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Making men MEN again. The David Alliance will help you slay your giants.
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Garth Heckman
The David Alliance
You know what it takes to be a fully developed woman who is balanced and full of life… who knows her worth and is a creation of beauty… It takes a Dad.
We need fathers… but more than ever women and girls in todays world need them the most. We have seen a turning in the USA over the last 30 years where women have increasingly become bitter towards men… and for many good reasons… but we must not forget that our understanding of who God is comes from the Father in heaven. We have a hard time relating to a heavenly father if we had a crappy father or worse yet no father.
Yes men need fathers… but they can still navigate life a little more balanced because they have the MAN DNA in them… I know this can sound weird.. and there is no science behind this that I can put my finger on… but I think you know what I mean. Boys want to be men when growing up… even if they don’t have a father in the house. Girls growing up want a father who will be a man and teach them how they should be treated and loved.
Here are five biblical reasons why a young woman need a father or father figure in her life:
- Protection and Guidance: The Bible emphasizes the role of fathers as protectors and guides for their daughters (Deuteronomy 6:6-9). A father's presence can provide a sense of security and offer wise counsel as a young woman navigates life's challenges.
And what happens when a young girl does not have this… she has a tendency to try to be her own woman and protect herself and guide herself… and nothing wrong with that but the danger is the enemy can turn that into a foundation of bitterness and not freedom. She can begin to despise men because she has had to do that job on her own… she was ripped off by not having a dad and a deep seated bitterness can develop… and a deep distrust of men… then that trait pushes men away from her and it retreats a cycle of rejection.
- Identity and Self-Worth: A father's love and affirmation play a crucial role in shaping a daughter's sense of identity and self-worth. Seeing herself as cherished and valued by her father can have a profound impact on her emotional well-being and future relationships.
- Setting Boundaries and Discipline: The Bible encourages fathers to provide discipline and guidance with love and firmness (Proverbs 13:24 A refusal to correct is a refusal to love;
love your children by disciplining them.). This helps a young woman develop self-control, make wise choices, and understand the consequences of her actions.
A father loves his daughter and in doing so teaches her boundaries… You are to love a man who has your best interest in mind and not just your body.
- Role Modeling: A father's example can significantly influence a daughter's understanding of healthy relationships and appropriate behavior. Observing a father's love for his wife and his commitment to his family can provide valuable lessons about respect, commitment, and faithfulness.
- Spiritual Growth: Fathers are called to be spiritual leaders in their homes, teaching their children about God and His Word (Deuteronomy 6:7). A father's involvement in his daughter's spiritual development can help her build a strong foundation of faith and a lifelong relationship with God.
One of the hardest things for my wife to reconnect with when she became a Christian was to see God as a father. She had horrible father’s growing up… She told me once early in our marriage I don’t want God as a father I just want him as God. We laugh about it now… but it showed the hurt she had been exposed to by her fathers…
So if you are a man… maybe the best thing you can do is be that Fatherly example to a young woman who needs to see what a Godly father looks like. And if you are a young woman who feels like the world is telling you that you have been slighted by men… don’t believe the lie. Men of God are amazing… just like Our Father in heaven.
2 days ago
2 days ago
Garth Heckman
The David Alliance
The hardest thing to do in the world is never. Malachi Heckman
And he said: “Truly I tell you, unless you change and become like little children, you will never enter the kingdom of heaven.
The Greek verb "strephó" primarily means "to turn" or "to change." It is used in various contexts in the New Testament to describe physical turning, such as turning one's body or direction, as well as metaphorical turning, such as changing one's mind or converting spiritually. The term can imply a change of state or condition, often with a focus on repentance or transformation.
So what if we looked at the qualities of a child and asked God to help us turn or change into theses in our spiritual walk…
What are the top 5 qualities of a child?
Addison at Ju Jitsu.
Curious: Children have an innate desire to explore and understand the world around them. They constantly ask questions and seek new experiences.
