sitting out there every night for hours… you never know when it will happen, but it takes time! It takes time to build great and loving communication with your kids - and your wife BTW. But time screams at the top of its lungs… I LOVE YOU.

2ndly you must tell them Verbally and in written form. I still have cards from my father and mother from being in high school with the words they wrote to me about their love for me. I have heard stories of men who still have that one card where there dad said I love you… it gives a physical manifestation of what boys hearts want to hear.

Physical love and affection… I could go on and on about how important this is to a child… for instance a father who lives in the same house as his daughter and gives physical affection delays her puberty up to 18 months… that is 1 and a half years extra to help her grow mentally, emotionally and spiritually before her body is expected to act like a woman… along with the expectations of the world.

If you physically touch your kids and tell them you love them you create bursts of new brain cells, dendrites, synapses…. 

it builds their immune system, it creates an impenetrable self esteem and confidence…