Energetic: Children are naturally active and have a lot of energy. They love to move, play, and explore their surroundings.
Creative: Children have vivid imaginations and enjoy expressing themselves through art, music, and play. They can easily come up with new ideas and ways of doing things.
Emotional: Children experience a wide range of emotions, from joy and excitement to sadness and anger. They are learning to understand and manage their feelings… but they don’t hide their emotions.
Dependent: Children rely on adults for their basic needs, such as food, shelter, and safety. They also need love, support, and guidance to grow and develop.
3 days ago
3 days ago
Tolerance is the opposite of repentance. This why the world loves tolerance.
Evil doesn’t stop itself!
Encouragement is one of the best tools in evangelism
Types of Christians/Christianity
Cultural / American
Carnal / yes savior, but no to the Lordship
Religious / Rule followers
Spirit led / Follow scripture according to the new wine, led by the Holy Spirit which always follows scripture, but does like religion. Who hates Spirit led Christians? Cultural, Carnal and Religious… along with the world.
The measure of your success depends on the measure of your belief. And if you believe you will put actions behind it.
Whom the gods destroy they first make angry.
Faith vs. Doubt
You: I don’t believe it.
Me: Thats ok, it’s already happened. Carry on.
You are the kind of person that complains about the weather. You can’t do anything about it. And yet what you can change you still complain about, but do nothing to change. You my friend are the definition of a fools fool.
If you can fog a mirror you can volunteer
I recently had a couple in counseling and the man said “Would you please shut up, I am trying to communicate”. And there in lies the problem. Irony.
“Instruction does much, but encouragement, everything.”
Remember, when you try to be someone else you become replaceable. Uniqueness and individuality is your path to greatness. Garth H
4 days ago
4 days ago
Garth Heckman
The David Alliance
Street vs. Vert which is hardest to master… well I am sure there is a huge debate among from the newbies to the elite professional… but as someone who thinks Rodney Mullin was the greatest street skater in the world… you probably know my take… and if you have no idea of what we are talking about… well, thats where we are going today.
Back in the day I was one with my skateboard… I was one with my waterskiing - technically barefooting…
Four levels of relationships with God
Academic
Casual
Growing
Intimate - his presence.
*Nothing else matters than to have Gods presence in your daily routine.
- Like having your spouse or your best friend with you in doing whatever you do. It makes it fun, enjoyable and worth retelling to others.
Last 2 thoughts:
God hovers over us - He is our Father
OUR FATHER WHO IS IN HEAVEN
COME HAVE YOUR WAY ON EARTH
***HE COMES AS THE PRESENCE OF THE FATHER
When Dad shows up everything will be ok… there is a calmness
THOUTHT 2
2 Samuel 6 the Ark of the covenant (Gods presence) at Obed Edoms house brings Gods
Invite his presence into your house…
Brings Gods blessing
Wednesday Dec 11, 2024
Tuesday Dec 10, 2024
Tuesday Dec 10, 2024
Garth Heckman
The David Alliance
Proverbs 3:5-6 God is a god of order.
It’s new years time… in less than a month.. do you make resolutions? Goals? I would bet you at least think about it… maybe just hoping things would get better.
I am into having a vision for my life… every area.
Then building systems into my life to create that vision. I have said before I am huge into creating systems or lifestyle patterns if you will regarding my “best planned life”.
What are my current systems? Here is just a taste…
Monday and Wednesdays sleep in till 7 and hang out in bed with my wife for a few hours…
Every other day up at 5am.
Every day work out at 3-5pm
Twice a week at night practice Muay Thai
Every drive to work listen to a book on tape 945 minute drive)
Every lunch listen to an instructive podcast
Every drive home listen to music that helps me create my own music
Every day at 10-11:30’sh have my prayer and quiet time.
Every Wednesday 9-12 writing, 12-5 sermon prep
Every Thursday 10-2 sermon prep
Every Saturday 7am - 2 sermon prep
Every Friday from 12 on is date day
Every Sunday preach, teach and hang out with my family.
Every night from 7-11 is reading, working on entrepreneurship, doing social media and hanging out with family at home.
Now through out my week I get interrupted with counseling, church meetings and even side jobs training firearms.
I also train clients from anywhere from 6am to 9am on some mornings.
Those systems are in place to give me freedom.
Now the other things that I do is I practice the idea behind the book 7 habits of highly effective people. I know my roles.
They are Family man
Pastor
Entrepreneur
Musician
Health
I choose to do a few things every week for these roles. I choose to do the important and not just urgent… important can be run over by the urgent… but I fight that. Meaning… when someone says I need to meet with you about my problem can we do Thursday at 3 I say sorry I have an appointment at that time… and I do - its working out. That is important… the other is just urgent.
And finally I break all my visions or goals or roles if you will into a simple system mindset like this? AND THIS IS NOT NEW… IT HAS BEEN AROUND FOR A 100 PLUS YEARS, BUT STILL WORTH SHARING.
Goals without deadlines are fantasy
Goals with deadlines - objectivity
Goals with deadlines and a plan = intention
Goals with deadlines and plan and consistent action = success
And meaningful goals and deadlines and a plan plus consistent action = fulfillment.
Sunday Dec 08, 2024
Sunday Dec 08, 2024
The David Alliance
Garth Heckman
Words have power… but without action they are simply parlor tricks.
Yesterday I returned a wallet with a few thousand dollars in it… I will admit, I have done this a few times… when I was younger I would have waited for a “WOW thank you” and maybe even a little reward…. As I get older I realized to give God the glory I should say less and be seen more. I gave the guy his wallet and walked away… he told me thank you a few times… as I walked away.
Words many times water down and dilute character. (GWH) And sometimes even dilute God’s glory.
A man in scripture who we have no record of him speaking … but lots of examples of his Godly character.
Matthew 1:18 This is how Jesus the Messiah was born. His mother, Mary, was engaged to be married to Joseph. But before the marriage took place, while she was still a virgin, she became pregnant through the power of the Holy Spirit. 19 Joseph, to whom she was engaged, was a righteous man and did not want to disgrace her publicly, so he decided to break the engagement quietly.
20 As he considered this, an angel of the Lord appeared to him in a dream. “Joseph, son of David,” the angel said, “do not be afraid to take Mary as your wife. For the child within her was conceived by the Holy Spirit. 21 And she will have a son, and you are to name him Jesus, for he will save his people from their sins.”
24 When Joseph woke up, he did as the angel of the Lord commanded and took Mary as his wife. 25 But he did not have sexual relations with her until her son was born. And Joseph named him Jesus.
Matthew 2:13 After the wise men were gone, an angel of the Lord appeared to Joseph in a dream. “Get up! Flee to Egypt with the child and his mother,” the angel said. “Stay there until I tell you to return, because Herod is going to search for the child to kill him.”
14 That night Joseph left for Egypt with the child and Mary, his mother, 15 and they stayed there until Herod’s death. This fulfilled what the Lord had spoken through the prophet: “I called my Son out of Egypt.”
Matthew 2:19 When Herod died, an angel of the Lord appeared in a dream to Joseph in Egypt. 20 “Get up!” the angel said. “Take the child and his mother back to the land of Israel, because those who were trying to kill the child are dead.”
21 So Joseph got up and returned to the land of Israel with Jesus and his mother. 22 But when he learned that the new ruler of Judea was Herod’s son Archelaus, he was afraid to go there. Then, after being warned in a dream, he left for the region of Galilee.
When we think of the birth of Jesus, Mary often takes center stage, but standing quietly beside her is Joseph—a man of remarkable faith, integrity, and humility. Though Scripture doesn’t give us many details about Joseph’s life, his role as the earthly father of Jesus is undeniably profound.
THINK OF THE TASK BEFORE HIM?
JOSEPH WOULD BE THE EARTHLY FATHER OF JESUS. - WHAT WAS THAT LIKE?
- Thought one
He already knew God before the great assignment given him.
He was called a righteous man… not looking, but actually seeking to Be right before God by keeping he law
Joseph was a builder… (Gk Tek-ton worker… most likely worked with stone not wood) it was not a specialty trade, nothing special about him. It was a low class job and low paying job. He was normal, general - pedestrian. But Joseph still saw himself as a servant of the most high God. He did not excuse his role and his obedience to God simply because of his lot in life.
May we never excuse our usefulness to God by our place in life.
Seek God and expect to be used by God.
- Thought two
Even when it was hard he did what was right, He did what was disciplined and maybe even misunderstood.
THIS WAS A SCANDAL… THE TURMOIL HE MUST HAVE FELT… the woman he loved now pregnant… not his child.
Joseph was said to be around 16-18 yrs old
Mary between 14-16
Youth had no influence on Joseph doing what was right.
Misunderstood.
He was willing to take on the hate of his family… he was making his family look bad… he did not care. He wanted to do what God told him to do… AT 18 YEARS OF AGE!
Thursday Dec 05, 2024
Thursday Dec 05, 2024
Garth Heckman
The David Alliance
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For anyone in IL. Luke is a linseed professional counselor who specializes with kids, teens, and families in Christian Counseling. If you or someone you know is struggling with anxiety, mood challenges, ADHD, and other mental health concerns, reach out to Luke
https://www.whitestoneresources.com/counselors-list/lmerrill
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Research data gathered by he marriage and families studies group at catholic university in Washington D.C. happy couples often disagree as frequently as unhappy ones. The difference is that happy couples are far better at ending spats or as it is called “exiting”. Both couples have a negative experience, they follow the loop which is exchange negative experience and negative behavior. Maybe a harsh word and a harsh word. A harsh comparison with a harsh comparison…b ut then one of the partners will take a positive step and look at things that do work things that they are happy with things that they are doing well. And they close the loop with that. But unhappy couples follow the loop after loop after loop and replay negative experiences, negative behavior, all the wrongs you did since birth… they literally wear a pathway into their neural pathways in their brain. So next time it happens your brain literally jumps right into the negative deep level loop… and that person will always bring out the worst in you because that is the way you programmed your brain.
HOW DO YOU STOP THIS MADNESS IN A REAL PRACTICAL WAY?
Romans 12:2
- Romans 12:2: "Do not be conformed to this world, but be transformed by the renewal of your mind, that by testing you may discern what is the will of God, what is good and acceptable and perfect”
Some say that renewing your mind means interpreting life through God's Word and the Holy Spirit, rather than your own experiences, preferences, or the opinions of others. And they would be correct, but I also believe that renewing your mind would mean keep from creating negative neural pathways… and in turn creating negative spiritual inroads to our heart and life.
You focus on the bitterness that someone creates in your life… it will invite more spiritual darkness - more demonic activity in your life… and what does that do? It creates even more of a negative neural network and spiritual darkness in your life.
Here are some other Bible verses about mental transformation:
- 2 Corinthians 10:5
- Psalm 1:2
- Proverbs 4:23
- Philippians 4:8
- 1 Peter 2:9
- Psalm 139:13
- Zephaniah 3:17
So what are some practical steps to renew your mind and blitzkrieg the demonic pathways into your life : Recognizing false beliefs or negative thoughts by mirroring your reactions with what scripture says, Calling out negative thoughts or lies according to what scripture says, Replacing lies with Gods truth, Studying and meditating on Scripture, and Praying over these type of situations.
Tuesday Dec 03, 2024
Tuesday Dec 03, 2024
Garth Heckman
The David Alliance
Proverbs 27:5-7
5 An open rebuke is better than hidden love!
6 Wounds from a sincere friend are better than many kisses from an enemy.
7 A person who is full refuses honey,
but even bitter food tastes sweet to the hungry.
We need more than Godly friends in this season of life… we need Godly honest friends who speak truth to us.
3 - Consider the Time
A person who is full refuses honey,
but even bitter food tastes sweet to the hungry
V. 7 Timing is everything when sharing honest feedback.
**The best way is to hear it from a friend who has good timing.
“Bob lets do coffee this week and catch up”… and then praise him and then speak to him about what he is doing right, talk to him about his challenges… and then give him his wounds.
Husbands Wives… what does your spouse feel and think when they hear you call their name?
Jameison we need to talk…
If you spend 80% of your time only taking to them when they need to do something, change something or you disagree with something…
You spend the other 18% talking about mundane things..
AND ONLY 2% OF THE TIME DO THEY HEAR POSITIVE, ENCOURAGING CONNECTING WORDS
THEN how do you think your timing will be perceived every time you call out their name?
Monday Dec 02, 2024
Monday Dec 02, 2024
Garth Heckman
The David Alliance
TDAgiantslayer@gmail.com
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For anyone in IL. Luke is a linseed professional counselor who specializes with kids, teens, and families in Christian Counseling. If you or someone you know is struggling with anxiety, mood challenges, ADHD, and other mental health concerns, reach out to Luke
https://www.whitestoneresources.com/counselors-list/lmerrill
My media channels all go to Garth Heckman
Text me 30 second interviews of you asking people “whats it take to be a man”
I love a good kiss…and Im not gonna lie, I love a good French kiss. When I go to kiss my wife hello goodby or for any reason and she French kisses me… wow knocks me off my feet… and thats where we are going today.
Proverbs 27:5-7
5 An open rebuke is better than hidden love!
6 Wounds from a sincere friend are better than many kisses from an enemy.
7 A person who is full refuses honey,
but even bitter food tastes sweet to the hungry.
2 - Consider the friend
Wounds from a sincere friend are better than many kisses from an enemy
Ok, so we covered verse 5 that any rebuke even an open rebuke is better than No rebuke at all. Don’t worry about the heart, the source or the situation or even the environment… be glad that you got the rebuke… but now we see how it can even get better if we get a rebuke from a friend.
6 Wounds from a sincere friend are better than many kisses from an enemy.
**A better way is to hear it from a friend, than an enemy.
“Bob can we talk about something”?
IT HAS BEEN SAID:
God does not change us 100% -he changes us 70% and then gives us friends to work on the other 30%
Maybe a good idea is to surround ourselves with with Godly friends so we get Godly friendly rebukes…
Power Vs Force by David R. Hawkins, MD., Ph.D.
There was one other phenomenon that Diamond noted to its extraordinary implications. Subjects listening to tapes of ( known deceits—even though the speakers seemed to be telling the truth and sounded convincing-tested weak physically.
AND THE OPPOSITE WAS ALSO TRUE:
Subjects listening to truths though the speakers told these things in aggressive and hurtful ways, the listeners tested strong.
WHERE AM I GOING WITH THIS… The rest of the verse says kisses from an enemy do you no good. Regardless of what they say and how good it feels… they are lies.
**So kisses may feel good, but if they are lies you don’t change and even become weaker physically!
Kisses prove nothing.
Kisses mean nothing to a person… they only make you feel good.
Beware of these three kisses
- the kiss of flattery. Just what it is… flattery. It simply makes you feel good, but adds nothing to your character.
- the kiss of comparison. I think you are so much better, smarter, stronger, younger, etc… than the other person.
- The kiss of bitterness dripping in guile
They disapprove of someone and let you know that you are so much better.
Wounds from a friend Don.
Catch the 54 inch Muskie
Pulling up to brag to my other friends…
Hooze quietly mutters “Hex, be humble, remember who caught that fish”